One day, YouTube unexpectedly brought me to Caroline Myss, whose spiritual ideas made it easier for me to recognize why things happen the way they do. She was the pioneer in my understanding of Soul Contracts.
Shortly after that, many other spiritual books I had begun to read further strengthened my understanding. Here’s an outline of the ideas I came across, blended with my interpretation and personal experiences.
So, before we take birth there is a certain incubation period. Imagine that in this period, you huddle together with your companions for a meeting. These are the people you share your life with today.
From a person you talked to for a brief moment in the lift, a beggar on the street, your parents, your ex, to your life partner and everyone else in between. The purpose of this spiritual round-table conference is to decide the lessons you will learn in the life to come. These are soul contracts, being written for you as you get ready to pursue the next ride to Earth.
You and your soul tribe together are looking down and out into the future, to see what most serves for all concerned.
Everyone’s Role in Your Soul Contract
Of course, you cannot do this alone.
To learn the act of forgiveness, someone must take the responsibility to deeply hurt you. Thus providing you the choice to either forgive them or stay resentful.
To know how to be independent and strong, someone must ensure they abandon you at your worst hour. Thus giving you the opportunity to either stand up for yourself, or fall down and succumb to your circumstances.
So, everyone you meet has signed-up to help your soul’s evolution. YOU have signed-up too, to deal with them. Even the annoying ones. Yup!
By knowing that everything is an elaborate play, you can allow yourself to grow. We don’t need to try to rationalize someone’s behavior. And our pain should guide us, not make us feel helpless.
The process of building yourself this way is called Ascension. As the name itself suggests – it is ascending or rising above the current state. The more you move up the ladder, the bigger a picture you’re able to see of your life.
You become detached, but much more loving towards everyone. Because now, you begin to see that we’ve all decided to do this together. To build each other up even if it means, ironically, breaking each other down sometimes.
In a recent group session I ran for the tribe, Shanal, one of my clients shared a beautiful poem. I feel compelled to share it with everyone for us to celebrate soul contracts as something much more than just a “lesson”.
The fire burns through you
Flaming away more than the eyes see
I love the way I feel
I love the way I fall
Into the warmth
It doesn’t burn
Not the good things anyway
When my fire burns
The flames touch you
Not to hurt
But to heal
My protection becomes yours
Sometimes, the very triggers (fire) that someone brings out in us become the catalyst for our healing. And if we are able to transcend the pain of these wounds, the fire takes away the pain and becomes gentle. Warm and nurturing. And so, when this fire has transmuted into something more powerful, it becomes a protection for everyone it touches. And in that, not just you, but every life you touch is healed through the flames.
However it’s understandable that we are letting go of years (and sometimes lifetimes) of conditioning. So at times, some people might find themselves experiencing an intensified feeling of the duality and separation in their relationships, as their own world-view shifts. The fire feels like it’s engulfing us!
This is a temporary phase in the stages of your awakening. Eventually, you will be able to embrace the differences and step back into the Oneness. To be able to rise like the phoenix and be in touch with your eternal flame.
Why are Soul Contracts different for anyone?
How you learn things will be unique, designed to suit your soul’s personality and requirements as you progress.
You may become the parent to a differently-abled child, so that you can learn to take care of and love someone unconditionally. Even if they may never be able to pay you back! And you might have to keep taking care of them for several years, before you truly understand this.
On the contrary, someone else might learn the lesson of unconditional love by having to deal with difficult siblings, or a stubborn partner who makes a lot of bad choices.
That’s why someone might have a financially booming career without putting in much effort, but suffer from acute illnesses and die early. At the same time, another person barely makes it through the days with a loaf of bread and water, yet manages to stay alive decades longer.
Not every experience is for you to have within one lifetime.
There are some lessons you have already mastered in the past, and there are others that will come to you when it’s your time.
Have you ever felt like your parents or someone much older than you is acting irrational, and you’re the one parenting them? Yes, souls have different maturity levels. Don’t be fooled by the human relationship or age you’re in! Really, your soul has taken many lifespans to acquire a holistic and all-encompassing flavor of humanity.
All that’s great – but where’s the proof?
I hear you! I myself have gone through many past life regression sessions and can vouch that we are made of many lifetimes’ worth of experience – our experience and lessons are NOT by chance.
The concept of before-life and afterlife are very fascinating and extensive subjects on their own. So what better a book to read, than Journey of Souls? These theories have been scientifically backed by decades’ worth of intense research conducted on voluntarily regressed patients, under the care of renowned hypnotherapist, Dr. Michael Newton.
Likewise, some other pioneers in this space include Dr Brian Weiss, Dr Eben Alexander and Jim B. Tucker. You can read more about their work in my other post, called 5 Bold Spiritual Books with Scientific Backing.
But why don’t we remember we have soul contracts?
There are two aspects to this question. When we incarnate here on Earth, we undergo an amnesia of sorts. This prevents us from being overloaded with the past – it’s like a soft reset, giving us permission to start with a clean slate. However, what we do remember from our past, is the lessons we’ve learned.
And it kind of makes sense in present life as well. Except for a few gifted people in the world, we don’t remember every little detail about day-to-day life. We might remember that a friend makes us feel good, but we don’t necessarily remember every single thing they have ever said to us.
Or in contrast, we might remember a “toxic relationship” but for all good measure, the mind mutes the gory details and mostly retains the boundaries we learned to place because of it. Which is helpful because that would require a lot of mental strength to carry with us all the time!
Now imagine if you had to carry all of that memory from several lifetimes? Boy that would be something. So, amnesia is helpful.
But the second aspect to this answer is the fact that we have the free will to make choices. So for instance, many of our romantic interests can be past partners, but if you remember that, it can conflict with how you perceive them today. You want to be able to see everyone as they are in this reality because we are all evolving, and we are all creating different realities from what we were ‘back then’.
