Let me begin by talking about this – what is an identity crisis?
A term coined by Erik Ericson, it’s what people used to call a mid-life crisis a couple of years ago. But now, it has increasingly been happening with younger adults, between their 20’s and early 30’s.
So many people are going to great lengths to ‘be different’, hoping that being by different so audaciously, they may find their true Self.
Many atimes, it stems from the realisation that maybe, life isn’t about this job, or revolving around certain people. It perhaps isn’t about working hard and partying hard. It isn’t what I am doing – but then, what SHOULD I be doing?
The need to understand who we are, and what we’re here to do, can spiral us downwards and lead us into the Dark Night of the Soul, a phenomenon I talked about when I first started this blog.
And if you ask this question to any sane saint, he’ll tell you one thing – DETACH yourself.
How can you let go of your job, your family, money etc? How can you let go of the very things that define you?
It seems insane at first. In a channelled message a few months ago, I talked about why we find it difficult to detach ourselves. However, today I want to talk about how to detach ourselves, using this technique I’ve been trying on myself too.
I’m not a monk or anything ofcourse, but an analogy came to me when I began to reflect on Detachment in meditation. So now, whenever I am flustered by these identity related thoughts, I visualise the Anchor. And it helps! Let’s look at it with my cute stick men. 🙂
Where Have You Placed Your Anchor?
#1 – IS IT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
If it is on another person, you will be disappointed eventually when the nature of the relationship will change.
#2 – IS IT ON A FUTURE MILESTONE?
If it is on a goal, you will feel an identity crisis as soon as you have achieved that goal. “Now what?”, you’ll wonder until you hop onto the next one to comfort this growing inner turmoil.
#3 – IS IT ON SOME ‘THING’?
If it is on a materialistic pleasure, it will soon seize to please you.
#4 – BRING IT BACK TO YOU!
If it is within yourself, it will never fail you. Because as long as YOU are here, you are anchored within your being, no matter what the changes around you, you will be unshakeable.
After all, as the saying goes, that which can be taken away from me, isn’t mine. When we strip down from all these shackles and personalities, what is left, is actually a paradox.
We are no longer ‘limited’ to these things, therefore we are everything! One step closer to finding the Universe within ourselves, eh?
I know my little stick men aren’t the most beautiful to visualise, but hey! Perhaps when you do close your eyes and envision your anchor, they will come to you in their imperfect, silly way and bring you both clarity and smiles. 🙂
When you visualised and brought the anchor back to yourself, everything will be at ease once again. Your identity crisis will seize.
P.S. If you enjoyed these stick figures, don’t forget to check my other silly attempt called Do You Love ‘Too Much’?
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