Embracing My Different by Sasha Bulimo

Were you the kid that always moved too much, or had too few friends you could relate to? Sasha’s story will inspire you to embrace your different.

Growing up, I always felt like the odd one out.

In each stage of my development, I was the “new girl” since my parents constantly moved because of their careers. In Kindergarten, I struggled to relate to the other children.

In Elementary, I was left alone on the playground.

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In high school, I established a circle of friends which maintained that much needed social interaction, but I was ultimately unsatisfied.

When reading this story, you may have wanted to relate my uniqueness to some sort of developmental issue, mental health disorder, or family problem. However, that was not the case.

Someone looking at my life would see a “normal” girl with a good family, but internally I was different.

I THOUGHT differently, I QUESTIONED everything, and my mind constantly tried to give meaning to everything around me. I felt like I was born with a different lens, seeing multiple perspectives and dimensions of the world.

Being an outsider led me to feel isolated, unwanted, and powerless.

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When I was unenlightened, I used my time wallowing in depression and anger, questioning God as to why I was made like this. My favourite question was “why wasn’t I made normal?”

Being unique presented me with two choices.

Either, I could step into my power and use my distinctive nature as a tool for success. Or I could reject my true self and live a life of lies trying to chase what is common.

My different lens led me to start questioning the religion I was raised in: Christianity. I started asking myself necessary questions such as “Who is Jesus?” or “Do I have to go to Church every Sunday?“.

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At first this scared me, because I was told to NEVER “question God”, but in reality I was questioning the barrier (Religion) that came between me and God (the Universe).

The only answer that made sense to me was spirituality.

When I discovered spirituality, everything that I experienced began to make sense. I finally felt like I belonged.

I was in a space where I could feed my soul with wholehearted love, knowledge, and strength. I stepped into a position of power.

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All my questions were answered, all my thoughts were validated, and my mind received the meaning I was looking for all along.

From spirit guides, to the Law of Attraction, even to soulmates; everything I encountered made sense. I finally found my power and stepped into it fully.

Embracing my different led me to find my passion, and most importantly, my purpose. As a result, I have dedicated my life to providing tools to those who have also lived their lives with a different lens.

In a very simple way, if I had to break this down for you, here’s what I’d suggest.

How To Embrace Your Different:

#1 – Discover what you truly enjoy doing

#2 – Dedicate your life’s purpose to it

#3 – Start setting your own life goals and standards of success

#4 – Reject all people and things that don’t support you

#5 – Be confident in your truth

Being different does not have to be a death sentence. As you evolve, things will get better and you will:

Find your tribe,

Discover your purpose, and

Become the person you have always wanted to be.

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Sasha Bulimo is completing her BSc in Human Ecological Studies, and plans to travel and teach, while spreading knowledge and her love of Spirituality to as many people as she can.

She is the creator of Black Girl Who Manifests and you can find their content on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

5 Easy Things To Do, to Start Feeling Happier Every Day

Why we feel lazy and lack energy, and tricks to feel happier every single day!

I have experienced mood swings since the longest time, and I realise that a lot of us do. The worst is, we don’t know what overcame us! We succumb to these swings and by the end of the day, we feel drained, unhappy and just want to laze around in bed, like a panda.

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Often times, we are not really lazy. We are just very unaware of where and how our energy has been haemorrhaging from the day. It can be anything from internal stress to external factors like toxic communication or unforeseen circumstances.

Thankfully, this is the year I’ve actually been a lot less lazy, and a lot less in my emotions. Did I do something? Yes! Plenty. But none of it is too ‘tough’. It just requires experiencing for yourself, and being consistent to a degree.

Anyhoo, all the recommendations today are relatively new additions to my daily routine. They work for me, even though I don’t understand too much about how or why, so give them a go and see for yourself!

#1 – Balance Your Chakras

To be honest, I don’t know too much about this, other than the fact that Chakras are energy centres in our body which when unbalanced, can make us behave in unbalanced ways.

For example, not being able to feel compassion is a sign of a blocked Heart Chakra. And not being able to speak up (or speaking too much) are signs of an imbalanced Throat Chakra.

However, what I do know is that this quick, 10-minute Guided Meditation on Chakra Balancing continues to help me start my day on a more relaxed note.

NOTE : Even if you don’t see (in your mind’s eye) any colours as the meditation suggests, don’t worry. The key to a good meditation session is that you feel relaxed afterwards. As long as that’s what happening with you post-balancing your chakras, that’s good enough.

#2 – Work with Crystals

I was apprehensive for a couple years, until I saw a giant crystal as a decoration piece at someone’s house. My first thought – that looks really beautiful! And thus, I was hooked.

Again, no expert here, but I do find that Quartz (clear, rose) and Amethyst crystals make me feel a lot better. Black Tourmaline is also a crystal that I work with, to ground and protect my energy. But as they say, you should go for the crystal that you’re most attracted to.

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Personally, I just sit with my crystals during the fore-mentioned Chakra Balancing Meditation, and sometimes I carry a few in my purse when I’m out in public. This keeps my energies protected and balanced. If you’re like me and don’t like being around buzzing markets, crystals help!

One good tip on working with crystals, is to ask permission from each crystal before working with them, because they do have a pure consciousness. And to say a heartfelt thank you, once you’re done!

#3 – Establish Holistic Self-care Practices

Whatever you like to do out of self-love, just keep three perspectives in mind for a holistic experience – Mind, Body & Spirit. This trinity is the real make or break of a balanced life. Here’s what I do, incase you need inspiration.