That’s not to say that we have absolutely forgotten the past. Everything that has happened or is going to happen is energy, which can neither be created nor destroyed. So, it’s all out there, and some people call this our “Akashic Records“. Kind of like a giant network of memories and events stored beyond space and time. This is probably a topic much deeper and better saved for another time.
And of course, there are some opportunities where people can retrieve past lives, or they have Near Death Experiences and it helps them ‘see’ the bigger picture. But for most parts, evolution is naturally designed for us to take the lessons and drop the story. Why bother biting more than we can chew, until we’re ready for it?
How Soul Contracts can transform your life
Analyze your present situation – is there someone who’s difficult to deal with? Are you stuck in a circumstance and have no clue how to change it?
You must go deep down, and try to find the root cause. What haven’t you learned yet? What must you understand, so that you can stop running around in circles, and move forward to newer experiences?
Conscious living is the mind-set that says – you are a soul in a human body, here only for the soul’s evolution. This helps us keep the drama at bay.
What if you don’t want to learn?
As long as the lesson is resisted, it will resurface over and over again. And every time with a higher intensity, higher urgency. If you manage to let the lesson pass you in this lifetime, you’ll have to take it up in the next.
This is one way to look at innocent children who take birth and die soon after, from grave illnesses.
Through their soul contracts, they had to grasp how to be taken care of when they are absolutely helpless and crippled. Perhaps because they held too much pride in their past lives to take favors. So let’s put it this way – the only way out of it, is going to be through it.
But don’t let that frighten you! When you allow yourself to look at everything as a catalyst for your soul’s growth, you begin to enjoy challenges. As a consequence, it gets easier to identify what’s missing/lacking from your palette and improve it.
I love what spiritual teacher, A H Almaas says:
“Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life, are not chance or haphazard, they are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything.
That part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You’re not going to go in the right direction unless there’s something pricking you in the side saying “Look here, this way”. That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up. It will make you suffer greatly, if you don’t listen, what else can it do? That is its purpose.”
Essentially what he reiterates to us is that by embracing your soul’s plan and working to heal these planned lessons, you become powerful within, enough to be able to say “I’m going to acquire this new badge of honour.”
Thus, you consciously experience whatever life brings, catch hold of the lesson, and brush off the dust from the adventure to say, “This is good enough, now let’s explore something new”. That is where your role ends.
One Last Step
Now comes the role of the Universe – it’s going to test you. Once you believe that you’ve truly integrated a value into your life, the Universe is going to put forward a few more scenarios in your soul contracts, where you must display your recently acquired skill.
If you haven’t learned correctly, you may respond like an older version of yourself would’ve. If you are able to respond differently, you have made progress.
So, if you pass the test, the lesson is complete. Even if something reoccurs, it won’t have power over you, and you will feel the freedom and transformation taking place. If you don’t succeed, try again and see where you fell short.
This isn’t mockery from the Universe, it doesn’t “hate” you. It’s simply showing you that there’s more work to do in this certain chapter.
Also, get familiar with the divine laws of the Universe. Because you DON’T have to do this alone anymore. The Universe has your back even in the toughest of trials, and is simply waiting for you to call it forth into action. You are being divinely guided even when it feels like otherwise to the ego-mind.
Think of it as this – if you wanted to get from one destination to another by the fastest possible mode of transport, would you pick a motorcycle or bicycle to get there? In the same capacity, our ascension and evolution should be rapid.
So as you learn your life lessons, don’t be shy to ask for Divine Intervention and clarity on how to overcome the obstacles.
Does the suffering ever stop?
If you did your homework well for the test, then the best thing is going to happen to you. You’re going to laugh and say to the person who’s been treating you badly all this while – “hey, you don’t bother me anymore, I’m done with your BS”.
And within no time, you’re going to notice them change their behavior towards you.
Precisely what happens when young kids face their bullies – the bullies lose their power, and find a new target. This is very fast-paced, it doesn’t have to take weeks or months to happen for you. I have seen a lot of this happen rapidly in personal, unpleasant encounters too.
Another point worth noting is that YOU have an equally important role to play in other’s lives.
A more serious example is, you might have signed up the contract to enter into a relationship where there is domestic violence inflicted on you, so that you can inspire others in the same situation around you when you finally take a stand for yourself and put your partner behind bars. It makes sacrifices like Nirbhaya’s no longer go in vain – she revolutionized women’s safety for the people of India. I salute you, warrior soul.
It is your side of the contract to bring out the best in some people, and the worst in others, just like they do for you.
Closing Thoughts on Soul Contracts
Buddha spent a really long time, through meditation, to find the end to suffering. The thing is, in this time and era, with the rise of inhumanity and atrocities, we don’t have enough time left to leave everything behind and explore our inner truth in isolation. If we want to flip life around for humanity, it needs to happen fast, and now!
Look around you – people are growing spiritual in their own chaotic lives. They’re meditating indoors, balancing their chakras, learning healing techniques, and discussing souls a lot more freely.
The point is – you can end your suffering, and the way is to be conscious of life itself. For minds that are curious about the ‘why’, clarity on these questions can become humbling, and becomes a great alternative to end suffering.
I am deeply passionate about this topic, as you might see by now.
And I’ve committed my journey into healing my soul contracts, as well as helping people around me heal theirs. If I can be of service to your journey, do feel free to put in your application here and get a chance to work 1:1 with me. I’m happy to help you unpack some of your spiritual shenanigans!
My sincere gratitude to the following key writers of some phenomenal spiritual works, which have been catalysts in the transformation of my life. Here is a list of these authors and some of their finest works.
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