10 Essential Qualities to Look For In An Authentic Spiritual Coach

How do you know you’ve found an authentic healer or spiritual mentor? And what are the best practices every lightworker should undertake in helping others?

I’ve visited a variety of spiritual mentors, healers and life coaches over the course of my journey and made some observations. This year, as I too, step into the role of a spiritual coach, I’ve been reflecting on the kind of experience I want to create for people that reach out to me.

This is the foundation I want to set, as a bare minimum. And what you should expect, whether you work with me, or anyone else.

And if you’re a lightworker stepping up in the spiritual community as a healer or coach yourself, this also acts as a checklist of what people will look up to you for.

Note: This post isn’t about medical professions like therapists and counselors that follow different formal guidelines and an ethical code of conduct. A relationship with a healer or spiritual coach will be much more personal.

#1 – The right spiritual coach will push your buttons.

Every time I talk to my healer, I have to push down my ego, because boy, it feels attacked! When inner work and healing is initially triggered through another person, it can feel like being shown the mirror, in a deep and moving way. The ego doesn’t like it, but it’s essential for your soul.

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I learned about the depth of this while reading Paramhans Yogananda‘s experiences with his own teacher, and how hard it was for him to navigate the journey.

Good spiritual mentors can intuitively see our gaps in a way we cannot, because they’ve done their own intensive healing. They can see straight through the ego-mind and all its gimmicks.

If they’ve been doing their inner work long enough, they won’t be afraid to bring out these shadow aspects to you.


#2 – When they push your buttons, you’ll be inspired to take action.

I know every healer or coach has their own approach, but compassion plays a big part in the way any truth is delivered to us. It’s one thing to reveal someone’s shadow side to them, but it’s even more imperative to help them see it with kindness and persistence.

I don’t resonate with coaches that demean the person, yell at them or threaten them as a ‘tactic’ to make them overcome shortcomings.

A good spiritual mentor must be heart-centered.

One who not only directs you towards what’s better for you but makes sure you get there NOW! (Or yesterday, if they had it their way)


#3 – They’ll be generous in helping you heal.

I am all for earning as a spiritual practitioner, but there’s also a fine line between earning versus becoming greedy. Some people have turned a sacred profession into a business, and if that’s the vibe you get from the person you visit, they don’t qualify to serve you.

An authentic spiritual mentor understands that they are an infinite and abundant being of wisdom, and you can never draw enough from their sacred well. They will thus, NOT scramble to share their wisdom, but offer it generously.
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I’ve spent hours outside my sessions with her, and my healer never hesitates to impart the best of what she can at any given moment.

Caveat: That’s her level of generosity, but it may not be another’s. Nevertheless, you should feel satiated, not unheard in every interaction.


#4 – They won’t keep upselling services to make you stay longer. They will empower you to serve yourself (and others).

If you feel like you’re always investing a lot of money, and always hearing about how you’ll heal once you do their next workshop, trust me – they’re not worth your while.

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You won’t need to spend endless money into your healing, to no avail. A few modalities into the work, you’ll begin experiencing greater self-awareness and feel more confident to work independently on yourself.

Also, if a healer guarantees a quick-fix to your problem, that THEY can heal you, there’s something fundamentally missing.

We can only give you tools, but you’re the one trying them. And YOU will be the one that heals yourself.


#5 – Your spiritual coach will be from your soul family.

You may have never met them before, but once you do, they’ll fit right into your life. You will be able to open up about things that you couldn’t have with anyone else, even if you’re just slowly beginning to trust this person.

Think of it like this, that even though there are countless spiritual teachers in the world, not everyone can resonate with just one teacher. Every teacher, based on the extent of his or her own inner work, will be able to serve a group of people.

That group may or may not be yours. But you have your own group, and you’ll know when you find it.

After I met my healer, I knew an important soul contract had come into fruition. Conversations happen at a different depth and dimension.

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#6 – They will LISTEN more than they speak.

