Your Future Self, By Serena Rogers

A powerful guest post by Serena Rogers, about discovering your Future Self with steps to become one with your ideal version.

Self-limiting thoughts, self-doubt and negative self-talk are the main reasons why people do not carry out their dreams, dare to try new things or challenge themselves. Fear of failure, loved ones and societal expectations stop us before we even get started. Picturing yourself carrying forth your passion should not be a challenge, but in today’s world it is… So, where to start? 

Simply by imagining…

If I were to ask you to imagine your future self, what would you say?

Most people would uurrmm and ahhh and probably think of something that someone else said, along the lines of… “Well my other half has always said I should do…” or “I’m kind of good at ____ that’s what my boss said anyways…”

Nothing definitive, nothing concrete, very vague and almost cautious. Ok, so let’s try it again… And now, dig deep! Think about your passions, your dreams, your wants and desires. It is limitless!

Don’t put a cap on it by thinking, “Well I’ve got a child, so I couldn’t do that!” or “I’d need to be qualified to follow that path” Just for a minute, let your restraints of every day adult life go, and picture…well…whatever you want! It doesn’t hurt anyone to do that and it doesn’t mean that you can or can’t.

Just simply imagining a completely different version of you could be the thing that opens up your mind to different possibilities! 

Remember when you were young and you had a dream, let’s say it was to be an Archaeologist, like Indiana Jones? (Yes, I’m showing my age now!)

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You didn’t start thinking, well I’d need to get a visa and have X amount of money, I’d need specific training… you just simply imagined it.

Your imagination had no limits, right? Even as a teenager, there were less boundaries, you had more energy, yes of course, but you were freer! 

As we get older, the weight of adult life starts to weigh heavily on our bodies, to the point where doing something as simple as imagining, becomes a task that we have to find a greater purpose to. We need to remember that our young soul still lives inside us and to let it venture out every now and again.

If you were your future self, what would YOU want YOU to do right now? 

A difficult one to get your head around, I know. But if you had the knowledge you do now, when you were, let’s say, a teenager. I’m sure you would want to pass that on, so you could flourish and maybe, well, enjoy life, just that little bit more. I know I would!

I would not concentrate on unimportant things like how popular I was, what other people thought, but maybe concentrated more in other lessons, enjoyed going to school a bit more and the freedom that being a teenager comes with.

Laughed harder, complained less, loved more.

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I think we get so bogged down with adulthood, the responsibilities, the routine, the pressures, the expectation.

The desire for a comforting life, to know where our next meal comes from, being the ever-reliable predictable employee and other qualities that secure our monthly pay cheque, that we have forgotten how to live, how to dream, what our passions and unique abilities are.

You would be bold and daring to go for those less obvious choices, the ones that push and push you to your limits, that challenge you and help your mind expand and change. 

You would be kinder and more caring to yourself, to others, help more, be selfless. Not focus on financial rewards and be more intrinsically motivated. Do things because of the way they make you feel, the memories they give and the relationships they build.

You would keep those emotions in check! Be more mindful about the words you use, not act out of strong emotions, like fear, grief, anger or sadness and learn to feel them and let them pass because you know they won’t last forever. Think back to a time when you’ve acted out of, let’s say anger. How did it end up?

Do you look back on it fondly or do you scold yourself and have deep regrets and think how you’d do things differently. I’m far from perfect and when I think back to times when I’ve acted out of strong emotions; I think of what I’ve learnt from that and how I’d act now if I was faced with a similar scenario. 

What else could you do? 

Surround yourself with positive influences.

It can be hard in today’s world at times, I know. I started my Facebook group for this exact reason. If you haven’t the positivity you need right now, go and find it. People aren’t as horrible as we’ve been made to believe. 

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Challenge self-limiting thoughts and self-doubt by recognising them.

Not holding onto them but letting them pass. Because they will and do not let them rule or overwhelm you. Distract yourself with a bit of self-love, lean on those supportive people around you, flip those negative thoughts to positive ones or use them for personal growth.

Face your fears.

Then, challenge negativity with your strength of giving something new a try and getting out of your comfort zone. Then you will grow in confidence, self-esteem and have concrete belief, whether failing or succeeding, that you can achieve your dreams.

Exercise gratitude daily.

Remind yourself to be happy of the life you have made for yourself.

Read More : 8 Ways of Grateful Living

Be happier by living intentionally.

And being in the here and now. Don’t weigh yourself down with regrets of the past or busy your mind with worry of the future.

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Stop comparing your life to others.

They are not you and you are not them. You haven’t lived their lives and they haven’t lived yours. Realise you are right where you’re supposed to be now, which might not make sense whilst you are living it.

Which brings me onto another point.

Trusting the process.

Don’t fret or worry about if what you’re doing is right or wrong. Instead ask yourself, does what you’re doing now, support your plans, goals and dreams. Does it benefit you and others around you? Go from here…

Last and certainly not least, have fun! Enjoy your life! After all, life is for living! 