  • For my mind, I try to read everyday or atleast do something stimulating like craft work, a different kind of recipe, or anything that takes me off auto-pilot for atleast 30 minutes.
  • For my body, yoga and jogging does wonders. Sometimes we have too much energy and it can frustrate us or make us restless. It then gets wasted in the wrong way.

This also cues the opportunity to shamelessly plug in my other popular blog post about my self-care practices, called 7 Daily Habits that Bring Results Immediately.

#4 – Clear Your Energy

Though I had been Meditating for years, I wasn’t always feeling my best (as we’ve already established). Then, when I joined the Heartfulness program, they explained why cleaning our energy is also important.

They used a great analogy, saying that imagine yourself to be a glass of water. Due to the events and problems, we can become muddy water.

Meditation helps still this muddy water. Once the mud settles down, it’s important to clean it out as well. And that makes complete sense! No wonder we can feel better after meditation but not necessarily stay in that state of bliss soon after. We haven’t cleared up the mud.

But, how? They introduced a very simple technique (shared in the next paragraph). In short, it’s about using our intention single-pointedly during visualisation, to release the heaviness within us from our body.

I do also think that their whole 3-step process of meditation, cleaning and prayer work great together as a complete healing experience, and you should try that, instead of just the cleaning! Here are the 3 steps :

  1. Meditation
  2. Cleaning
  3. Prayer (non religious, FYI)

#5 – Invest Your Time in a Journal

I find journaling to be a fool-proof way to express yourself without getting judged. It is also the space where many new thoughts and inspirations come from; from where many solutions arise.

I do have a dedicated post on the different kinds of journaling I like to practice. But for this post, I want to keep it short and sweet, by saying that you can write as little as 5 sentences about how GOOD your day was (gratitude writing), or write 3-pages of emotional venting (Morning Pages).

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They all work wonders, if only you can love yourself enough to sit down for this heart-to-heart with yourself!

These are just some of the things that make a lot of difference, lately. How many of these do you already do? 🙂

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Will Getting Married Impact Your Spiritual Growth?

Should you get married if you are on the spiritual path? What is the role of marriage in our spiritual journey? Is it necessary to have a partner?

It is a widespread (thankfully, now becoming corrected) notion that spirituality equals renouncing everything and becoming a monk.

Should someone that’s trying to transcend the world still buy Nike shoes and go on expensive dinners?

Truth is, spirituality isn’t about resisting your life, it’s about transcending it.

How? Let’s look at a simple example – eating chips or popcorn. Most of us grab a handful and stuff our faces with the crispy goodness, not even chewing properly. Now, if you were to look at a video of yourself eating popcorn at the movies, you might be taken aback and cringe.

Conscious living is pretty much that – watching yourself like a movie, as often as you can. The behaviours you don’t like, when you see with your own eyes, will reduce and eventually stop, or transform into something better.

The desires you have, the materialism you seek must also be transcended – at your own pace.

What about marriage – can we transcend our life with a partner by our side?

With the Mirror Technique, we can.

Self-awareness would not have been possible, we would not be able to see our true nature, had it not been for others around us. We are able to reflect on our behaviour, our mistakes, our grudges and resentments, only because people give us that opportunity.

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Yes, loving relations are the sign of a healthy and happy life, but they are not available to all of us, for the simple fact that we are yet to apply the mirror technique.

The mirror technique simply means, stop seeing the other person’s actions and instead start seeing your reactions. What arises within you whenever they act; WHY are you angry? WHY are you jealous? WHY are you insecure?

Use every interaction with another person as an opportunity to meet yourself with greater depth.

And that’s when real healing begins.

How can you know your ability to forgive if someone doesn’t hurt you?

How can you overcome your jealousy if you didn’t even experience it, if you didn’t share that kind of intimacy in the first place?

Resistance is delaying, preventing yourself from experiencing the darkest side of your being. And just like music – the deeper you can sing on the scale, the higher you’ll be able to hit on the octave too. And so is life – you cannot know your light, until you face your darkness.

And what better a way, than with a partner who you’ve committed to live with, till death do you part? If you don’t believe me, Justin Timberlake has written an entire song about it to explain this! Check it out.

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This person will push your buttons at every step of the way – right from conflicts over room temperatures and changing baby diapers at midnight, to who-said-what’s and then some…

Come to think of it – they will really help you apply all kinds of spiritual techniques.

Thanks to all the ups and downs, you’ll remember God a lot more. I mean how often do you remember God when life’s smooth?

You’ll learn to surrender when your partner is stubborn.

You’ll trust the process when your partner is making a mess-up.

You’ll learn to co-create and co-habitat, just as humans are designed to do, thus overriding your ego.

And you’ll learn the truest form of unconditional love and devotion, when you fall in love with your partner and children, each time in a greater capacity.

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To understand this better, let me quote Sadhguru, as he explains in his mystical book called, Adiyogi,

There was a difference between her [Parvati] and the sages; she was in love with him [Shiva] and the sages were in love with what he had [mastery over Self]. Because of her level of perception and receptivity, Shiva took her directly to the peak of attainment [Enlightenment through love].

Whether we go hunting for Enlightenment in a cave, or in the solitude of a room at home, the end-goal is attainable. Because it isn’t the outside dynamics that matter; it all comes down to one thing – the inner thirst for this quest.

Ofcourse, to each their own, but the kind of lives we’ve signed up for don’t exactly permit the kind of extremism anymore, which sages and monks once practised.

We’ve got to find our peace here, and now.

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Getting married whilst on a spiritual pursuit is like a double ‘challenge accepted’.

It’s about balancing the hermit and the materialistic sides in you.

And at the same time, it is the best of both worlds. 🙂

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