Everyone that goes to a spiritual coach first goes to be heard, then to be healed. No exceptions.

Sure, a mentor is knowledgeable, but there’s an important lesson every genuine teacher knows. And it’s the art of listening.

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You cannot teach unless you know where to begin. Your coach should be asking you lots of questions, getting to know parts of you that you may have not reflected on yourself before, and have a consistent curiosity to learn more about you so that they can help you better.

Most importantly, they will not be quick to push solutions on you and treat you like a ‘classic case’.

Side Note to Healers: Don’t make coaching revolve around your experiences. It’s nice to share a lot of personal stories, but the ultimate goal isn’t to make it about ourselves, it’s to make it about the person we’re helping. So be mindful of what you share and make sure it only benefits the person in their life.


#7 – A good spiritual mentor will practice what they preach.

It’s easy to talk, but true healing and inner work is a process. An unhealed healer does more harm than good simply because they’re going to project their opinion on you, and talk to you from a place that’s still hurting.

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Some examples are:

  • If a person talks about compassion but on the contrary is getting a Spiritual high from insulting you (because that’s their style), you better get yourself out of that space. There’s nothing sacred about it.
  • If somebody keeps making disappointing faces when you tell your story, in a way that’s making you cover-up your truth and grow protective, they’re NOT your healer.
  • If a person brags or boasts about their own healing capacities (all talk, no display), or if you sense the fluff, they are NOT the right healer for you.

When you connect with somebody that is non-judgemental, compassionate and humble, it’s safe to say that you’ve found your person.


#8 – A genuine spiritual coach will also have their own mentor.

Our learning NEVER stops, because we are constantly evolving. Enlightenment isn’t a destination, it’s actually the beginning of a journey of authenticity, accountability, and awareness.

So no matter how good you get in any profession, having a mentor is key to your growth. Then, one good way to gauge whether someone is worth investing your time and money in, is by understanding how invested they are in their own development.

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Even if your coach doesn’t have a personal coach, they will at least be eager and open to learning new things. And what’s the best way you can tell that? They will bring more to the table, every.single.time! It shouldn’t feel like they’re repeating the same two lines like a broken record.


#9 – A good mentor will not feel threatened by you.

It’s natural to feel apprehensive and want to ask deep, challenging questions.

I’m not suggesting you be rude, but you can take your time to trust this person. If a healer or spiritual coach gets easily provoked or acts from a place of self-defense when you raise questions, they aren’t ready to help you. It’s evidence that they are not in their power.

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At other times, a person just doesn’t click, even if they’re really good and may have been recommended by someone you trust.

But a genuine healer is powerful, grounded and confident enough to know that you may or may not resonate with each other. Which means you’re always welcome to move-on. If you’re getting a desperate, needy or clingy vibe from them, you’ll know they’re not the one.


#10 – They will NOT act supreme or holier than thou.

Having a Spiritual Ego is counterintuitive. But it does happen to the best of us. Which is why, whether you’re taking spiritual advice, or the one giving it, it can easily begin to sound preachy.

Whoever you seek help from should be grounded, admitting to not always having answers, and accepting if ever they were wrong. Is being wrong a big deal? No. But accepting it can be.

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The same goes for wisdom. A healer might listen to you and not know how to help you right away. However, through openness and determination, they may be able to guide you through tools that start bringing results.

Concluding Thoughts

Having spent a lot of money on my healing, I can tell you this. It can take you a while before you find the right mentor for your journey. Don’t stop searching! And it’s okay to have multiple mentors or to keep evolving and needing someone wiser to coach you.

Very few people are fortunate to have a consistent mentor for years on end, someone that can continue shaking them.

At the end of the day, a healer shows you how powerful you’ve been all along, that you were acting like a victim!

