Archetypes: What They Are & 5 Ways to Heal Your Archetypal Patterns

What are archetypes and how can you use them to become more self-aware in your spiritual journey? Here are 5 powerful reading resources!

The term archetypes was first introduced to me by the amazing spiritual teacher, Caroline Myss.

Archetypes are simply a framework or categorization created around our different behaviours and personality types, to help us understand our nature. And as an effect, make more conscious choices about how we want to be, going forward.

We have archetypes in everything. Whether it is the zodiac signs which are determined by birth date, time and location, or the gender we associate ourselves to as we mature, an archetypal structuring helps everyone to logically understand why they are the way they are, and know how to do differently.

For instance, you may generally consider a Taurus to be bullish at lock their horns in an argument. This however, may not be true for all Taurus-born people.

So the limitation of archetypes is that they are not absolutely, always true across the board. This is because we are all a unique mix of different behaviours and patterns which interweave with each other. But we can use this very limitation to our benefit.

Those tendencies which we relate to the most from an archetypal categorization can help us see where we need to expand our nature, and move out of the conformity of this personality type.

So as an example, if one of the drawbacks of being “feminine” in nature is to let life happen, it may serve us to develop our masculine energy to step into a more active role in our own lives.

Studying these patterns and behaviours for a while, we begin to see ourselves fitting into almost all categories. Then, we get a sense that we are more integrated and wholesome in our being, and its easier to believe in the infinitude of our existence. 🙂

This is actually the end goal – to not be limited to one or two patterns, but to be able to ascend and evolve into a full range of existence.

It can be really interesting to study about archetypes, to know yourself in deeper ways. I’ve been gradually making my way through different programs and ideologies, and have experienced tremendous healing and AHA moments, simply by studying archetypal frameworks.

The biggest benefit I’ve found is that I am able to bring awareness to the unconscious patterns, and so many times, I catch myself halfway in the act. This allows me to slowly but surely move into better patterns that I would like to associate myself with.

There are of course many great studies and resources out there, but today, I would like to introduce you to my top 5 favourite archetype studies.

5 Different Archetypes that Will Help You Become More Self Aware

#1 – Sacred Contracts by Caroline Myss

Starting off with the very first book I read, called Sacred Contracts by Caroline Myss.

She beautifully describes our soul contracts and was monumental in setting my foundation on the topic. Caroline then dedicates several sections of the book to learning more about your archetypal patterns in context to your soul contracts.

She starts by introducing us to the primary four archetypes that she considers are always at work in our life, namely:

  • Child
  • Victim
  • Prostitute
  • Saboteur

These sound extremely strange at first, but she explains them in a brief but convincing way in this entry-level article.

These four archetypes of survival collectively represent how we show up in life and the major challenges we pursue. Then, she dives much deeper into the other patterns of our psyche and how learning about them can help you heal your relationships at a spiritual level.

Her book is extremely in-depth and sheds such powerful light on our patterns and unconscious conditioning. I think this makes a brilliant starting point for anyone that likes to explore their behaviour and tendencies with the blend of spirituality and psychology.

#2 – The Classic Jungian Archetypes

Carl Jung pioneered in the study of psychology and one of his groundbreaking contributions to society was the framework of these archetypes. His belief was that our minds aren’t just a clean slate which gets filled at birth, but that we inherit a lot of ancestral conditioning, which also influence our psyche.

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He explains the four primary archetypes as:

  • persona,
  • shadow,
  • anima/animus,
  • and the self.

For those that are interested in learning from the lens of psychology, the Jungian archetypes are explained with a lot of simplicity in this article. At some point, I might expand deeper on his study as well, so stay tuned. 🙂

#3 – The Nine Enneagram Archetypes

You might have heard of the nine personalities of the enneagram, and in passing taken some free quizzes online as well. But in my honest opinion, the enneagram can only be properly understood if you take the comprehensive RHETI test. Most free quizzes have not been accurate for me or any of my clients.

And after taking the test, use your results to study your personality type using the book The Wisdom of the Enneagram.

This is a dense book, and an even more dense subject, which talks about the core wounds and core strengths of each personality type. So, no shortcuts. But this will be such a refreshing and rewarding framework for you! Especially if you’re inclined more towards healing your shadow self.

#4 – Your Life Purpose Archetypes by Sahara Rose

Another important question I’m often asked is about the purpose of our life here, on Earth. I always recommend that people try out my Purpose Matrix Tool. And then, I typically try to educate them about the way the Universe guides us into our Higher Calling.

