The Boat Analogy: Why You Are Losing Interest In The Spiritual Path

Is it normal if you begin losing interest in the spiritual path? Why does that happen? And what should you do? Here are the different stages.

As somebody that used to meditate for hours everyday when my journey first started, I began to feel like an imposter as I suddenly started losing interest in the spiritual path.

I was doing all these workshops and writing about spirituality, but a part of me had become stagnant. And I was moving away from the very thing that had changed my life.

I would find myself becoming lazy, or using excuses like “busy” to not focus on sitting still. It was a phase that took a lot of time to get out of, but I eventually did.

Recently, as I was working with one of my clients, flashbacks of this phase came to me, as she expressed her own disconnect from the journey.

So, the writer in me was inspired to share something that might help her, and you.

The Stages Of Gaining and Losing Interest In Spirituality

Let’s think of this through an analogy.

Stage 1: The Waters Rising

Let’s say you’re swimming in the waters, and one day, you start getting tired. There’s extreme turbulence and you’re having a tough time keeping your head above the water. At this point, you don’t think you’ll make it. This is where we experience the dark night of the soul, and start having a meltdown.

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Stage 2: Finding The Log

By some miracle or grace, as you keep swimming, you find a log that gives you some support. You latch on for dear life.

This log has the word spirituality written all over it. You have either seen an angel number like I did, read something magical or found something otherworldly, which has opened up a new way of life.

You have officially entered the path.

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Stage 3: Building A Boat

Piece by piece, you find more spiritual insight and gather pieces of floating wood to build a boat. Eventually, you have built a solid spiritual foundation, and have developed an ongoing relationship with the Divine.

You meditate or burn sage, you have crystals that keep your boat nice and shiny. Life is good, and everything is in perfect order.

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Stage 4: Sunny Outside, Dark Inside

This is when the storms quieten around you, and your boat is floating in steady waters. But now that everything’s alright, you decide that you probably don’t need the boat.

It’s too much maintenance and you aren’t able to enjoy the waters with the rest of your friends swimming around you.

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It’s as if you are losing interest in the spiritual path.

You’ll keep the boat around, but you decide to dive back into the water again. At this stage, your ego-mind is suggesting that the ‘old way’ of living wasn’t as bad, and that you should try living that life again.

Of course, you don’t like it. But you have no intention of getting back into the boat – it’s just not worth the consistent self-disciplining and heavy healing!

To many people, this will feel like the dark night of the soul is back again.

Stage 5: Getting Back On The Boat

You eventually come around. You realize that you’re becoming too moody again, and that it isn’t helping you to prolong your healing. You’re worried you’ll become your old self and that all this progress will go to waste.

So, you climb back into the boat you had built. Now, mind you, it’s been a while since you’ve done all this spiritual stuff, so your boat is rocky. There are cracks and more repair work is required.

At this juncture, some people feel worse because they think they’ve lost their path. That’s not true.

I like to call it beginner’s luck. When we first start off on the journey, everything we do seems to help us heal. Every meditation session feels powerful, every spiritual discourse you listen to feels like an AHA moment.

But eventually, when you get back on the boat, you realize that things aren’t as easily helpful. It’s taking you more time. This is natural.

From this stage on, your actual discipline and maintenance is what will determine how your spiritual journey goes on. You’ve had a taste of some of the sunny and stress-free days, but now it is up to you to stay in the boat, take care of it, and keep building it to be stronger and stronger.

It’s important for you to be able to look into the water, and know that that’s one way of living, but to choose to live in the boat instead.

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So, from this point onwards, focus on internalization. Spend just as much time “digesting” the information you consume about spirituality, as you do reading it. A good rule of thumb is to sit down with a pen and paper after any book, video or session and ask yourself, what were my key takeaways?

As you integrate the wisdom in deeper capacities, you don’t need to read as many books as you first did, or jump from one spiritual practice to another. Now, it’s about slowing down and actually putting everything into practice. It’s about building a ship out of this small foundational boat.

To build that ship, remember, that to accelerate in your learning, really slow down. Healing happens the most effectively when it’s not rushed or forced. Grow more and more aware of your window of tolerance, and step into your healing from a place of unconditional self-love.

Are you ready? 🙂

Personal Reflection: Experiencing Amplified Growth After Losing Interest In The Spiritual Path

The biggest revelation I had after losing interest in the spiritual path was that it wasn’t as if the Universe had disconnected itself from me.

The Creator was always around, nudging me and guiding me. But it was me that had stepped back and stopped listening.

If you are in the phase of losing interest too, I want you to know that it’s natural and that you’ll come around. I would also encourage you to put a sincere effort to get back on the boat, by having a REAL conversation with the Universe.

I don’t mean meditating, or journaling. No – these are indirect. What if you actually sat underneath the stars and talked to the Divine Forces?

