The Chemistry of Pleasure : Fuel Your Life With Nitric Oxide, by Lisa

What is the chemical proof that pleasure is good for you? What are some subconscious blocks preventing you from experiencing pleasure? And more!

“Pleasure. It feels kind of selfish, right?”, she asked me.

Yes, it does! To the point that it can make most of us blush or look disappointed at the person talking about it.

Lisa Welsh is a self-love expert and she makes some powerful, bold and revolutionary revelations around sexuality through her work.

Very recently, I had spoken about pleasure as a key component of healing your Sacral Chakra energy. So, it’s perfect that she could go into the chemistry and psyche of pleasure through this amazing post. Here’s what she has to say.

Can Pleasure FUEL Your Life?

We don’t make time for pleasure.

Of course, there’s always something more important that you need to do. Like grocery shopping. Or the dishes. Or making sure that little Meg has her dancing shoes packed for tonight.

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So, you hear yourself urging your loved ones to go and have fun, while you catch up with the bills, the cleaning, and the organising. 

But what if I could tell you that pleasure is actually a powerful fuel for life, without which you are missing out on something vital. I’m talking about a tiny molecule created by your body, called nitric oxide.

Is there a scientific backing for pleasure?

This powerful little neurotransmitter, nitric oxide works in many wonderful ways to help you feel good.

  • Stimulates the release of endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin (feel-good hormones)
  • Relaxes your blood vessel walls
  • Increases the flow of oxygen to your heart, brain, and other organs
  • Reduces cell inflammation

In simple terms, nitric oxide energises your cells – making them happy, healthy, and vital! 

Really, how pleasing is the pleasure chemical, nitric oxide?

It’s such an impressive molecule that it has even been harnessed by the medical world:

  • To help to strengthen premature babies’ lungs 
  • In Viagra to help boost erections
  • In heart attack medications to open blood vessels
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Pleasure Versus The Madonna-Whore Dichotomy

Let’s take a minute (or two) to talk about the shame or shyness behind pleasure within the female community.

It’s mostly unconscious, but if you’re like most women, you feel more comfortable with self-sacrifice. You don’t give yourself permission to dive headfirst into pleasure because it feels indulgent, a waste of precious time, and far from essential.

The truth is, you’re not to blame. After all, you’ve been taught that women are either:⁣

GOOD⁣

  • Chaste⁣
  • Pure⁣
  • Sweet ⁣
  • Excellent mother and wife material⁣
  • Attractive (but not sexy)⁣
  • A wholesome girl next door⁣

or BAD⁣

  • Sexy⁣
  • Seductive⁣
  • Promiscuous⁣
  • Exciting⁣
  • Desirable (but not marriage material)⁣
  • A dangerous femme fatale

This Madonna-Whore dichotomy is not only false, it’s also incredibly harmful. And it has existed for years and works beautifully to keep us small, keep us slut-shaming our sisters and to keep us from stepping into our full power as women.⁣

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The Good Girl/Bad Girl mentality is a programme working silently in the background of our minds, insidiously controlling our thoughts, emotions and behaviour. It reinforces gender inequality, objectifies women, and restricts our sexuality.⁣

In action it sounds like this…⁣

  • A sexy woman is not a good mother⁣
  • I should hide my true desires, so my husband doesn’t think I’m dirty⁣
  • She’s a whore if she sleeps with him on the first night⁣, or before getting married
  • “One good girl is worth a thousand bitches.” (Thanks for that one Kanye.)⁣

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to choose one or the other.⁣

  • You are not one dimensional.⁣
  • You can not be limited to just a good girl or a bad girl.⁣
  • Your worth is not defined by what you choose to do or not do with your body. ⁣
  • And neither is your ability as a mother.⁣

The world desperately needs to see you stand up and own your true, full expression. ⁣

Which is why, today, I want you to understand why you need pleasure, and why your body needs nitric oxide.

How is nitric oxide linked to everyday life?