As you experience that power for yourself, they will cheer you on and let you move forward to do your thing. But they will always be remembered as one of the most significant people in your journey back Home. πŸ™‚

Should you feel inclined to work with me, and give me an opportunity to be of service to you, you’re welcome to setup a complimentary 20-minute telephonic discussion with me. I hope you find my work in the image and standard that my spiritual coach set for me through her incredible work! πŸ™‚

What’s the Importance of Our Physical Body in This Spiritual Journey?

What is the importance of our physical body in our spiritual journey? What are some practical and spiritual tips to heal the physical body?

What is the importance of our physical body in a spiritual journey? It took me nearly three decades to realize that I’ve spent most of my life living in my head. Even when I was meditating and focusing on an arm or leg, it was mostly visualization.

I just hadn’t been paying much attention to my body. I was there, but I wasn’t really there to feel it.

Until I had no choice but to, after several weeks of unexplained fever. I questioned this from a Spiritual lens. And here’s what I discovered.

The Practical Importance of Our Physical Body

I’d like to explain this with a short story about Buddha, which I’ll paraphrase from the famous works called Old Path White Clouds.

In a brief period when the Buddha was ardent in his spiritual practices, he reached a point when he stopped eating altogether. At the tine, he felt that eating was distracting his meditation practice.

One day, when he came out of a deep meditation, he realized that he was too weak and would not be able to sustain the body if he continued to starve himself. He began walking in search of a village to find alms, but he collapsed midway.

A young lady stopped and gave him the tiffin of food she had been carrying. The Buddha, ever since, focused on the importance of keeping ourselves alive and healthy in order to focus on the task at hand, of liberation.

His objective was to keep the body nourished but balanced – hence arose the practice of mindful eating.

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And consequently, over the years, he encouraged his disciples to eat only one meal a day, just enough to keep one nourished but not make them sleepy or lethargic.

It’s interesting how different religions and cultures say the same thing.

When I recently read the sacred Hindu scripture, Bhagvat Gita, it rightfully said, that one who eats too much or doesn’t eat enough, or one who sleeps too much or doesn’t, cannot become a true Karm yogi. It’s all about moderation.

We can then say, that the physical importance of the body, is that its the carrier of this soul. It’s our home, for as long as we’re alive in this lifetime.

Then mustn’t we love and respect our home, trying to make our stay pleasant and conducive for enlightenment?


The Metaphysical Importance of Our Physical Body

Let’s now talk in terms of karma.

When we’re embodied, we’re able to process our karma quicker. We do this by pairing our soul’s karmic patterns with our body’s intelligence to free ourselves of past behavioral tendencies and traumas. We are able to think and be ‘conscious’ of our choices, thus overriding the past and eventually becoming liberated from all past tendencies.

Once we’ve left the body, our ability to handle our karmic debts depletes significantly. Why? Because we no longer have the same level of ability to take actions (clear our karam, deeds).

Creating actions in the physical realm is much more energy consuming than creating in the mental or astral planes. Without a physical body, we don’t have that kind of privilege anymore, to create deep, rectifying actions.

Let’s say someone is born with 75 years of life.

But due to bad habits and poor health, they die by 50. Having misused the body assigned to them, they now need to disperse this residual karma in spirit form. Or, they take on an extremely tough life, like a physically challenged child, to catch up.

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So in that sense, we’d be foolish to live with the YOLO mindset. Because we don’t only live once, and if we don’t want to live again, we need to make the most of the body we have now!


5 Spiritual Steps We Can Take To Heal Our Physical Body

Living a spiritual life largely has to do with living a good human’s life. And that entails a lot of time spent cleansing our body and thoughts.

I didn’t want to write this post until I had embodied all that I was writing.

For most of my adult life, I’ve been ‘thinking’. Even when I go to bed, it takes ages to sleep because my brain doesn’t quiet itself easily. And the more we think, the less present we are in the moment.

As a consequence, I’ve tried many, many things and I’d say their combination has made things a lot better. I’ll start my first recommendation around sleeping and how to relax the mind so that your physical body gets the much needed rest.

