3 Reasons for Spiritual Loneliness, A Feeling You Don't 'Belong Here'

Some hard-hitting truths about “belonging here”, spiritual junkies, and more. Here are 3 reasons we experience spiritual loneliness.

It’s common for people spiritually inclined to start feeling disconnected from the world. I believe that 3 factors cause this spiritual loneliness. Working on these areas can help make our experience on Earth more wholesome once again, as it should be. So lets dive right in!

#1 – The ‘Illusion’ Mindset

One way I see this, and have personally been a victim of myself, is the ‘illusion’ mindset. This is messing with our heads in multiple ways. Here’s how.

Illusion #1 – We Are Not This Body

It’s true that we are not this body, and the body is only a vessel. But when you burn your finger, or hit your head, how do you go about believing this is an illusion?!

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It is most often in moments of pain, that the physical reality dawns upon us. Before that, we’re in our own worlds, in our own bubbles.

Then, my first question is, why should we reject this vessel? Or worse, misuse it, thinking that it is impermanent in nature?

Isn’t spirituality about respecting the entirety of existence – every cell, every molecule, every energy form?

Look after your physical body. Have more time for activities such as Yoga, gymming or a simple jog around the blog.

Illusion #2 – Everything material is ‘maya’

Not just the physical body. But when you’re focused on the spiritual aspect of your life, you automatically start feeling a disconnection from materialism.

For example, the car I drive is not an illusion, because it definitely does get me from one point to another. And every time I’ve had an accident, I’ve surely felt the impact of it in my very bones! But there was a time when I was the girl who freaked out and screamed at an auto-driver because he rammed his auto into my brand new car.

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Because of what I will propose in the solution soon, I am no longer attached to my car. I enjoy driving, and yes, it upsets me that all my hard-earned money is spent repairing the many scrapes that occur from driving on jam-packed Indian roads. But I am no longer that girl.

Illusion #3 – All Your Relationships are Temporary

Furthermore, the illusion mindset makes you disconnect from relations around you. When you start seeing everything as temporary, you force yourself to detach.

However, detachment, unless coming from a natural place is bound to give you the feeling of spiritual loneliness.

Read More : How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge and Have More Detached Compassion

Illusion #4 – This Planet is Fake

And the most serious example of the implications of the illusion mindset, is people that aren’t worried this planet is under man-induced catastrophe that can wipe out our entire race. Why?

Because they believe that it’s temporary and that we’ll go live on another planet anyway. In other words, undermining the entire course of nature that got us to where we are. Hmm…

And so I come back to the question once again. Isn’t spirituality about respecting the very essence of everything, material and non-material?

It neither makes sense to ignore or call our experiences an illusion, and neither does it help to become overly obsessed with the things that deliver these experiences.

How do we find a balance though? We’ll get to that shortly. Let’s quickly talk about the second type of disconnect.

#2 – The Intergalactic Mindset

The second way in which I’ve seen the disconnection rise, is the growing talk in the community about people being starseeds, or coming from different planets to help the people on Earth.

Some believe that they’re from the future, or from a parallel reality and have been trapped into this version of life. Others even believe that there’s a matrix in place that prevents us from remembering our true state, and that aliens are helping us exit this matrix.

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And while I respect all ideas and remain neutral about how true they are or not, ultimately we all come from the same source.

When we reminisce the potent planets we may have lived on in the past or that we’re better because we are NOT really human descendants, we are neither fully appreciating life on Earth.

Nor are we giving a fair chance to the opportunities we can take in the here and now, because we have layers of disapproval, resentment or even sadness about how the environment here is not what we want it to be.

And we are feeding our spiritual loneliness by trying to create spiritual qualifications, groups or hierarchies.

My philosophy is simple. No matter where you’ve come from and what paradise you’ve seen, now that you’re here, let’s try to make the most of it, eh?

#3 – Being on a Spiritual ‘High’

What could be so wrong with being on a Spiritual high, you might ask.

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We feel better about ourselves, because hey, atleast we’re not sex-freaks or addicts, but are we really any better, if we ourselves are spiritual junkies? And you might even wonder, is there even such a thing as being too spiritual?

I’ll let you read more about this hard-hitting answer first, and come back to this post.

Even after reading the aforementioned post, you might not think you’re on a spiritual high, but there are always signs and symptoms that become prevalent.

The biggest sign is your lower chakras being out of balance.

Your lower chakras connect you to the physical realm, the higher chakras to the Spiritual realm, and your heart centers and anchors you to both!

The practice of balancing our chakras is essential, because it’s easy to get carried away and start renouncing so many of the human needs before we’re meant to. The worst effect is how disconnected we feel from EVERYONE and keep going on and on about how we’re ‘different’.

I mean think about it. Don’t you think something has to be off in our inner energies too? The whole of existence can’t be wrong, can it?

