Self-limiting thoughts, self-doubt and negative self-talk are the main reasons why people do not carry out their dreams, dare to try new things or challenge themselves. Fear of failure, loved ones and societal expectations stop us before we even get started. Picturing yourself carrying forth your passion should not be a challenge, but in today’s world it is… So, where to start?
Simply by imagining…
If I were to ask you to imagine your future self, what would you say?
Most people would uurrmm and ahhh and probably think of something that someone else said, along the lines of… “Well my other half has always said I should do…” or “I’m kind of good at ____ that’s what my boss said anyways…”
Nothing definitive, nothing concrete, very vague and almost cautious. Ok, so let’s try it again… And now, dig deep! Think about your passions, your dreams, your wants and desires. It is limitless!
Don’t put a cap on it by thinking, “Well I’ve got a child, so I couldn’t do that!” or “I’d need to be qualified to follow that path” Just for a minute, let your restraints of every day adult life go, and picture…well…whatever you want! It doesn’t hurt anyone to do that and it doesn’t mean that you can or can’t.
Just simply imagining a completely different version of you could be the thing that opens up your mind to different possibilities!
Remember when you were young and you had a dream, let’s say it was to be an Archaeologist, like Indiana Jones? (Yes, I’m showing my age now!)
You didn’t start thinking, well I’d need to get a visa and have X amount of money, I’d need specific training… you just simply imagined it.
Your imagination had no limits, right? Even as a teenager, there were less boundaries, you had more energy, yes of course, but you were freer!
As we get older, the weight of adult life starts to weigh heavily on our bodies, to the point where doing something as simple as imagining, becomes a task that we have to find a greater purpose to. We need to remember that our young soul still lives inside us and to let it venture out every now and again.
If you were your future self, what would YOU want YOU to do right now?
A difficult one to get your head around, I know. But if you had the knowledge you do now, when you were, let’s say, a teenager. I’m sure you would want to pass that on, so you could flourish and maybe, well, enjoy life, just that little bit more. I know I would!
I would not concentrate on unimportant things like how popular I was, what other people thought, but maybe concentrated more in other lessons, enjoyed going to school a bit more and the freedom that being a teenager comes with.
Laughed harder, complained less, loved more.
I think we get so bogged down with adulthood, the responsibilities, the routine, the pressures, the expectation.
The desire for a comforting life, to know where our next meal comes from, being the ever-reliable predictable employee and other qualities that secure our monthly pay cheque, that we have forgotten how to live, how to dream, what our passions and unique abilities are.
You would be bold and daring to go for those less obvious choices, the ones that push and push you to your limits, that challenge you and help your mind expand and change.
You would be kinder and more caring to yourself, to others, help more, be selfless. Not focus on financial rewards and be more intrinsically motivated. Do things because of the way they make you feel, the memories they give and the relationships they build.
You would keep those emotions in check! Be more mindful about the words you use, not act out of strong emotions, like fear, grief, anger or sadness and learn to feel them and let them pass because you know they won’t last forever. Think back to a time when you’ve acted out of, let’s say anger. How did it end up?
Do you look back on it fondly or do you scold yourself and have deep regrets and think how you’d do things differently. I’m far from perfect and when I think back to times when I’ve acted out of strong emotions; I think of what I’ve learnt from that and how I’d act now if I was faced with a similar scenario.
What else could you do?
Surround yourself with positive influences.
It can be hard in today’s world at times, I know. I started my Facebook group for this exact reason. If you haven’t the positivity you need right now, go and find it. People aren’t as horrible as we’ve been made to believe.
Challenge self-limiting thoughts and self-doubt by recognising them.
Not holding onto them but letting them pass. Because they will and do not let them rule or overwhelm you. Distract yourself with a bit of self-love, lean on those supportive people around you, flip those negative thoughts to positive ones or use them for personal growth.
Face your fears.
Then, challenge negativity with your strength of giving something new a try and getting out of your comfort zone. Then you will grow in confidence, self-esteem and have concrete belief, whether failing or succeeding, that you can achieve your dreams.
Exercise gratitude daily.
Remind yourself to be happy of the life you have made for yourself.
Read More : 8 Ways of Grateful Living
Be happier by living intentionally.
And being in the here and now. Don’t weigh yourself down with regrets of the past or busy your mind with worry of the future.
Stop comparing your life to others.
They are not you and you are not them. You haven’t lived their lives and they haven’t lived yours. Realise you are right where you’re supposed to be now, which might not make sense whilst you are living it.
Which brings me onto another point.
Trusting the process.
Don’t fret or worry about if what you’re doing is right or wrong. Instead ask yourself, does what you’re doing now, support your plans, goals and dreams. Does it benefit you and others around you? Go from here…
Last and certainly not least, have fun! Enjoy your life! After all, life is for living!
So, what are you going to do, now?
I’m not one for telling people how to live their lives or being over prescriptive, take what you like and leave the rest or take the whole lot and see how it fairs for you…
However, going through this journey I found, doing the above is helping me enjoy my life more and giving me the courage to continue daring to go for my dreams. It’s too easy to quit, it’s too easy to sit comfortably, it’s too easy to let negative thoughts win.
I’m passionate and firmly believe that living more positively and believing in yourself, is the key to unlocking your true potential, abilities and forgotten passions, in order to achieve your dreams, goals and your own version of success.
What is innately in you that, what’s your drive, when are you in your flow, what are you good at? Sometimes, you’ve just got to dig deep! My aim is to inspire, motivate and connect with like-minded everyday people and achieve our dreams together. Fancy joining me on my journey?
Thanks for reading. Give your future self a chance…Your dreams are waiting, go get them!
Until next time…
Serena Rogers has over 15 years of working within the Housing, Health and Social Care sector; facilitating workshops, teaching, training and supporting individuals with multiple and complex needs in the UK.
She is currently training as a Hypnotherapist. Having built a following through blogging and Instagram; a space for people to explore all that is human and feel safe to do so. Allowing people to move from passion to purpose.