But if there’s another resource that I consider deeply insightful in this regard, it’s Sahara Rose’s new book, called Discover Your Dharma.

She simplifies the knowledge of Ayurveda and Vedanta to describe nine different ways to share your gifts here on Earth. There’s a lot of great information on the three doshas (body types) and what role they play in our purpose here.

I genuinely enjoyed the quizzes and revelations that she shares. So much so that I had my husband do them with me! They also help you understand what professions might drain you versus fueling your inner fire.

Her book was a huge affirmation for me as well, as I step deeper into the role of coaching people for their spiritual journey.

#5 – The Human Design Archetypes

This was my most recent of introductions. I learned about my human design from a dear friend, April, who beautifully taught me about my tendencies as a “projector”. This was the one of five different types of human design.

The human design is also based on our birth chart, and introduces us to some interesting archetypal patterns. These include insights such as –

  • what energy type we are (projector, generator, manifestor, reflector, manifesting generator),
  • how we can be in most flow with our energy type and maximize our potential,
  • what chakras or energy centres are more open to outside influence,
  • whether we’re structured or creative in different settings, and so on.
April shared that the Human Design is different from other archetypal structures in that our type does not change over time. We simply become more optimized in our energy type.
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Example of a Human Design Chart

This all starts by generating a Human Design Chart, called a BodyGraph. You can either decrypt the results on your own, or learn more about through a specialist in the field. Having worked with April personally for my own learning, I would recommend her work as a good option!

Concluding Thoughts

It’s important to not typecast anyone into an archetype, knowing that we’re not limited to its description. But instead to use these categorizations for our evolution. This study should free us from our limitations, and not give us the permission to continue being certain ways.

So for instance, don’t justify someone’s behaviour because they are “a Capricorn sign”, or they are “a martyr” archetype. Instead, help yourself and others around become aware of these tendencies. And learn the different ways you can step into healthier patterns.

I hope this resource gives you a vast variety of frameworks to take your journey deeper. Start with the one that sounds most interesting. And then sit down and really take your time with learning the strengths and weaknesses of each personality type.

I’d also love to know in the comments below, if you’ve read any of these resources. What benefits have you personally experienced from studying archetypal patterns? 🙂

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Is Smoking, Drinking Or Eating Meat Bad For Your Spiritual Growth?

Can drinking, smoking or eating non-vegetarian food be bad for your spiritual growth? Here is an educated answer to these questions.

Should you quit drinking alcohol or become vegan if you are on the spiritual journey? Is it really important to stop smoking if you want to be spiritual? These are common questions that crop up in our mind, from time to time because we want to know what’s bad for our spiritual growth and then get rid of it. Same as why we leave old jobs and toxic relationships behind.

I want to address this sensitive topic with utmost respect and love for everyone, regardless of what you eat, drink or inhale. At the same time, letting all readers know that after my own spiritual awakening, I did not feel the need to continue casual drinking with office colleagues, have milk, or to eat egg.

As a matter of fact, my body reacted pretty bad to all that, and I naturally weaned off everything that no longer served my wellbeing. I am a vegetarian, and for most parts, caffeine-free (minus the chocolates).

That tone set, let’s address both frames of mind, and educate ourselves on how we want to proceed.

What IS Bad For Your Spiritual Growth?

If we speak high-level, and I mean really high level, there really is no right or wrong. It just is the way it is. And as Michael Singer beautifully reinforces in his book, it’s really us humans who have ‘preferences’ of how things should or should not be.

So, is there anything really bad for your spiritual growth? Yes, and no.

The Universe (and you) are self-correcting. This means, whenever you are off-balance, you automatically feel it and know, deep down inside, that this was too much or too little of what works for you.

It’s kind of like a pendulum inside of you, which naturally swings until it reaches equilibrium. And everyone’s inner pendulum is unique to them.

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So when it comes to personal preferences like downing shots of vodka or eating chicken wings, the first person that needs to decide if this works or not, is YOU.

Because every person’s spiritual quest is unique. While some get to their destination meditating, some choose to never sit still. There isn’t only one right way to attain enlightenment.

Related Read: The 4 Ancient Paths of Enlightenment

If you feel like those things don’t serve you anymore, give yourself permission to change your mind. Take a moment, and pause here, to answer this question:

If I never did (activity) again, would something feel missing in me?

Whatever your answer is, is your truth in the moment. And now what?

Step into the why. This is an optional step for those that want to explore their dilemma deeper.

You know that you still get charged inside when you think of doing this activity. It’s important to now ask yourself why it feels necessary to you.