This is what I mean. And this is why it works.

Going on a date night with the Universe was the turning point for me in my spiritual journey. And I truly believe it can be yours.

Concluding Thoughts

It’s natural to lose interest in the spiritual path, because this experience too is very much a part of the process! And analogies help us look at our life with more animation. I’ve put together some more analogies for you to reflect on life, here and here. I hope they bring you clarity, and give you something to chew on!

And as I always say, if you need somebody to talk to – you have me. I’m just an email or zoom call away from you. 🙂

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Tuning Into Divine Love Through Breathwork, By Suzi N

How can you tap into the all pervasive divine love of the universe through simple breathing exercises and meditation? Read this to know more!

Breathwork, or simple breathing exercises are a great way to tune back into the present moment, as well as to relax yourself into a meditative state. A new spiritual writer, Suzi wrote this wonderful article to relate her recent experience with divine love, and how it happened during her breathing rituals.

I hope you enjoy reading this gentle piece just as much as I did! Here’s what she wrote.

Modern life is hectic. We get caught up in feelings of worry, stress, and fear that block us from living in our naturally compassionate sense of being.

Unfortunately, society has trained us to believe that love is a reward for good behavior. However, this is not the case at all.

Love, the divine kind, is abundant around us and free to take whenever we need it. And it is as easy as taking a breath.

deep breathing helps you tap into the divine love around you

When we bring our attention to the breath and allow ourselves to slow down, the soul will relax into the feeling of love and begin to feel rejuvenated. Peace will lift the soul.

And as the breath continues to expand, so does the love within and around us.

Opening myself up to receiving this divine love has blessed me with the gift of feeling wholehearted love for myself and all other beings. It has helped me feel connected and at peace with the ever-changing, impermanent world around me.

It has expanded my gratitude for life, as I no longer want for more, but indulge myself in the luxuries I am already blessed to have. Each small moment is cherished, as if I were looking back on it as a memory that I wished was still my reality.

This is not to say I am at complete peace, practice is essential. But receiving love from the Divine is teaching me to acknowledge my needs, by pampering my soul with love and then listening for where it is still hurting.

The hurt may be physical, emotional, or they may be nothing left that needs healing. But from that, I am able to discover where I need more love in my life.

Paying attention to the needs within our mind and body strengthens the ability to be present with our thoughts, emotions, and daily life encounters.

As conscious beings, there is a constant stream of thoughts being played about either the past, present, or future. Each having a different impact on our mental state.

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Thoughts of the past will likely bring up feelings of lack, and longing for what once was.

We stream our fondest memories on repeat, making reality seem dull and imperfect. We punish ourselves greatly by reliving feelings of guilt, shame, and regret. Tampering with our reality and blocking ourselves from receiving the joy of the present moment.

Our inability to control the future and constant changing of the world will likely lead to feelings of disappointment when the images of the future we constructed in our heads don’t turn out to be the reality.

Alternatively, anxiously dreading a future event is likely to make us shy away from new experiences and stop us from growing as people.

Being present, however, opens us up to our surroundings and possibilities.

Not only is it easier to hear our own needs, but also the feelings and needs of others. Paying close attention to the words your loved ones speak may reveal a greater meaning behind their words.

We can listen to what they are needing and respond compassionately, resulting in better relationships. It gives us our inner child an opportunity to be impulsive and do things we would normally think twice about.

Being present will help you live your life to the fullest and stretch your gratitude to the moon.

Think about. How would you feel experiencing the unfailing, ever-present love of the Divine? And to know that you have the ability to feel connected to that warmth, whenever you need it?

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Here’s a meditation taught to me by a beautiful instructor that enriched my soul with peace.

Setting the intention to connect to the Divine.

You may not call it Divine.

To you, it may be something else. Source, spirit, creator, God. But to me, the Divine is the elegant spirit that brings the beauty of this world, to life.

Set the intention and be open to receiving the unconditional love of the Divine. May it be poured through my essence with every breath. Finding a comfortable pace, breathe in and out through the mouth.

Inhaling, deep, quenching breaths of life, that open me up to receiving love. Exhaling, loud relaxing breaths, that let go of tension and relax into love. We dance like this for the next 30 minutes.

Music plays to warm and comfort the soul as I relax deeper and deeper into the breath. Aware that nothing has to happen. All I simply have to do is breathe.

Melodies and the ocean sound of my breath, working together to calm the mind. I welcome thoughts as an observer, hear what they have to say, and then let them pass.

Choosing not to get caught up in thought, focusing all attention on the love flowing through my being. Mouth wide, my mind’s eye begins to see golden, glistening light shining down onto me.

An unbreakable connection of love has formed. The tingling sensation of being sun kissed by the Divine encourages my breath to deepen, filling every crevice of my body with the loving light, radiating every cell with peace, love, and freedom.