Whether you are a woman or man, it is hopefully beginning to make sense to you, why pleasure isn’t a sin. But all this while, you’ve been depriving yourself of this life-fueling feeling, through unconscious actions.

Would you like to know how to get your hands on this magical molecule?

Well, nitric oxide production is produced by your body as a reaction to PLEASURE! And unsurprisingly, nitric oxide levels are depleted by shame, stress, anger, fear, and grief. 

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So, let’s paint a picture of you, going about your normal life, rushing, overwhelmed, perhaps a little anxious. Would you dream of taking a step away from your busy-work to inject some pleasure into your day?

Not usually. But, maybe now you know the power of nitric oxide to boost your creativity, health, happiness, and mood, which, in turn, allows you to show up in the world, your family and relationships as a more radiant, energetic version of you…that won’t sound so far-fetched.

How can you boost nitric oxide production?

To begin with, releasing the energetic trauma from your body, through the Sacral Chakra region is important to fuel the pleasure zone. This can be done in two ways.

Breathing & shaking.⁣

First, watch this quick and incredible video clip of deep breathing in live-action, below.

The entire abdominal & pelvic cavity is moving with each inhale & exhale. The diaphragm is massaging the internal organs & can improve those things we have been chatting about; uterine, ovarian, pelvic floor, bowel & bladder function.

Impressive, huh? ⁣

Now let’s get on to the shaking, but don’t take my word for it.⁣

Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky’s book, Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers and Trauma Therapist Peter Levine’s book, Waking the Tiger share a key theme. Let me break it down.⁣

Animals, such as zebras, live in fear of death…all day long. Popping to the water hole, munching some grass & just hanging out with the other zebras is incredibly risky.⁣

It’s likely that they’ll be chased by a hungry lion at any moment. ⁣

Hartmann'S, Zebra, Hartmann'S Zebra

So, why are zebras not walking around with PTSD despite all of these brushes with danger? Because they know how to dissipate stress!⁣

How? As soon as they are safe, they discharge the energy by shivering, shaking, twitching & leaping. And then, they carry on being a zebra. ⁣

Your nervous system works the same way, except you have a big clever brain that gets in the way. ⁣

So, just take some deep breaths & shake it off. Do it every day for a few minutes.⁣

There are no rules. You can shake out your hands, arms, butt, whole body. You can even get on your hands and knees & wiggle around. Just go with it!⁣

No judgement about what you look like & no need to understand what you’re releasing. ⁣

NOTE : This tool is not designed to replace therapy or pain relief. Sometimes deep breathing can trigger a traumatic response, so go slowly.

You can also boost nitric oxide production and enjoy all of its delicious side effects in other simple ways. 

  • Laughter (especially belly laughs)
  • Orgasm
  • Meditation
  • Enjoyable exercise
  • Big hugs
  • Warm baths
  • Ocean swims
  • Playing with your dog
  • Things that light YOU up!

You already know how great it feels to spend time in nature, with the sun on your face and the wind in your hair. And you’re familiar with the tingly vitality that follows enjoyable experiences. But you didn’t know the chemistry that was making it happen. 

Girl, Portrait, Woman, Young, Face, Skin, Pleasure, Happiness, Self-care

Of course, it sounds so simple that you might be tempted to overlook the power of using pleasure as a fuel for life. But I urge you to actively seek ways to bring 1% more pleasure to your day today, and again tomorrow.

Concluding Thoughts on Pleasure

Try to be mindful of all of the times that you refuse to please yourself. It probably happens more often than you think. Be aware of any subconscious internal limit to pleasure. Decide that you have permission to fully enjoy self-pleasure when it comes along and notice how you feel. 

Please don’t take my word for it! Would you commit to bringing more pleasure into your life for 30 days? Journal the experience so you can see how it works for you.

Lisa

Lisa Welsh
Lisa Welsh

Lisa Welsh is here to help you feel good and have fun, in your body and in the bedroom. Her mission is to help women heal and awaken their sexuality, so that they can live full, creative and juicy lives. 