So, what are you going to do, now? 

I’m not one for telling people how to live their lives or being over prescriptive, take what you like and leave the rest or take the whole lot and see how it fairs for you…

However, going through this journey I found, doing the above is helping me enjoy my life more and giving me the courage to continue daring to go for my dreams. It’s too easy to quit, it’s too easy to sit comfortably, it’s too easy to let negative thoughts win.

I’m passionate and firmly believe that living more positively and believing in yourself, is the key to unlocking your true potential, abilities and forgotten passions, in order to achieve your dreams, goals and your own version of success. 

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What is innately in you that, what’s your drive, when are you in your flow, what are you good at? Sometimes, you’ve just got to dig deep! My aim is to inspire, motivate and connect with like-minded everyday people and achieve our dreams together. Fancy joining me on my journey? 

Thanks for reading. Give your future self a chance…Your dreams are waiting, go get them! 

Until next time…

Serena

Serena Rogers has over 15 years of working within the Housing, Health and Social Care sector; facilitating workshops, teaching, training and supporting individuals with multiple and complex needs in the UK.

She is currently training as a Hypnotherapist. Having built a following through blogging and Instagram; a space for people to explore all that is human and feel safe to do so. Allowing people to move from passion to purpose.

5 Ways to Increase Self-Love, by Iman

A guest post by a repeat writer for the blog, Iman Walker on five simple strategies to increase self-love. Read this for some new year motivation!

A guest post by a repeat writer for the blog, Iman Walker on five simple strategies to increase self-love.

“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” – Louise L Hay

Contrary to what some people think, self-love is not a bad term. It doesn’t mean you’re a narcissistic, selfish or self-absorbed person. Quite the opposite. As a matter of fact, it means you make the effort of recognizing your worth and value.

Self-love is accepting that as human beings, we’re imperfect. And that’s perfectly okay.

In a world where we’re always reminded to compare ourselves to others, to change our lifestyles or looks to fit silly societal standards, self-love is what we do to accept who we are as individuals.

Now, this may sound like sweet, cliche talk, but it’s true. Putting yourself first in your life is a practice that can transform your relationship with yourself.

If you’re ready to start appreciating yourself and your efforts, valuing who you are as a human being and knowing your self-worth, I have five tips that’ll help you out on your journey towards loving yourself.

#1 – Silence the mean, mental chatter in your mind.

Our inner critic.

We all have one. Her opinions are hurtful and useless, and although we realise this, we always listen to her.

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Let’s admit it. If we spoke to others the way we speak about ourselves, we wouldn’t have any friends. Sometimes, WE are our worst enemies.

One of the first steps to loving yourself is to silence the mental chatter. Don’t give this voice in your mind any attention. Dismiss the criticism. This might be difficult at first because we’re so used to giving in to this mean voice. But with practice, it’ll become easier.

We criticize our bodies, our looks, our ability to do things. And so the best way to combat this voice is to vocally tell ourselves the complete opposite of what she’s saying.

So next time you criticise yourself for whatever reason, flip the script and say something positive instead. You’re always with yourself, you deserve that self-love and appreciation.

#2 – Self-love means you stop comparing yourself.

Before we had billboards, magazines and movies that made us compare ourselves. Now it’s all those things and social media.

Many of us are guilty of using social media in a way that doesn’t benefit us. Every day, we scroll through our feeds, staring at pictures of people we think have perfect lives, bodies, partners, and so on.

If you think about it, what does this do besides ruin your mood?

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I love this quote by Iyanla Vanzant, “Comparison is an act of violence against the self”. Her choice of words shows how damaging it is to compare ourselves to others. It brings about no benefit.

If you want to start loving yourself more, you must recognize that you were created unique, and your journey is different from everyone else’s. Anway, if we were all the same, life would be boring!

#3 – Recite positive affirmations about yourself.

Research has shown that reading or reciting affirmations can influence how we feel about ourselves in a good way. This also subconsciously encourage us to make good choices in life.

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You can come up with your own self-love affirmations. But just to give you an idea of what you can say, here are some examples:

  • I believe in myself and my abilities to do amazing things
  • I am worthy
  • I’m deserving of love and respect
  • My self-esteem is always increasing
  • I’m always trying to become a better version of myself
  • I have special gifts unique to me
  • I value myself and my self-worth
  • I’m in control of making my own decisions
  • I can make a positive difference in the world

#4 – Embrace your differences as an act of self-love.

This tip ties in with the one about comparisons.

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Society has set an unrealistic standard for how our lives should be. But, in our pursuit of meeting this impossible standard, we put ourselves down for being different.

This needs to stop. We’re not all the same and we were never meant to live identical lives. Don’t look down upon yourself for being different. This is what makes you unique and special.

And embracing your differences is a key ingredient in your journey to self.