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Mind, body, and soul cleansed. Nothing but love left behind. A cloud drifting in the skies, dancing with the Divine, becoming one. Working together in perfect harmony to spread divine love around the world.

Our human purpose becoming clear. Love and be loved.

Gracious for the love I now hold within me, my breath returns to normal, in and out through the nose. Swimming in the loving energy within and around me, I place my hands on my heart and call for any negative energy left to surface.

To my grace, nothing but a weightless feeling of love takes over me.

Welcome to the world of feeling love, through a simple breath, in and out through the mouth.

Suzi Newman
Suzi Newman

Suzi is a spiritual writer. She believes everyone has the right to know the power they hold within themselves. Her goal is to help spiritual entrepreneurs spread their message.

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5 New Spiritual Authors Around The Block Worth Reading In 2021

Here’s a list of 5 new spiritual authors worth reading in the new year. Support their work and help them grow!

Every December, I love to share reading recommendations for the new year. And this year I wanted to focus on supporting new spiritual authors.

I’ve been fortunate to be able to spend my time personally working with all these wonderful and kindred souls; getting to know their take on spirituality through their lens. It has been exciting and humbling to find like-minded individuals across the world, making an impact in their corner.

Today, I want to bring their Light in our corner. And encourage you to read some of the works of these new spiritual authors to help you in your journey, as well as to support theirs!

5 New Spiritual Authors Worth Reading in 2021

#1 – Orchid Of Fate by Carleen Marie

Carleen’s memoir is a beautiful and gripping reflection on the process of a Kundalini Awakening. It starts from her childhood and the different ways it impacted her mindset; how it caused physical manifestations in the form of migraines and led to a breaking point in her life. All leading up to her official awakening!

I was amazed by the level of detail and accuracy with which Carleen explains intense, eastern philosophies such as Chakras, Kundalini energy etc, from a scientific angle.

There’s a good blend of story-telling, educational value and a compelling writing that kept me hooked. Check it out. 🙂

#2 – The Band Director’s Lessons About Life by Donald Lee

If you want to pick up one book about teaching spirituality to kids, this is a good place to start. But it’s not just about the parent-children or teacher-student dynamic. There are valuable spiritual lessons for every age.

Donald’s work is a mix of humor and humility, of misadventures and music… and lots of other light-hearted goodness that we can all benefit from.

I highly recommend his book as a bedside read. There are some great reflections after each story, which you can slowly work through every night.

#3 – Hazard by Cosmin Onofrei

Cosmin’s Hazard feels very familiar in ideology to many of the things I talk about, which is why I could relate to the book right away.

It’s a short and insightful book with reflections about life, and will act as a wonderful guide in your spiritual growth.

What I liked most about his work, were the simple yet powerful examples he used from daily life, making his approach to spiritual living very practical. No fluff, just straight-to-the point spiritual truths. A good read for sure! 🙂

#4 – The Way of Existence by Jim Schmidt

I don’t know how I first connected with Jim, but about a year later, we were doing a video together about past lives!

Jim is a mystical and metaphysical author, who relates his past life experiences in his series called the The Way of Existence.

Another interesting fact about his work is that not only is he the author, he has self-published and printed everything himself! His work, in his opinion is not for the masses, but for the special segment who will resonate which such otherworldly ideas.

I was compelled by his writing style, which almost felt like reading a sci-fi story! I had to keep reminding myself that it was a real experience. You will enjoy the spiritual reflections that he shares in between as well. 🙂

#5 – Spirit Animals : 21 Divine Messengers of the Universe by Vasundhra Gupta

I know, I know. I’m self-promoting myself in a way by adding myself to the list. But the thing is, writing a book has been a huge block for me. So big, the Universe had to electrocute me to make me understand my higher calling! So when I finally self-published my first book, it was a big load off my back.

The reason this book needed to happen, was because even though we spend so much time talking about seeing 11:11 on the clock, or praying that a feather falls in our path to make our wish come true, we rarely talk about divine guidance from living beings.

Day-to-day animals like mice, ants and flies all have a spiritual significance. How do you know what that significance is? You take notice of these animals and their behavior.

I’ve talked about this in my pocket-friendly book, sharing tons of tips, personal stories and insight on the magic of spirit animals.

Concluding Thoughts

This year, I realized how profound even the newest writers and authors are around us. We always give the big-shots a chance, and of course we should, but in the upcoming year, consider supporting more local artists and new spiritual authors around you.

I’ve been fortunate to have had the support of many loving readers and clients, that continue to help me help you. If you’d like to learn more ways to help this blog grow, do check out this resource. Thank you for your support!

Oh and, before you go, here are some other reading recommendations for the new year.

Happy reading! 🙂

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