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The Chemistry of Pleasure : Fuel Your Life with Nitric Oxide

Introduction to Chakra Balancing with Susan

An introduction to chakra balancing, why you need to balance your energy centers and 7 tips on how you can heal your chakras. Guest post by Susan Anderson.

Let’s start with an introduction to chakra balancing, the first in the Chakra Series. This post is a fun collaboration with Susan from Soul Garden Seekers.

The post, a lengthy one, is divided into the following segments:

What Are Chakras?

Chakras, literally meaning wheels, are energy centers in our body, which process our life energies at specific frequencies. Each Chakra is related to many things in our daily life, from our diet, mental health, physical well-being to much more.

The science of chakras is an ancient part of the Eastern philosophies of Hinduism and Buddhism, and has slowly made its way into the modern age.

The Chakra System is studied as a means of achieving spiritual healing and well-being.

Though these energy centers are not physically visible, and thus susceptible to the argument, “are chakras even real?”, working along the practices laid out for balancing your chakras gives sufficient evidence to a direct association with our day to life and physical health.

There are many variations on how many chakras are there in the body, and as an entry point into the study, it is worth learning and healing the key, seven energy centers.

Over the course of this series, we will explore the various centers in depth.

Why would you want to unblock and heal your chakras?

Chakras Energy Healing

Chakra balancing is a healing modality which helps strengthen your mind-body connection and balance your emotions. When your seven core chakras are in balance and in optimal health, you will experience:

  • increased sense of self-worth, self-esteem and self- confidence.
  • improved overall health and well being.
  • greater and faster ability to heal your mental, physical, spiritual and emotional issues.
  • increased openness, memory, concentration and awareness.
  • positive outlook in terms of understanding, perception of behaviors and thought processes.
  • heightened creativity and better resourcefulness through increased perception of your  surroundings.
  • improved and deeper sleep which provides a higher level of control over your emotions and therefore improved patience in life’s idiosyncrasies.

So, by now, it is clear that free flowing and healthy chakras will assist and support you in living the life you want and deserve.

How will I know which chakra needs balancing?

In this series, there is a self-assessment quiz for every Chakra, to determine which specific energy center needs work on.

However, even within this post, we will outline our known tools but the biggest tool (said in the best possible taste!) is yourself.

Whichever method you choose, and feel free to mix and match, is the one that will resonate with you and your 5 senses of sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch. This resonation is one way that your chakras communicate with you.

As your body lets you know what nutrition it needs with food cravings, your chakras will let you know with your senses and your choices. So, take note of what clothes you select to wear, their color, texture and fit. What your downtime activities consist of, what company you keep, the effect they have on you and how you react to others, especially when stressed.

All these will be signs as to how healthy your chakras are and which ones may need attention.

An easier way to think of it is, as food cravings affect the physical body, emotional cravings affect the energetic body.

As you feed each body with healthy eating and emotional habits, they will naturally become drawn to the ones that have a positive effect. As in both, choose wisely to turn detrimental habits into positive ones.

What is a Balanced Chakra?

A balanced chakra is one where its wheel operates continuously and at a steady speed. This steady speed enables the chakra to generate the exact amount of energy that keeps that chakra’s related emotions in balance throughout the human body. Balanced chakras = balanced emotions.

Balancing your chakras entails using vibrational energy to either open up or slow down an energy center so that the energy the chakra is generating can be used effectively and efficiently by its host’s human body.

7 Tools for Chakra Balancing

1. Colour Therapy

You will naturally be drawn to wearing certain colors on certain days, just go with it.

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Each chakra has its own make-up of characteristics, needs and vibrations.

This is where the mind-body connection comes in. Depending on your emotional/energetic needs of the day, you will naturally be drawn to the color that assists the needed chakra to operate as effectively as possible.

Example, I began to have a heightened awareness of the effects of color when I was taking exams. I had a blue and yellow dress which I used to wear and always had a good experience when I wore it. Blue for the throat chakra and communication and yellow for solar plexus chakra and fire (calm my nerves).