To love ourselves is to accept ourselves as we are. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t strive to become better. Naturally, you should always try to improve. It’s important to have goals, but love every step you take towards reaching your objectives.

#5 – Be patient with yourself.

“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself” – Max Ehrmann

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This is one of my favourite quotes. It can be interpreted in different ways, but I understand it like this: While changing, growing and transforming yourself, be gentle. Be patient. Be loving.

Whatever phase you are at in life, whatever choices you’ve made, there’s always a way to make things better. On some days, you won’t feel good about yourself. But that’s okay. As with anything in life, the goal is to carry on and not give up.

Final thoughts

There you have it. Five pieces of advice to help you increase self-love. I hope you found them useful, but there are many other ways you boost self-love. Check out this post on 7 daily rituals that are essential for self-love.

Iman Walker is a copywriter and blogger for the personal development industry. She enjoys writing on a variety of subjects, particularly those related to self-growth and productivity.

You can check out more of her work at https://imanwalker.com/ and on her Instagram page.

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Love Is Where It Is, by Kevin

Love is where it is, is a thought-provoking reflection on the spiritual nature of love, and how to embrace it in daily life.

Here’s a thought-provoking reflecton on love, by our guest post Kevin Thompson from Resting Times.

There are days when I long to be elsewhere. Anywhere else.

Things seem stale, usual, or even mundane. So, usually, most of those days are spent inside my head, thinking of the ordinary, and seeing very little possibility. Everything seems familiar. Mostly because of my lack of interest in seeing the present moment as a new moment.

The road that is traveled to my house seems the same. Each step from the driveway to the front door seems rehearsed. Words spoken to my family upon entry to my home seems familiar and rehearsed. Eating a bite for dinner, sitting for a time on the deck, and off to bed.

Luckily for me, I catch myself on those ordinary days, and imagine the impossible. I do something just a little differently. Perhaps brushing my teeth with my left, instead of my right, hand. Maybe the right sock goes on first rather than the left. Instead of exercising, I might meditate. Rather than sipping tea, I might sip coffee.

What is most helpful during any day filled with the usual, is realizing that some people actually come to my town on purpose.

They come for vacations, business, and to see family or friends. There are mountains, there are rivers and lakes, and there are great restaurants. My hometown is a destination.

Every time I get a chance to “get away”, I pass people from the town that I am going, who are coming to the place from which I just departed. All for the same reason. What I find fascinating about their city, they most likely, at times, find stale, usual, and even mundane. This is human nature.

Relationships are like this. Spiritual practice is like this. Employment or even entrepreneurship, is like this. Anything the human is capable of doing, has the potential to become a burden instead of a blessing.

The blessings do not change, but the perception of the blessing changes.

We should not feel ungrateful or believe that we should feel guilty for not realizing how fortunate we are. What is true, is that we should simply be aware of the feeling and do something to change our view of what is happening in our lives. Not in order to appreciate things to be gracious, but to enjoy one more of the many ways an event might be experienced.

For those of you that drive, you might shake up your day be getting into your car from the passenger side. If you eat well, snack on small things during the day. If you have a meager diet, try something a little more. When you are faced with a challenge, do the exact opposite of what you are known for doing. My personal favorite is to take a minute to send an acquaintance a small message or drawing.

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Once, while in Manhattan, upon exiting an apartment building for the southern US, I found myself with only a $1 bill. Staying in New York was not an option and I needed to get home. As I exited the lobby, I held the door for a young man and said, please take this dollar. With a smirk he looked at me and said, “I don’t need your dollar.”

I replied, “I know, but I need the karma much more than I need the dollar. Please, take the bill.”

He did, and the adventure home began. That adventure is too long for this article. Twenty years later and I feel somehow that I am still on that journey home. The only thing I know for sure, though having had many dollars since, is that I always need the karma more than the dollar.

It is this way with my thinking, my words, my imaginings, and my drawings. Someday I might need the dollar more than the karma, but for now, I am lucky enough to send encouragement into the world and let it fly and land where it will.  

Here is what I know for certain. Without any doubt. There is in all of us, a spark of the divine that exists both within and outside of what we consider our form. If you close your eyes, you might even imagine that you and it are one. And if you are able to imagine yourself as one with the divine, with love, it might not be so hard to imagine yourself as one with the creation of which you are a part.

If this proves too difficult, my recommendation is simple.

Think well of yourself. Think well of your place and position in the world. Be more grateful each day. For simple things and big things.

Take deep breaths and enjoy the simple pleasure of rest. Understand that you are as much a part of the universe as the brightest star. That you have the ability to affect everything in a positive way. You are worthy of great things. The secret is to realize this and be able to receive love.

Love is where it is. Kindness is the way to get there. Peace is what will light the way. May you find all three.

Remember the good times. Consider the most wonderful solutions to the most difficult problems. Keep reminding yourself that there is nothing stale, usual, or mundane about the you that is born anew each day.

Love & Light,

Kevin