Should Spiritual People Get Married?

To hermit, or to co-habitat?

It is a widespread (thankfully, now becoming corrected) notion that spirituality equals renouncing everything and becoming a monk.

Should someone that’s trying to transcend the world still buy Nike shoes and go on expensive dinners?

Truth is, spirituality isn’t about resisting your life, it’s about transcending it.

How? Let’s look at a simple example – eating chips or popcorn. Most of us grab a handful and stuff our faces with the crispy goodness, not even chewing properly. Now, if you were to look at a video of yourself eating popcorn at the movies, you might be taken aback and cringe.

Conscious living is pretty much that – watching yourself like a movie, as often as you can. The behaviours you don’t like, when you see with your own eyes, will reduce and eventually stop, or transform into something better.

The desires you have, the materialism you seek must also be transcended – at your own pace.

What about marriage – can we transcend our life with a partner by our side?

With the Mirror Technique, we can.

Self-awareness would not have been possible, we would not be able to see our true nature, had it not been for others around us. We are able to reflect on our behaviour, our mistakes, our grudges and resentments, only because people give us that opportunity.

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Yes, loving relations are the sign of a healthy and happy life, but they are not available to all of us, for the simple fact that we are yet to apply the mirror technique.

The mirror technique simply means, stop seeing the other person’s actions and instead start seeing your reactions. What arises within you whenever they act; WHY are you angry? WHY are you jealous? WHY are you insecure?

Use every interaction with another person as an opportunity to meet yourself with greater depth.

And that’s when real healing begins.

How can you know your ability to forgive if someone doesn’t hurt you?

How can you overcome your jealousy if you didn’t even experience it, if you didn’t share that kind of intimacy in the first place?

Resistance is delaying, preventing yourself from experiencing the darkest side of your being. And just like music – the deeper you can sing on the scale, the higher you’ll be able to hit on the octave too. And so is life – you cannot know your light, until you face your darkness.

And what better a way, than with a partner who you’ve committed to live with, till death do you part? If you don’t believe me, Justin Timberlake has written an entire song about it to explain this! Check it out.

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This person will push your buttons at every step of the way – right from conflicts over room temperatures and changing baby diapers at midnight, to who-said-what’s and then some…

Come to think of it – they will really help you apply all kinds of spiritual techniques.

Thanks to all the ups and downs, you’ll remember God a lot more. I mean how often do you remember God when life’s smooth?

You’ll learn to surrender when your partner is stubborn.

You’ll trust the process when your partner is making a mess-up.

You’ll learn to co-create and co-habitat, just as humans are designed to do, thus overriding your ego.

And you’ll learn the truest form of unconditional love and devotion, when you fall in love with your partner and children, each time in a greater capacity.

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To understand this better, let me quote Sadhguru, as he explains in his work, Adiyogi,

There was a difference between her [Parvati] and the sages; she was in love with him [Shiva] and the sages were in love with what he had [mastery over Self]. Because of her level of perception and receptivity, Shiva took her directly to the peak of attainment [Enlightenment through love].

Whether we go hunting for Enlightenment in a cave, or in the solitude of a room at home, the end-goal is attainable. Because it isn’t the outside dynamics that matter; it all comes down to one thing – the inner thirst for this quest.

Ofcourse, to each their own, but the kind of lives we’ve signed up for don’t exactly permit the kind of extremism anymore, which sages and monks once practised.

We’ve got to find our peace here, and now.

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Getting married whilst on a spiritual pursuit is like a double ‘challenge accepted’.

It’s about balancing the hermit and the materialistic sides in you.

And at the same time, it is the best of both worlds. 🙂

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Spiritual Awakening : My Story

Disclaimer : I am a skeptic by nature, and thus write like one. Please bare with my sarcasm!

11:11 on the clock.

I’d always heard my American friends call it a lucky number, saying “make a wish!” It was that very day, 27th April 2017, where I’d seen the number and wondered if the Universe’s Wishing Foundation was really a thing, or we were just talking Santa for adults. Lasting no longer than a moment’s thought, I shrugged it off.