There is no need to concern yourself with how much or size of the color, the needed chakra will take what’s needed. It is the vibration of the color that balances the energy centres (chakras) and not just the color itself.

2. Crystals & Chakra Stones

As with wearing certain colored clothes, interacting with specific crystals and chakra stones will depend on which chakra needs balancing. Use the tools outlined here to identify which chakra(s) are out of balance before purchasing any good quality crystals.

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You may wish to look for a starter kit. Some spiritual stores have a bag with a collection of seven stones, one for each chakra. Whatever crystals you purchase, we would recommend cleansing them before personal use.

Crystals and Chakra stones can be used in a variety of ways. The most common and easy methods are during meditation and to place it within your clothing.

Do not place the crystal directly on the needed chakra. The crystal needs to feed the chakra its energy, not drown in it!

The other chakras will be fine as they are on a different energy frequency. This is why when you hold crystals, some will resonate with you and some won’t.

3. Food 

Most eating habits recommend a variety of foods and colors. It used to be so that it was pleasing to the eye. This is still true but also visually seeing, eating and digesting foods that have certain colors also assists your chakras.

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Adjust your diet to take in more food of the same colour of the Chakra you are trying to balance. Using the sacral chakra as an example, try eating more oranges, orange peppers, pumpkin, mango, cantaloupe, carrots, apricots, and orange sweet potatoes/yams, etc.

4. Sound 

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Just as colour has a frequency, so does sound. Our energy centres resonate with specific musical notes.

  • C = Root
  • D = Sacral
  • E = Solar Plexus
  • F = Heart
  • G = Throat
  • A = Third Eye
  • B = Crown

Listening to music hat has a concentration in the required note will stimulate that particular energy centre (classical music is pretty good for this).

5. Vocal Toning

You can use our own vocal vibration/voice to create tones to stimulate and balance the energy centres.

Place both hands on the energy centre that feels out of balance, then begin to sound your deepest possible tone, gradually getting higher in pitch. You will intuitively know which pitch is correct for you, as you will begin to feel the centre feeling lighter and responding to that tone.

Use this tone technique to identify the out of balance chakra and focus on this one until you feel it is now in balance. Don’t neglect the other chakras as you need to stay in balance as a whole as well.

6. Essential oils 

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100% pure essential oils also resonate at specific frequencies and can be used to balance chakras.

Although some can be applied directly on the skin if they have been diluted sufficiently with a suitable carrier oil, we do not recommend it. Given humans various skin sensitivity levels and allergies, it’s best to apply the oils to an outside material.

Our favorites are chakra bracelets, commonly known as diffuser bracelets. These are bracelets that have lava beads where the essential oil drops can be placed and enjoyed throughout the day.

Caveat; only use the same oil on the same lava bead. The other recommendation would be in an essential oil burner or steamer.

Although a direct passage, we do not recommend inhaling any essential oil, even 100% organic, on a regular basis. Apart from anything else, it’s too strong and could damage your nasal passages and sense of smell.

7. Mindfulness, Intuition and Visualization ~ Possibly the most powerful tools of them all

Mindfulness for being aware of changes in your internal body as and wen they occur, intuition for what causes those changes and visualization to correct them.

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As you become familiar with the health of your own chakra system, you could start practicing visualization, preferably just before the close of your meditation.

When sitting in meditation, visualise drawing chakra energy up from the centre of the earth and cleansing each energy centre with its relevant colour, sound and frequency. Remember to clear the chakra first bringing any debris back to the center of the earth and then feed the chakra with its energy vibration with its relevant colour.

IN SUMMARY

When your chakras are in balance, their wheels spin to generate the energy that keep your emotions in optimal balance. When your emotions are in balance, you can experience life at its best.

Namaste,
Su & Soul Seekers

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Susan Anderson
Susan Anderson

Su is the founder of Soul Garden Seekers and Executive Soul Seekers. Her passion and mission is to guide others to reconnect with their soul, to live their own life.