So, let’s talk about the solution now for all this talk about spiritual loneliness.

EXPERIENCING TRUE CONNECTION

I will go into much more detail about Chakras in a future post, but major thing you need to understand today, is the need to align of your chakra system. This is quintessintial to make the most of every aspect of your being – Spiritual and Physical.

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Some practical and easy techniques that I highly recommend from personal practice are :

  • Natural grounding practices like being in nature, around animals, playing with kids etc. to rebalance your lower chakras and help you feel more connected through your Root,
  • Meditating or wearing grounding crystals. Black tourmaline is one recommendation. Clear quartz and amethyst have worked well for me too.
  • Meditate on your heart Chakra (my suggestion is the Heartfulness Way by Daaji)
As spiritually awakened beings, it is our responsibility to look after and optimize our use of the energy centers given to us. Not ignore them and fool around (neither spiritually, nor materially).
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Don’t believe me? Sincerely try these techniques out for just 2 to 3 weeks, and you’ll experience the inner transformation yourself. Spiritual loneliness? No more. 🙂

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10 Inspiring Spiritual Quotes

From my personal collection, my favourite inspirational spiritual quotes about Life, Relationships and more!

Jumping right into my list of all-time favorite spiritual quotes, no further introduction needed!

#1 – When you know better, do better.

By Maya Angelou.

We often hold a tendency to accuse ourselves and others, “why would you do that, ofcourse you know better than that!”. But the truth is, if we really, truly knew better, we’d do it.

For example, we all know we should go to the gym, eat healthy, be honest, etc. But not all of us can live upto even these simple understandings. Why? Because they haven’t truly integrated into our being!

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Once we have understood them at our core, it just becomes second nature. So the next time you or someone makes a mistake, let this be a reminder – if they knew better, they’d do better.

#2 – You wanna come with your cup full. What comes out of the cup is for y’all, what’s in the cup is mine.

By Iyanla Vanzant, this is one of the most unconventional spiritual quotes. We’ve all been taught to keep loving and caring for others unconditionally. We’ve been taught to put other first.

But it makes complete sense – how we can we be of service to others if we keep serving ourselves last (and thus, exhausting ourselves)? Self-love explained in the finest way!

Read More : 7 Daily Rituals for Self-Love

#3 – Let there be spaces in your togetherness.

Kahlil Gibran was ahead of his time in teaching us about healthy boundaries and interdependence in relationships. His book, The Prophet is a gold mine of spiritual quotes! But I’ll share the ones that really hit home.

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Whenever I find myself clinging to my husband and taking away from his personal time, this simple poem rings in my head like a reality check.

Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.


Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.


Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

While this quote pertains to romantic love in his book, The Prophet, it really extends to every relation.

#4 – You start where you left off.

This was an insight on suicide, provided by a spiritual teacher that communicates with Angels, and the deceased ones, Rebecca Rosen. It might seem out of place to some of the readers, but her work is extensive and has brought tremendous help to countless people.

With the growing number of suicide cases, I approach this heartbreaking subject with a gentle reminder that many books also provide evidence of.

We don’t really escape, we just come back here again and again, redoing all the ABC’s, toddler walks, teenage dating and more before we, once again, get the opportunity to deal with our life’s challenges.

Thus, the only way out of this, is through this, as the saying also goes.

#5 – Nobody should be anyone’s teacher for more than a few months.

By Dr. Brian Weiss, though this is lesser known amongst his other spiritual quotes, was what empowered me.

Every guru I meet may only walk a certain distance with me. The real guru lies within all of us, and within me too. It has thus helped me to never ‘settle’ for one kind of experience, and instead to go within to find the answers, as I experience life’s many flavors.

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#6 – Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, grow, grow.

By Talmund.

In your darkest times, even when you cannot see the Light and it feels impossible to believe, know that everything is divinely guided, even a blade of grass. The universe talks to all of us, we just have to listen. 🙂

#7 – Since the universe is self-organising and self-correcting, if anybody did anything to harm me, the universe is already on it [karma]. The universe has a way to make sure I get, whatever in the material world that person took away from me. We call that the ‘Principle of Divine Compensation’.

From Marrianne Williamson, in her video about Forgiveness.

The message is loud and clear – the Universe is our provider and that’s where our expectations should lie, not in people!

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#8 – 42.

On the face of it, a number doesn’t qualify as a spiritual quote. But here’s the essence.

In the book Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, the number 42 is the “answer to the meaning of life, the universe, and everything” – calculated by a Deep Computer over a very, very long time. Though the meaning of this cryptic calculation is widely debated, the answer I read moved me deeply. Here’s what I found.

Software developers like to use 42 as a magic number, i.e. a number without any real significance, which you could replace by any other number. In other words, the meaning of life, is ANYTHING YOU WANT IT TO BE.