Then we’ll move on to the other tips, which associate more directly to the body’s well-being.

Unwind with Osho’s Advice

From time to time, I enjoy reading a few pages of the Vigyan Bhairav Tantra, and Osho’s point of view on the 112 Meditation techniques. And one such technique that I recently discovered was undoing your memory. This does wonders to your Conscious mind, quickly tiring it and thus relaxing it.

You have to recount your day, backward!

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It’s challenging because it takes a lot of extra work to reverse your memory. Apparently it helps with your karma too, but for the time being, it definitely does help you unwind.

So all you do, is start recalling the events of the day, from the very moment that just passed. And then keep going backwards, like playing the reel of a film on rewind.

The only word of caution is to not get attached to any memory, just keep reversing. Then, in no time, you’ll be fast asleep!


And now, onto the other spiritual tips to help take better care of your physical body.

#1 – Intermittent Fasting

There’s a significant relationship between our mental health and gut health. Here is what I can recommend by personal experience, on how to heal both in one shot – intermittent fasting!

I first tried it out in October 2019, after a trip to Bali, when I checked my weight and it was at an all-time high. For the first time, I was a 25 on the BMI. Hitting obesity.

I was fortunate to have come across a powerful book on the subject, called The Circadian Code by Dr Satchin Panda. Over a decade of research and some logical advice helped me take intermittent fasting seriously.

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While I highly recommend reading the book for full benefit, here are some guidelines that I follow:

  • Eat within a 8-10 hour interval. But atleast have a 12 hour interval between your dinner and breakfast, no matter what.
  • Fix the interval time. For me, it’s 10 AM to 7 PM on average.
  • Fix the number of meals you consume. When you sit to eat, eat wholeheartedly. When you’re done, be done for a good 3-4 hours. Munching is the real cause for weight gain, for most people.
  • Being hungry does NOT mean being weak. Hunger is the indication that your body has digested the food. At this point, your true gut healing begins.
  • If you want to have something sweet, make it the first meal of your day so that you can maximize your waking hours to digest it.

NOTE: Late-night snacking and munching in-between meals is a huge problem for many of us. If you initially struggle, try having a spoonful of edible coconut oil. It works wonders to curb untimely hunger pangs!

Having followed this for just a few weeks, you will instantly notice your sleep getting better. Also, the quality of your thoughts improves because you’re not as irritable, your bowel movements are better, and so is your gut’s health.

When we’re able to maintain higher levels of thoughts, we can observe a quieter mind more effortlessly. And we’re not constantly thinking about eating, one of the biggest hurdles on our journey to enlightenment.


#2 – Grounding

I go indepth about the essence of grounding when I teach about the Chakra System. Also, some basic things you can do right off the bat are:

  • Play with pets and children. They are much closer to the harmonious energy of the Universe than we are and being in their presence can remind us of our joyous Truth;
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  • Go outdoors and be in nature. Either walk barefoot in the grass, or take a hike in the forest. Or if you’re fortunate enough to, go take a dip in the ocean. Mother nature can heal our energy like magic!
  • Take out time to just be. Use this time to observe your surroundings, to slow down and pause for a bit. Our bodies and minds are constantly consuming information and working on overdrive. Sometimes a 5 minute pause can be like restarting your internal clock!

#3 – Exhaust Your Physical AND Mental Energy

Did you know, each soul, when reincarnating, comes with a dedicated reserve of physical and mental plane energy? The two must be exhausted separately.

While subconscious work, and activities such as thinking and meditation will do wonders to exhaust your mental reserve, we’re not doing enough to burn out the physical energy allocated for our lifetime. Or in the opposite case, some people are consuming that energy too fast.

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Whatever side of the spectrum you may be on, start approaching your two energy reserves with the intent attain enlightenment.

And spend your energy in both realms, in moderation. Too little or too much time spent burning energy through the physical body is detrimental.


#4 – Communicate With Your Body

It was groundbreaking for me, to write a letter to my physical body. It was like something sacred opened up inside of me. Have you ever tried that?