Embracing the Divine Light Within, By Shivangi

After a vivid dream shook Shivangi to her core, she wrote this compelling spiritual reflection on the nature of Divine Light and Self-Awareness.

After a vivid dream about something that shook my core, I was reminded of the beauty of the world we live in. That beauty is all there is, around us. The love that we share, forget and are reminded. The message, to embrace the Divine Light within all of us.

The Dream That Woke Me Up

In my dream, I saw that I was in my hometown, where I had grown up for the most part of my life. There, my entire family was present. But something felt off.

There was a dire siren that was echoing in the whole society. I saw a festival that people were celebrating in which… they fight. Yes, take lathis and fight each other! Saying that it is God’s Will so as to see who has to survive. Fighting in the name of God.

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Well, the actual festival lasted only moments and nothing serious happened during it but after it had ended, the people turned dark. Women from all castes and backgrounds decided to fight each other to see who will win.

Who does God want to win? All women who used to be sensible, reputable, rational joined the drama and took part in the “holy” fight.

My family was inside the house. Safe and sound. I thanked God for keeping them safe. But around my home, in the balconies, rooftop, everywhere I saw women, along with their very young children, with lathis in their hands, were all trying to get inside.

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To not just provoke us silent beings who were merely showing disinterest in this activity, but they wanted to include each and every woman of all the families that reside in that area. So as to make the fight fair, everyone should be involved.

Yes, not only women but children and those people who showed disinterest were made a part of this too!

Now, those people were trying to get into my home from the balcony. Here comes the crazy part. I opened the door and told with oh-so-much love that I, rather We, our family is not interested.

They were throwing colours on each other and were trying to throw some on me too. I told them I am seriously allergic to colours and they should not throw it but to my utter surprise, none of what I said was reaching out to them. They had all become dark.

Even the children who didn’t even know what the society was pushing them into. I was holding the door with all my might so as not to let them in. They were too many. Unable to handle, I couldn’t take it anymore and I woke up. 

A Spark of Divine Light in Dark Times

After waking up, I remembered God, the Divine Light.

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I knew that we have seen enough of this. I’m not here to keep being a victim to all the wounds that society has subjected itself into. I want to be part of something bigger. I want to see with my eyes, yes, in this world, utopia.

People being there for each other.
Them, understanding what essence they are made of.
People being heard.
Nobody being left alone.
Not associating themselves with their ego-minds.
People understanding that We all are One.

One is All and All is One.

We wouldn’t hate if we saw this in our brothers and sisters. We wouldn’t hate if we knew that it stems from fear, and instead would remember to love in the scariest, most brutal of times.

Yes, that seems like a time that was not-long-ago. Humanity has indeed come from a very dark period. But look, here we are, still living.

We thought we are all going to die because of an apocalypse happened in 2012. But we are still living.

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We have undergone a massive transformation. Each one of us. Our whole planet keeps shifting, changing, levelling up with us. Yes, we bring the change, we are the masters, the creators.

Signs of Mass Awakening

I remembered, change comes from within. And it’s my love for all the beings that I need to see sprouting in others too.

We are now seeing a mass awakening that is happening. One person at a time seeing a shift in their self-awareness. Loving, remembering their home, remembering who they are. Choosing love each time. No matter how difficult life seems.

Always following the heart.
Always choosing to help, love, brighten the lives of everybody on Earth. That’s the world we are heading into my friend.

Closing Thoughts

My dream was only an indication of how strong the collective consciousness is. A person could either overlook it, saying it’s the matter of the subconscious and what you think is what you see in dreams.

Or you take it as a strong indication of Love.
That is there.
That is here, within you.
Within all of us.

Just follow that. It’ll be worth the efforts of every soul that has incarnated on this planet to make it a joyful, loving place. Let’s embrace the Divine Light within all of us.

Love & Light,

SS

Shivangi Srivastava
Shivangi Srivastava

Shivangi is a nature lover, and an aspiring writer who has interests in art, music and all things about the universe and beyond.
She loves to connect with people one-on-one.