5 Easy Ways To Be More Happy Every Day

Why we feel lazy and lack energy, and tricks to be more happy every single day!

I have experienced mood swings since the longest time, and I realise that a lot of us do. To be happy everyday is actually not that common.

The worst is, we don’t know what overcomes us! We succumb to these emotional swings and by the end of the day, we feel drained, unhappy and just want to laze around in bed, like a panda.

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Often times, we are not really lazy. We are just very unaware of where and how our energy has been haemorrhaging from the day. It can be anything from internal stress to external factors like toxic communication or unforeseen circumstances.

Read More : How to Deal with Toxic People

Thankfully, this is the year I’ve actually been a lot less lazy, and a lot less in my emotions. Did I do something? Yes! Plenty. But none of it is too ‘tough’. It just requires experiencing for yourself, and being consistent to a degree.

Anyhoo, all the recommendations today are relatively new additions to my daily routine. They work for me, even though I don’t understand too much about how or why, so give them a go and see for yourself!

#1 – Balance Your Chakras

To be honest, I still don’t understand that much about chakras. Other than the fact that Chakras are energy centres in our body which when unbalanced, can make us behave in unbalanced ways.

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For example, not being able to feel compassion is a sign of a blocked Heart Chakra. And not being able to speak up (or speaking too much) are signs of an imbalanced Throat Chakra.

However, what I do know is that this quick, 10-minute Guided Meditation on Chakra Balancing continues to help me start my day on a more relaxed note.

NOTE : Even if you don’t see (in your mind’s eye) any colours as the meditation suggests, don’t worry. The key to a good meditation session is that you feel relaxed afterwards. As long as that’s what happening with you post-balancing your chakras, that’s good enough.

#2 – Use Happy Crystals

I was apprehensive for a couple years, until I saw a giant crystal as a decoration piece at someone’s house. My first thought – that looks really beautiful! And thus, I was hooked.

Again, no expert here, but I do find that being in the presence of Quartz (clear, rose) and Amethyst crystals makes me happy. Black Tourmaline is also a crystal that I work with, to ground and protect my energy. But as they say, you should go for the crystal that you’re most attracted to.

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Personally, I just sit with my crystals during the fore-mentioned Chakra Balancing Meditation, and sometimes I carry a few in my purse when I’m out in public. This keeps my energies protected and balanced. If you’re like me and don’t like being around buzzing markets, crystals help!

One good tip on working with crystals, is to ask permission from each crystal before working with them, because they do have a pure consciousness. And to say a heartfelt thank you, once you’re done!

#3 – Establish Holistic Self-care Practices

Whatever you like to do out of self-love, just keep three perspectives in mind for a holistic experience – Mind, Body & Spirit. This trinity is the real make or break of a balanced and happy life. Here’s what I do, incase you need inspiration.

  • For my mind, I try to read everyday or atleast do something stimulating like craft work, a different kind of recipe, or anything that takes me off auto-pilot for atleast 30 minutes.
  • For my body, yoga and jogging does wonders. Sometimes we have too much energy and it can frustrate us or make us restless. It then gets wasted in the wrong way.

This also cues the opportunity to shamelessly plug in my other popular blog post about my self-care practices, called 7 Daily Habits that Bring Results Immediately.

#4 – Clear Your Un-happy Energy

Though I had been Meditating for years, I wasn’t always feeling my best (as we’ve already established). Then, when I joined the Heartfulness program, they explained why cleaning our energy is also important.

They used a great analogy, saying that imagine yourself to be a glass of water. Due to the events and problems, we can become muddy water.

Meditation helps still this muddy water. Once the mud settles down, it’s important to clean it out as well. And that makes complete sense! No wonder we can feel better after meditation but not necessarily stay in that state of bliss soon after. We haven’t cleared up the mud.

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But, how? They introduced a very simple technique (shared in the next paragraph). In short, it’s about using our intention single-pointedly during visualisation, to release the heaviness within us from our body.

I do also think that their whole 3-step process of meditation, cleaning and prayer work great together as a complete healing experience. So you should try that, instead of just the cleaning! Here are the 3 steps :

  1. Meditation
  2. Cleaning
  3. Prayer (non religious, FYI)

#5 – Invest Your Time in a Journal

I find journaling to be a fool-proof way to express yourself without getting judged. It is also the space where many new thoughts and inspirations come from; from where many solutions arise.

I do have a dedicated post on the different kinds of journaling I like to practice. But for this post, I want to keep it short and sweet, by saying that you can write as little as 5 sentences about how GOOD your day was (gratitude writing), or write 3-pages of emotional venting (Morning Pages).

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They all work wonders, if only you can love yourself enough to sit down for this heart-to-heart with yourself!

These are just some of the things that make a lot of difference in making me happy, lately. How many of these do you already do? 🙂

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Do You ‘Love Too Much’?

You’ll need to ‘see’ this post, just as much you need to ‘read’ it to understand the practical analogy for “if you love too much”.