It’s worth taking a few minutes to just say hello to your body, and to thank it for all that it’s done for you. Or for all the times you didn’t pay heed, and how you plan to better take care of it.

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Some other tips for communicating with the body are:

  • Do a body scan every morning when you wake up, and before you go to bed at night, to checkin – how are different parts of your body feeling today?

I also love this mirror-work technique to practice self-acceptance and self-love.


#5 – Heal the Issues In Your Tissues

This is where we need to step into our thoughts consciously, to help heal the body. Did you know that the thoughts which effect us, get stored in our body, and if left unchecked can become a host to many diseases and hormonal imbalances?

So the resentment you have against your high-school crush, or the anger you feel for something mom said when you were 10 years old, is all stored in your body. And it’s slowly eating away at it!

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Books like Anatomy of The Spirit can really teach you how a thought manifests into disease. And how cleansing a thought can reverse the effects of the illness!

There are many ways to actively investigate our subconscious patterns and heal them at their root level. To name a few popular solutions:

Journalling

Having a series of questions to guide your self-reflection can really help you when you’re getting started, versus an uncertain “dear diary”. If you’re new and looking for tips, here are 7 different journalling techniques I’d recommend trying.

I also have a plethora of self-reflecting questions in my monthly newsletter resources library, which you can sign-up for. It’s free. πŸ™‚

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Hypnotherapy

Now, there’s a lot of fear around hypnosis, and I understand because I’ve been raised with the same notions. But having experienced hypnotherapy myself, I’ve noticed enormous amounts of mental blocks clearing, which I had no clue about.

Granted how strange hypnotherapy may sound, I’ve put together a post that addresses your questions around the process. If you want to undergo a session of hypnotherapy, it’ll be good to read this first, to set your expectations.

Chakra Balancing

This is my favourite subject to talk about, because of how easy it is to rebalance yourself, once you understand the Chakra System’s role in your life!

Not to toot my own horn, but I highly recommend my chakra balancing workshop, if you’re interested to uncover and heal blockages in a practical way.

– Inner Child & Parental Wound Healing

This is one of the shadow aspects of our healing, where we go into memory lane. It can be uncomfortable if you’re not ready to open Pandora’s Box.

But I always tell people who come to me for inner child work, that if your younger self went through it once and came out alright, you will too. You’ve got decades of experience in front of your younger self!

And it’s high time you use it to your benefit.

Masculine & Feminine Wounds

It can come as a surprise how much our gender biases hold us back from being our true Self. Being able to balance one’s inner yin-yang nature ultimately harmonizes the mind, body and spirit. And it can lead to a more holistic way of being.

These are all modalities that can teach us where our limiting beliefs stop us. And help us re-evaluate the importance of our physical body in this journey.

Alternatively, you can explore energy healing in the form of Reiki, Pranic Healing and Crystal Healing.

Concluding Thoughts

I’ve repeatedly heard this advice, from great spiritual leaders. You don’t need to do many things, you just need to do one thing right.

So, if we could just devote our life to taking care of this temple, this body, it will can lead us to the very heaven we seek as an escape from it. The importance of our physical body in this spiritual journey is actually imperative!

No matter how well or sick you are, please love your body. It’s been serving you for decades, and it is your first and last companion in this life.

Be your body’s best friend, not enemy. It will reward you ten times! πŸ™‚

7 Spiritual Lessons I Learned During My Self-Isolation

Here’s a spiritual take to my self-isolation journey under quarantine. I hope it brings you hope for the future and strengthens your spiritual growth too!

The first year of my marriage was quite long and anti-climatic for reasons beyond our control. Not only did I NOT get to live with my husband for 14 months due to visa processing, I also had to wait for 14 more days in self-isolation, once I arrived.

It has been one heaven of a ride, for sure.