As an example, if you’re using alcohol as a way to numb pain, then it may not be serving you long-term. Of course, pain is painful, and because we aren’t taught how to face it, we are scared to do that. And so, we develop different coping mechanisms.

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And if you are using alcohol to numb pain, then its grip on you will be quite intense. There’s a reason why Alcohol Anonymous has a 12-step recovery process – addictions aren’t purely physiological needs. They are rooted much deeper in lack of self-worth.

Asking yourself why something is so important to you, whether it is drinking, smoking or for that matter, staying in an unhealthy relationship will help you become aware of the unconscious desires that you are fulfilling. Even if at a conscious level it can seem to you that there isn’t anything in this for you.

Does science matter in all this?

Initially, when I was reading through different spiritual books and teachings, I was deeply inspired by two people. Sadhguru and the Buddha. And they both had an energy and wisdom in common, which did not need drinking.

It left an impression, and my search led me to scientific inquiry, about the actual disadvantages of alcohol. It might give us a high in the moment, but it does slow the body down. Just like caffeine, which can temporarily recharge you, but can make you crash a few hours later.

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The science only matters if you are on the fence, and want to approach the answers logically. This serves people who are deeply rationale and left-brained in their day-to-day life.

But when you want to let a habit go from its root, you have to move beyond education and into the unconscious level patterning of it.

This is one space I am being trained in, to help people become aware of their conditioning and let go of habits when they are ready to. Not because they “think they should”. If that’s something you’d like to talk about, feel free to set some time up on my calendar, here.

Are you doomed if you don’t quit what’s bad for your spiritual growth?

The idea that God will punish us or banish us from heaven because we are not perfect, is outdated. I want to challenge that idea with a simple example.

Let’s say that you call an old-time friend, and they start yelling and hurling curses at you. You are startled, and feel hurt for their actions. After a few days, your friend’s family member reaches out to you, to let you know that your friend is undergoing an episode of bipolarity. And that they’re not really their true self right now.

black couple arguing with each other at home

From being hurt and feeling misunderstood, you would rapidly move into an AHA moment and a state of understanding. It would make sense.

The same is for God. The creator is omnipresent, and thus, always aware of the deeper why in every situation. Therefore, there is no judgment, just compassion.

Knowing all of this, it isn’t to say that you carry on doing what you’re doing because God will forgive everything. There’s nothing to forgive, but if you’re not in alignment with how you really want to live, you won’t live your full potential. And then what? Reincarnation, mwahahaha!

Spiritual jokes aside, I think the conclusion for us to understand is that we are not necessarily being held accountable ‘up there’. But we do need to hold integrity towards ourselves.

It isn’t about what you do, but why you do it that will be your compass.

Concluding Thoughts

Ultimately, the spiritual journey isn’t about living in the duality of what is right or wrong. Rather to transcend it, by neither being charged by what is right, or wrong.

One step at a time, keep asking yourself what serves you, and walk down that path, without judging yourself for doing what wasn’t serving you anymore.

Accepting all parts of you is also a big part of your healing journey. Are you ready to be imperfectly perfect? 🙂

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How to Help People Around You Understand Your Spiritual Awakening

How does your spiritual journey effect people around you? And how can you help people understand your spiritual awakening? Here’s a resource!

When Renee reached out to me, I had no idea what I could do to help her understand her brother’s spiritual journey. But she did spark a huge realization. That no matter how empathic and spiritual we believe ourselves to be, our awakening has a bigger impact on our loved ones than we can imagine. And that it becomes our responsibility to help people around understand this spiritual awakening, to bridge this growing gap in the physical plane.

So, I reached out to every single person I could think of who would have some pieces to add to the puzzle. Every volunteer shared their perspective while answering the following set of questions:

  • When did you have your spiritual awakening?
  • In what ways did your behaviour change?
  • Who were the main people to be most affected by your awakening?
  • In what ways were your changes affecting the people around you?
  • Looking back at that time, what would you do differently to help them understand your journey better?
  • How has your relation evolved with your loved ones ever since your first stage of awakening?
  • How can the family of the person undergoing an awakening deal with the rapid changes in a better way? What advice do you have based on your experience?
  • If you’d like to share a testimonial or insight directly from your loved ones, you can email me separately.
  • Is there anything else you’d like to add?

I’ve leveraged the answers to these questions in completing this book.

Collectively, our experiences are from anywhere between a few months of awakening, to several years!

Having said that, it is true that the research and depth of this will be never-ending. I don’t want to let my perfectionist stop me from hitting the publish button, because I believe that done is better than perfect.