“I do a lot for other people, but I never feel as appreciated. I feel like I love too much!”

If this sounds like you, keep reading.

Today, we’re going to use an analogy to understand what’s going on. And hopefully, how to overcome it.

NOTE: This analogy is not limited to romantic relationships. But we’re using it, because it’ll be easier to get. You’ll see what I mean!

The Rice Analogy

Imagine that you are a shopkeeper who sells rice.

Why rice, you ask? Because that’s my food of choice. I’m an Asian. Shall we proceed, now?

Okay, so.

One day, your crush comes up to you and asks you for a small bag of rice. Trying to impress, you offer her/him a medium bag. FOR THE PRICE OF A SMALL BAG.

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She walks off happy with your extra rice and heart.

She comes back after a week. This time, she’s brought money for the medium rice. You play it cool, you only give her a medium bag of rice, just like she asked. She walks off disappointed though, and you have a feeling she’s not coming back.

“God, just please bring her back!”

You’ll ‘up’ your game the next time, you promise.
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She doesn’t come back for a couple of weeks, but when she finally does, she’s with a new guy. That’s it! You’ve got to make your best move now! You hand her the large bag of rice, for the price of a medium. New guy – 0, You – 1.

As for your finances, it’s a minus 1. But love conquers all, everyone knows that! Don’t be stingy! Money is an illusion anyway. Right?

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Over time, you both begin to build a good relationship. You share a couple of laughs, have coffee and cute moments like all rice-couples probably do. You’re ‘more than friends’. Or so, you’ve started to believe.

But one day, she’s back at your shop with new guy. And now, you notice he’s got his arm around her. He isn’t new guy anymore, he’s the guy. So, in a moment of panic, you do what you do best. You place an irresistible offer.

You offer a medium bag of rice, free with the large bag, only for the cost of a large. You’re broke anyway at this point, but if you can save this relation, things will be alright.

She’s hesitant. “That’s too much”, she says. You insist that it’s for ‘old-time’s sake’. With a cordial nod, she takes the bags, and they begin to walk away.

But what’s that? She hands the free bag to her guy. Gulp.

You just got LOVE-MUGGED.
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By this point, you’ve invested a LOT of rice in this crush. And your crush has ‘used you’, ended up crush-ing you. And all that free-loading has cost you a huge loss. You are suffering, not just emotionally, but financially too.

One day, a wealthy customer comes up to your shop. Her angelic face is a reflection of her heart of gold. This could have been the love of your life, your partner in crime, the perfect gravy to your rice.

But all the stress finally caught up with you – you’re closing down.

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Does any part of this sound familiar?

I know that it’s a crude way to look at our emotional investment in other people. But unfortunately, we can’t see love like the undervalued rice. We can’t quantify it in bags, and put a price tag on it.

And thus, because of the mistreatment and taken-for-granted relationships, so many people spend their lives doing more than they need to, for those that don’t need it, and thus don’t appreciate it.

“I will never trust/love/marry again”.

By the time life gives them a chance to form better relations, they’re emotionally depleted. Scarred for life! So many people lose their focus from work, go into depression and become victims of substance abuse.

So what’s the takeaway, and how can we overcome this?

Just because you can offer more rice, doesn’t mean the other person needs it.

In reality, the best way to check this is, if you stopped doing some of your out-of-the-way gestures, would this person even notice? Probably not.

Even if they did, it wouldn’t be a deal-breaker for them. The person that’s so used to being ‘spoiled’ might throw a couple of taunts and tantrums, but trust me – they’re not going anywhere! You’ll still be happy together. And imagine what you could do now, with all that spare time/effort!

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Hang out more with the people that enjoy your rice.

Ever heard the saying, “marry someone that loves you, not someone that you love”? Ofcourse you don’t have to enter a pretentious relation where you don’t feel invested, but everyone deserves security.

Whether it’s a friend or romantic interest, if you are constantly admitting that this person is ‘out of your league’, there’s a chance that your rice is made for someone else.

Don’t quit any relations, just go spend more of your time (probably saved from doing less, from the point above) with people that make you feel more loved!

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Don’t close your shop. Use the rice that’s left for yourself. Take a break, and come back with a better brand.

Don’t become ‘cold-hearted’. Don’t become a raging alcoholic. And don’t change yourself!

Use solitude, traveling, new hobbies, new friendships – handle it maturely. Invest your rice, your love in YOU. And the best thing about self-love, is that unlike rice which requires more money and planning, self-love generates on its own overtime, within YOU.

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Self-love is a whole other topic to talk about though. If you’re looking for more ideas, take a look at this video.

This post is dedicated to every single person that’s loved a friend or romantic partner with all their heart, and still lost.

Don’t give up, it wasn’t really a loss. You just haven’t met your kind of people yet.

Keep going 🙂

P.S. Here’s another stickmen analogy about Identity Crisis, check it out!

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