But now that my quarantine period is done and dusted, I’ve decided to talk about the spiritual lessons that my isolation taught me, because this situation may happen for many more people in the upcoming period.

7 Life-Changing Lessons That I Learned From Self-Isolation

Whether you are under self-isolation yourself, or your loved one may be, I hope this post inspires you to keep going, by looking at the spiritual value of all that is happening.

Because, as the saying goes, nothing is by chance. Then let’s strive to find the underlying lessons and messages that the Universe has in store for us.

Lesson #1 – The universe may not unravel things as per your plan, but the Divine Plan is always pretty awesome.

In my case, my moving was rather melodramatic because we were constantly missing meticulously planned flights. But then the actual flight was like an overnight miracle. It almost came out of nowhere!

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In March, my visa arrived 2 days later than assured to us by the team processing it, so I missed my original flight. And we rebooked, but lo-and-behold, 3 days before the second ETD (estimated time of departure), the nation went under lockdown.

Then, India kept extending its lockdown one phase after the other, and international travels kept being put on hold. So as more months passed by, we too, kept having to cancel one flight after the other.

So, after 8-odd travel plans being scrapped, it finally manifested for us.

As one of my friends so wittily said, and I quote, “when the world was traveling, you couldn’t. And now that the world is at a standstill, you finally made it”.

We can make all the plans we want, but sometimes, life isn’t about planning. It’s about preparing for what the Universe has planned for us. And though hearing this truth may not be flattering to our ego, the Divine Plan is perfect as it is.

It’s a strong reaffirmation from the age old saying that what’s meant to be, will be. And what’s not meant to be, will not be. All we can do, is go through all of life’s challenges with a little grace, and have faith in the Divine Plan. πŸ™‚


Lesson #2 – We need a LOT less than we think we do.

To put things into perspective, I moved across an entire continent. To the other side of the world, to start a newly married’s life. With just 3 bags of essentials!

My original luggage plan was for 5 bags. But under quarantine, the travel restrictions became tighter and I only managed to take the bare minimum stuff I needed.

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I filtered out everything. Less clothes, less shoes, and dreadfully, less books. As a bookworm that wanted to carry over a 100 books from my collection to my new home, I eventually only brought a handful.

I also learned that bare minimum is a lot less than the bare minimum we assume. Imagine planning for a trip, and then having to filter out 40% of the stuff!

Also, I eventually only used 1 of the 3 bags to live in my 14-days period of isolation, and all my others bags were moved to a separate place of no-contact. So I literally did live out of a suitcase, for two full weeks!


Lesson #3 – Not just materialistically, we need way less spiritually, than we think we do.

My sister-in-law had lovingly lined up my bedside table with a great selection of spiritual books for me to enjoy through my self-isolation. But to my shock, as I started reading through one of them on Vedanta, I kept feeling saturated.

“All the books say the same thing”, I said to her one day, with my expression masked under the surgical mask, but my disappointment unmasked by my voice.

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Then, she taught something so simple yet profound to me.

There are 3 phases of knowledge. Learning, applying, becoming. In today’s day and age, with an overload of information out there, we spend a lot of time learning and very little applying.

I know it can sound counter-intuitive, but take this period of quietude to not just fill your time with more knowledge or wisdom. Also use it to enhance your grasp on the lessons you’ve already learnt.

I would even go as far as saying as use this time to create, not just consume. Empower yourself and the others around you with your inner Light. Whether its through an existing hobby or exploring a new one, find a way to bring more of your creative Self into the world.

What hobby did I pick up, you ask? Gardening! I’ve officially learned how to weed-out a river and plant new flowers, amongst other things. πŸ™‚


Lesson #4 – We touch a lot of things which we don’t need to.

Self-isolation is basically about limiting your sense of touch.

One day, I was walking around the backyard, and I extended my hand to touch a peculiar looking flower, before I reflexively pulled back. Ofcourse, there wasn’t anything wrong with touching a plant, but I had become habitual of refraining.