So, consider this as a starting point in understanding the scope of a spiritual awakening and its impact on relationships.

The resource is written keeping both readers in mind – those that are undergoing an awakening, and those that surround this person and struggle to understand what’s going on. Throughout the book, I address those people as the “awaking” because I believe it’s a domino effect.

It might start with one person, but it has a ripple effect on every person the awakened one meets. And through that, as the saying goes (and I paraphrase), we transcend generations of ancestral trauma and heal the world around us.

One awakening at a time.

An extract from the book, Homecoming: A Spiritual Guide for the Awakened & Awaking

“I mean, what does it even mean to “wake up”?

Well, there’s no standard definition because the experience is very personal for every person. But what I can explain it as, is finally becoming more present in the moment and being able to see the different habits and patterns that form our reality. And then realizing that we have a choice to behave differently from our past patterns.

This is “spiritual” in that we also come to terms with something “higher” looking after us and facilitating our journey so we can keep evolving and learning from life.

Some may call this power God, others may say it’s the “Universe”. When we dial into that higher stream of consciousness, we are compelled to reevaluate our material needs and the impermanent nature of everything. This also catalyzes an inner wonder and curiosity about other, subtler possibilities beyond this dimension of space and time.

What does all that mean?

Think of your life as being on “autopilot” for most parts. So, you might sit in the car and drive home, but because you’re on autopilot, you might not even realize when you got home.

I mean, you will know you did. But if you had to explain your drive home, you might not be able to give much detail.

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That’s because the mind has evolved to register our everyday nuances as involuntary actions and experiences, so that it can focus on something else.

It’s good for us… until it’s not.

It’s not a problem in the sense that we don’t want to have to “rethink” how to open a door or switch gears in the car. But some of our actions in relationships go on autopilot too.

Do you ever find yourself having the same argument over and over again? Only to realize you’re not going anywhere.

This observation is called “awareness”.

And when you have a spiritual awakening, it’s like becoming hyper-aware of your surroundings. You just wake up one day and realize how much of your life has been on autopilot.

There are so many flavours to this awareness, as it heightens.

You could become aware of your toxic relationships, of your emotional outbursts, of the limitations you have taken on because of your past conditioning.

This all leads to a LOT of inner turmoil. And as a result, most people find themselves experiencing an identity crisis.

Who are we, if not someone’s partner?
Who are we, if not for our day jobs?
And who are we, if not the habits we used to swear by?

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This immense amount of questioning can lead to bigger questions, like the purpose of life, why you’re here on Earth, and then some. And to be honest, we should be asking those questions much sooner. But it typically takes an external turmoil to “shake us awake”.

That could be a bad breakup or the loss of a loved one to death. It could mean being intensely bored at your job, or something else.

In some circumstances, it could also just be the need of the hour. For me, I had a perfect life, on paper. I was in a high-respect corporate job and was surrounded by amazing friends and family.

And yet, something felt incomplete. I’ve shared more of my story here.

But the crux of all this is – when you are undergoing a spiritual awakening, you begin to lose all ground and clarity.

Even the smallest decisions seem very challenging. And in all this inner turmoil, it is vital to be able to talk about everything with people you trust.

It took me nearly a year before I started openly sharing my spiritual journey with friends and family. I would’ve loved to share this sooner, but I was afraid of being called “crazy”.

Of course, when I did share, none of that happened. People were receptive, even though most of them didn’t really get what I was going through.

I wish that same level of support for every person who comes on this path, though that doesn’t always happen. This is why I’m compelled to put together a few words on the topic.”

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This extract is from the introduction section of the book. We go much deeper into the different mindsets and challenges that happen during the spiritual journey, as well as insights on overcoming the separation that we experience with loved ones.

You can download the book from Amazon (available worldwide), or through the blog as a PDF, here.

Concluding Thoughts

We cannot and should not walk this path alone. Of the different realizations I have had over the course of my journey, one is that we believe we are much lonelier than we really are. Simply because we don’t know how to talk to people around us about all these woo-woo things and share our worldview with them.

And yet, as the world wakes up, more and more people long for deeper, meaningful conversations about life, and beyond. The word “meditation” has more Google clicks than ever!

So now, more than ever, we need to open up and help people around us understand our spiritual awakening. This is one of the core intents of the book. There’s a lot more too, I do hope you’ll read and enjoy this work.

Hold space for the ones that are waking up – build your tribe, both within your circle of known ones, and beyond them. And just know that I am holding space for your journey too. Let’s walk into Oneness together, shall we?

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