A while later, I had time to spare. So as I was aimlessly browsing through a website about human psychology and relations, for no specific reason, I started reading a blog that talked about God’s plan. And again for no exact reason, I scrolled down, and came across a comment from someone talking about ‘Twin Flames’. The anonymous person described it in a way that made me curious, but I got back to work, and forget about this too, just as quickly.

By night, the phrase Twin Flames was spinning in my head, I couldn’t get it out. So I looked it up, and the first article I saw, was from a website, which had 1111 in its URL. I had goosebumps! This would be my first encounter with ‘Divine Synchronicities’.

What I was reading was so unusual and weird at the time, I was hesitant. As my conflicted thoughts began to grow, I decided to end my browsing for the night. And there, on the clock, once again, was 11:11, staring back at wide-eyed me. It was a full circle.

Later that night, as I lay with my eyes closed and heart palpating wildly with the possibility of this not being a coincidence, I remember feeling my forehead tickle and tingle, and then seeing a beautiful pinkish-purple flower with countless petals just spinning majestically in my mind’s eye, before I blacked-out into a deep sleep.

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This is the story of the day I was pulled into the unbelievable world of Signs, Synchronicities, Angel Numbers, Healing, Meditation and more. You’re either a believer here, or a skeptic. Within the span of a year, I’ve moved from the latter (extremist) to the former (extremist, once again).

Let’s start with the word Spiritual Awakening. What does it mean?

To me, this was my awakening to a couple of things:

One, out of nowhere, a higher intelligence had gathered keen interest in my life, and was guiding me. I couldn’t see or hear anyone, but the power was inspiring my thoughts in some way, for sure! Whenever I listened to the guidance, I would see an undeniable ‘affirmation’, or what we casually call a sign/omen.

Two, 11:11 is a real thing afterall. If you’re seeing it too – welcome home! Your life’s going to transform magnificently very soon.

Three, it’s not easy to talk about it. We are Spiritual Beings living a Human Experience, but the kind of amnesia we’ve been put under has made us extreme skeptics. Nevertheless, through sharing my own experiences, I hope to put forward a strong case overtime, of why this stuff is more real than you’d like to believe.

And four, you can’t undo this. It becomes a part of you. You will be happier, the sooner you learn to integrate your two contradictory worlds into one. By writing this blog, that’s exactly what I’m trying to do for myself too.

Why was I Spiritually Awakened? Can it happen to you, too?

I asked for it, and yes, you can experience this too. How it comes to you, will be unique in its own way. But you holding the desire for a Spiritual journey is in itself, an invitation to begin this journey. Wait and watch – it shall unfold beautifully in due time!

I asked for it, because at that point, I had lost direction in my life. I was miserable within, and craved for answers. What am I supposed to do, if I’m not enjoying myself doing something that others around me find fulfilling to them? Unsatisfied at work, unsatisfied with relations, no matter how hard I tried, no matter how much I engaged myself in fitness, learning new things or meeting new people, I felt like something was eating up my mind. I just wasn’t at peace. I tried gratitude writing and I tried walking in nature – all temporary fixes.

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Something was very off, and I didn’t know what. What psychology might classify as depression, is spiritually called the ‘Dark Night of the Soul’. It was time for change.

So I asked for it – I asked the Universe what the point of my life was. And surely, it humbled me with answers, directed to me overtime with utmost subtlety and conviction.

What were my initial discoveries during this Spiritual Awakening?

At the very start – there were two things that met me.

To begin with, I learned about ‘Angel Numbers’. If you were to hear voices in your head, you’d think you’re crazy. So, we have Angel Numbers, which are believed to be messages from Angels, who wish to communicate with you by catching your skeptical mind’s attention through repeating numbers that come to you in your day-to-day life. The most common sightings are usually license plates of cars, and the clock! This is the first form of communication I had unknowingly received, that day.