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While our sense of touch is rightfully given to us to enjoy our existence, most of the times, we end up mindlessly touching so many things and leaving our energetic trace everywhere we go.

We create karma whenever we engage our energy with something through touch. For me, this was quite underwhelming because it felt unrealistic to always keep your hands to yourself. And yet, here I was, living like a monk. Which brings me to my next realization.


Lesson #5 – Self-isolation is very similar to living a monk’s life.

Here are some interesting observations from the past centuries, that came full circle for me:

  • Like monks, one must learn to wash their own clothes and dishes, also owning very little garment or utensils (minimalism).
  • The period of self-isolation is about facing our own escapism. No more traveling, no more partying, no more mindlessness. When you have so much time on your hands now, it becomes important to be still and reflect. Even if you can’t meditate, there are a number of other spiritual practices that can support your self-reflection at such a time.
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  • In some spiritual communities such as sanatana dharma, sages covered their mouths to avoid causing harm to others, themselves or the natural environment with their breath. Face masks are fulfilling that role in our world now.
  • Like monks, we must keep our hands tucked in and to ourselves, refraining intimate human interaction like handshakes or hugs, to prevent the karma from extending.

Self-isolation may seem like an extreme way of living, but it is an opportunity for us to revive the great wisdom of the past and reincorporate it into our daily life.


Lesson #6 – Even in self-isolation, there are still numerous ways to feel satiated with love.

This period was an interesting challenge for my family to find new and creative ways to spend time with me, without crossing the guidelines. And boy, did they take on this challenge really well!

My husband made me a care package, loaded with my favorite snacks. Throughout the 2 weeks, he would send me a daily, quarantine check-in video from work, filled with fun tips and encouraging words. He’d make smoothies and sandwiches for me to have for my breakfast, and bring dinner from all the places he had been wanting to take me.

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My sister-in-law hosted me for the full period, having decked a dedicated room with books, cozy blankets and all the essentials I could possibly need. She would also engage me in activities like gardening and meditation, which didn’t require proximity but at the same time provided companionship.

My parents-in-law would spent countless hours sitting around the boundary of my quarantine space, chatting with me from a distance. And every other day, the other family members made their presence felt by dropping by more of my favorite food, chit-chatting from a distance and celebrating the countdown with cake!

I felt so pampered and satiated with love, that by the end, the whole experience actually felt more like a blessing. πŸ™‚

Whether it is a virus, or any other reason, our relationships are constantly challenged. But it is our responsibility to seek every change as an opportunity to make the relationship stronger, instead of becoming a victim.


Lesson #7 – It can be a period of immense transformation and reflection. Or you can let it pass by through a different form of escapism.

I’ve heard people talking about how many TV shows they’ve finished watching or movies they’ve binged on, during the period. Remember, it’s all about balance. None of that is bad, but you’re trading it off for something that could have added more value to your life.

Personally, as an introvert, I enjoy my time and space. But I realized I have escapism tendencies only recently. After spending nearly 1.5 years working around the clock towards my blog, I had to temporarily unplug. And it was overwhelming at first.

For the first three weeks, I wasn’t able to commit time to my work. And that period showed me how little attention I had been paying to the rest of my life.

So then, I took the opportunity to start changing my habits.

I had regressed on my own advice about self-love habits, so that’s where I began. I created more space and time for myself to do things that matter, to experience my multi-dimensional existence, instead of limiting myself to one life role.

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Don’t let such an amazing opportunity to self-reflect and live more consciously be taken away by your autopilot tendencies.

Concluding Thoughts

As someone who’s always been fascinated by monks and has been repeatedly asked about my perspective about renouncing life to go to the Himalayas, this was probably as close to living the life of a monk as I’ll go.

And not just me, but so many of us will be under self-isolation. It will be challenging for the mind and body, but it will be true spiritual resilience that will get us through.

At the end of the day, it won’t matter how productive you were or how much money you made, but how you evolved. So make it count. πŸ™‚