When Renee reached out to me, I had no idea what I could do to help her understand her brother’s spiritual journey. But she did spark a huge realization. That no matter how empathic and spiritual we believe ourselves to be, our awakening has a bigger impact on our loved ones than we can imagine. And that it becomes our responsibility to help people around understand this spiritual awakening, to bridge this growing gap in the physical plane.
So, I reached out to every single person I could think of who would have some pieces to add to the puzzle. Every volunteer shared their perspective while answering the following set of questions:
- When did you have your spiritual awakening?
- In what ways did your behaviour change?
- Who were the main people to be most affected by your awakening?
- In what ways were your changes affecting the people around you?
- Looking back at that time, what would you do differently to help them understand your journey better?
- How has your relation evolved with your loved ones ever since your first stage of awakening?
- How can the family of the person undergoing an awakening deal with the rapid changes in a better way? What advice do you have based on your experience?
- If you’d like to share a testimonial or insight directly from your loved ones, you can email me separately.
- Is there anything else you’d like to add?
I’ve leveraged the answers to these questions in completing this book.
Collectively, our experiences are from anywhere between a few months of awakening, to several years!
Having said that, it is true that the research and depth of this will be never-ending. I don’t want to let my perfectionist stop me from hitting the publish button, because I believe that done is better than perfect.
So, consider this as a starting point in understanding the scope of a spiritual awakening and its impact on relationships.
The resource is written keeping both readers in mind – those that are undergoing an awakening, and those that surround this person and struggle to understand what’s going on. Throughout the book, I address those people as the “awaking” because I believe it’s a domino effect.
It might start with one person, but it has a ripple effect on every person the awakened one meets. And through that, as the saying goes (and I paraphrase), we transcend generations of ancestral trauma and heal the world around us.
One awakening at a time.
An extract from the book, Homecoming: A Spiritual Guide for the Awakened & Awaking
“I mean, what does it even mean to “wake up”?
Well, there’s no standard definition because the experience is very personal for every person. But what I can explain it as, is finally becoming more present in the moment and being able to see the different habits and patterns that form our reality. And then realizing that we have a choice to behave differently from our past patterns.
This is “spiritual” in that we also come to terms with something “higher” looking after us and facilitating our journey so we can keep evolving and learning from life.
Some may call this power God, others may say it’s the “Universe”. When we dial into that higher stream of consciousness, we are compelled to reevaluate our material needs and the impermanent nature of everything. This also catalyzes an inner wonder and curiosity about other, subtler possibilities beyond this dimension of space and time.
What does all that mean?
Think of your life as being on “autopilot” for most parts. So, you might sit in the car and drive home, but because you’re on autopilot, you might not even realize when you got home.
I mean, you will know you did. But if you had to explain your drive home, you might not be able to give much detail.
That’s because the mind has evolved to register our everyday nuances as involuntary actions and experiences, so that it can focus on something else.
It’s good for us… until it’s not.
It’s not a problem in the sense that we don’t want to have to “rethink” how to open a door or switch gears in the car. But some of our actions in relationships go on autopilot too.
Do you ever find yourself having the same argument over and over again? Only to realize you’re not going anywhere.
This observation is called “awareness”.
And when you have a spiritual awakening, it’s like becoming hyper-aware of your surroundings. You just wake up one day and realize how much of your life has been on autopilot.
There are so many flavours to this awareness, as it heightens.
You could become aware of your toxic relationships, of your emotional outbursts, of the limitations you have taken on because of your past conditioning.
This all leads to a LOT of inner turmoil. And as a result, most people find themselves experiencing an identity crisis.
Who are we, if not someone’s partner?
Who are we, if not for our day jobs?
And who are we, if not the habits we used to swear by?
This immense amount of questioning can lead to bigger questions, like the purpose of life, why you’re here on Earth, and then some. And to be honest, we should be asking those questions much sooner. But it typically takes an external turmoil to “shake us awake”.
That could be a bad breakup or the loss of a loved one to death. It could mean being intensely bored at your job, or something else.
In some circumstances, it could also just be the need of the hour. For me, I had a perfect life, on paper. I was in a high-respect corporate job and was surrounded by amazing friends and family.
And yet, something felt incomplete. I’ve shared more of my story here.
But the crux of all this is – when you are undergoing a spiritual awakening, you begin to lose all ground and clarity.
Even the smallest decisions seem very challenging. And in all this inner turmoil, it is vital to be able to talk about everything with people you trust.
It took me nearly a year before I started openly sharing my spiritual journey with friends and family. I would’ve loved to share this sooner, but I was afraid of being called “crazy”.
Of course, when I did share, none of that happened. People were receptive, even though most of them didn’t really get what I was going through.
I wish that same level of support for every person who comes on this path, though that doesn’t always happen. This is why I’m compelled to put together a few words on the topic.”
(end of extract)
This extract is from the introduction section of the book. We go much deeper into the different mindsets and challenges that happen during the spiritual journey, as well as insights on overcoming the separation that we experience with loved ones.
You can download the book from Amazon (available worldwide), or through the blog as a PDF, here.
Concluding Thoughts
We cannot and should not walk this path alone. Of the different realizations I have had over the course of my journey, one is that we believe we are much lonelier than we really are. Simply because we don’t know how to talk to people around us about all these woo-woo things and share our worldview with them.
And yet, as the world wakes up, more and more people long for deeper, meaningful conversations about life, and beyond. The word “meditation” has more Google clicks than ever!
So now, more than ever, we need to open up and help people around us understand our spiritual awakening. This is one of the core intents of the book. There’s a lot more too, I do hope you’ll read and enjoy this work.
Hold space for the ones that are waking up – build your tribe, both within your circle of known ones, and beyond them. And just know that I am holding space for your journey too. Let’s walk into Oneness together, shall we?
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