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For most people, these start appearing as series of digits, such as 1111, 2222, 3333, etc. You might see the same number a dozen times in a few days, which is your queue – the Angels have a message, and it’s time to listen! Each number will have a certain meaning for you, and provided you put some effort to understand them, you can be Divinely Guided to transform your life. Since this has become the basis of my decision-making ever since, I want to do it full justice, and even teach you how to make the most of the Divine Numbers! So I’ll talk about all this in much greater length, in a future post.

Second, I came across an interesting technique of meditation using ‘Solfeggio Frequencies’. I’ll admit – when you’re beginning the practice, sitting alone in your own quietude and meditating is very difficult (and can get old fast). On the contrary, concentrating on a dedicated piece of music can magnify your attention span quite rapidly.

Solfeggio music is designed at specific frequencies, thought to heal various parts of your body and energy. It was through this meditation, and then some other techniques which I slowly experimented with (watch this video if you’re looking for inspiration), that I began to feel a growing sense of peace, the one I’d been missing all this while. I’d close my eyes and see beautiful nebulae and auroras in my mind’s eyes. I felt like a part of me was exploring outer space. I never knew so many colors could exist!

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I didn’t know what the benefit of any of this was, but even per science, meditation is good for you. And I kept going at it, a few minutes almost everyday, long enough to discover much deeper secrets it holds. This too, shall be spoken about at later points.

Did this ‘Awakening’ make things any better?

A major difference I saw, was not just an improvement in mental health and a rising hope for a direction in life, but my physical health and overall reality began to change, too. Here’s how :

  1. I shed a LOT of weight. I went down 2 whole points on the BMI scale.
  2. My diet preferences changed. For the first few months, my body repelled oily or heavy foods. Most of my diet became fruits and salads-based. Overtime this normalized ofcourse, but that shift gave a huge boost to my health.
  3. I became conscious. While most of my life, I had been living on autopilot from one day to the other, now, I was aware of what I was feeling, what I was doing, at almost every moment. I wasn’t just annoyed or just happy, I was also growing aware and acknowledging mentally, that something is making me happy, and something wasn’t. This meant, everything around me became more real than ever. And I was more conscious in making my choices in general, which often led to more regret, because I realized how many poor choices I had grown accustomed to making, on autopilot.
  4. My energy levels started fluctuating tremendously when I was around people. Till date, there are days when I feel like I’m living worth 5 days at a time, and on others, I simply stay in and sleep. Energy is a crazy thing, and just like most of the spiritual workers out there, I’m still figuring out how to deal with it.
  5. My psychic senses began to clear up. (Wait, what? Well this escalated quickly!) By psychic senses, let me help you understand at a very high-level about the ones I have developed personally:
    1. Clairsentience – heightened awareness of other people’s sentiments, even if they don’t admit it themselves. This is basically what we call being (really) good at empathy.
    2. Clairvoyance – having visions about an event in the future that later manifests. This happens to me during meditations and some of my dreams, and no – I can’t tell you what your future is. I just see bits and pieces of important events that are coming up for me in my journey, and thus guided to prepare better for them.

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    3. Intuitiveness – when you begin trusting this Higher State’s guidance, you notice that you are more in-tune with it. You can trust your ‘gut-feeling’ a lot more now, and you don’t need to worry about why you feel something so strongly. You just obey.
    4. Telepathy – ofcourse not at every moment, and not very extensively, because that would drive me (or anyone) crazy. But it is rapidly becoming easier to catch hold of a person’s thought just a second before they say it out-loud. The funny thing is, I am not necessarily close to that person. As long as I’m in a clear state of mind, these telepathic moments keep coming to me.

These were the initial changes, ofcourse. Overtime, there has been a lot more that’s shifted in my life!

Basically, Spiritual Awakening has opened the gates of communication with the Universe. And that’s why, I like to say “the Universe talks to me, and I’d be a fool not to listen”.

I’ve touched very briefly about a lot of things above, and there’s yet a lot more to come. Let’s take them one step at a time in the future.

Thanks for stopping by!

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