This has always humbled me, whenever I’ve been in doubt if I’m “doing the right thing”.

#9 – So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honoured by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.

Humbling eh? Don’t toot your own horn! This is actually from the Bible, Matthew 6:2.

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#10 – The Eagle does not fight the snake on the ground. It picks it up into the sky and changes the battle ground, and then it releases the snake into the sky.  The snake has no stamina, no power and no balance in the air. It is useless, weak and vulnerable unlike on the ground where it is powerful wise and deadly. 
Take your fight into the spiritual realm by praying and when you are in the spiritual realm God takes over your battles.  Don’t fight the enemy in his comfort zone, change the battle grounds like the Eagle and let God take charge through your earnest prayer. You’ll be assured of clean victory.
Pray without ceasing.

What are some of your favorite spiritual quotes? And how have they helped your journey? Let me know!

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Unemployment : Lessons From A Year Without Income

I took every ounce of my year of unemployment as an opportunity for personal evolution, and came across with these major realisations.

To clarify that I did not get fired, rather that I resigned from the corporate world because I had other career plans for myself. But, those plans didn’t happen on my timeline. As a consequence, I lived with my parents and had zero active income for nearly 1 year!So, here are the lessons my unemployment brought for me.

#1 – Whatever resources I need, will come to me exactly when I need them.

I’d heard a lot about the abundance mindset that is promoted in the spiritual community, but this became my first-hand experience.

The first concern people have, is the loss of a security net. Though I lived with my parents, there were some financial expenses and assets that I continued to take care of independently.

There was a certain amount of money I needed to complete my pending investments in the upcoming years, but being unemployed, my savings were not fitting.

It might sound unbelievable, but the truth is, as soon as the next instalment would come around the corner and my account was depleted, I received the financial support I needed through a gift, older investment maturing or returns from tax.

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This happened on several occasions and now I have a safety net big enough to even generate some savings, too. 🙂

#2 – You get to choose your story.

I often got judged, hard. At first, I used to try to invoke sympathy by saying that I was fed up of my job and that it wasn’t my thing, and this and that… but later I realised, I was only trying to seek approval and second-guessing myself every time gave me that look of disappointment.

My story is as simple as this, now. I’m transitioning into a more fulfilling role. And in the process, I’m building my presence as a writer. 🙂

#3 – Other people’s success does not mean I’m failing. Unemployment does not mean failure.

I was always somewhat proud to say that I’ve never felt envious before. Until the day my best friend started getting back-to-back job offers and I sensed a tinge of envy.

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He took it really well, held compassion and even admiration that we could be so honest with each other. This became the opportunity for me to see that my life is succeeding in other spaces.

#4 – Unemployment doesn’t equate to purposelessness (I spelled that right on the first shot, phew!).

I used to work 5 days a week, now I work 7.

Building a morning and evening routine for myself was the best decision I could have ever made, and I’m only sorry I waited 25 years! I am able to do EXACTLY what I want to do with my time. And this has improved my mental health in ways I cannot even begin to describe!

Read More : 7 Daily Habits for Self-Care

#5 – You learn how to un-workaholic yourself.

Like I said, post leaving my job, I became occupied around the clock. Even if they were meaningful ventures, it took me a lot of patience to undo my need to work too much.

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I started balancing myself. First, I became active, but not necessarily productive, in business terms.

Also, I wasn’t a couch potato, infact I only watched a few minutes of comedy at the end of every day, but the rest of my time was devoted to my well-being and spreading the Light.

#6 – Unemployment is lonely.

I love being alone, it’s my comfort zone, to be honest. But even to me, it became quite lonely. When I was working and constantly surrounded by people, I always craved solitude. I spent whatever time I had after work just soaking in my own energy and trying to experience ‘freedom’.

Now that I had it unbarred, it taught me so much about the need for companionship. I began to appreciate group meditation, workshops and even collaborations with people for my blog. Heartfulness Meditation group sessions were one of such grounding activities that brought me greater peace.

A big lesson came forward – we aren’t meant to live life on Earth alone. We just need to learn to live it with detachment and compassion. As my husband puts it, inter-dependent versus co-dependent.

#7 – Balance is NOT effortless, atleast not at first.

In the truest sense, unemployment taught me to balance myself in a way, that no job can teach anyone. When you are fully accountable of yourself, it can be daunting. Full accountability means being able to make small choices at every awake moment.

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Do you spend your day sleeping because you slept late at night?
Do you take a shower the first thing in the morning or skip a few days at a time? Or…Do you spend time reading a book, or in front of the TV?

It calls for the need to have certain routines, to keep growing, educating yourself and moving forward even if not in terms of a paid career.

And most importantly, my unemployment taught me that my job doesn’t define who I am.

I define who I am.

And I am a little more awesome, every single day! 😉

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