7 Spiritual Facts About Your Annoying Relationship

Why are some people impossible to tolerate? Looking into the role of annoying people, both spiritually and psychologically.

Why are some people impossible to tolerate? Looking into the role of an annoying relationship in our life, both spiritually and psychologically.

Side Note : I have been meaning to write this one, since about two years, now. Time I finally got to it.

If it’s someone at work, sure you can always deal with their less-than-healthy behaviour and manage this situation to an extent, as I’ve talked about in the recent post, How to Deal with Toxic People.

But sometimes those people can be our partner, or our parents. Then what do you do? And you can’t just go around avoiding everyone, you would have nobody left.

It’s easy to become defensive and say “I don’t need anybody”, but that’s just ego talk. So, to bring true inner change, here are a couple of perspectives I want to share.

#1 – The more someone pushes your buttons, the more tightly-knit your spiritual bond is.

Every single person in your life is there for a very specific reason, and even the irritating ones are NOT by chance.

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The people you resist the most can also teach you the most about your own shortcomings. They bring many deeply-effecting lessons.

They have soul contracts to treat you in a certain way (because they are the best candidate to stir you in this said way, based on their own spiritual evolution) to help you heal parts of you that are getting triggered right now when they so-called ‘push your buttons’.

#2 – You can escape the relation, not the lesson.

You can abruptly end one relationship, but if you don’t deal with the lessons it brought, that behaviour will keep resurfacing for you.

There’s a reason why people now have even 2 or 3 divorces, as a bad example. There’s something within their story that they are unwilling to heal,because of which it keeps coming back with a new face.

However, if you still want to consider ending the relationship with someone, check this video out first, called Should I Break Up?

#3 – Many times, relations of different types will form similar patterns.

That means, you will have the same issues over and over again – the reason may be different on the surface but the core lesson will be the same.

Some patterns may include the side effects of being a people-pleaser, or not being able to accept people without judging them. Or learning how to not give unsolicited advice.

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#4 – In the annoying relationship, YOU may have a karmic debt to this person.

Though I don’t like to classify souls as old or new, it can be seen that some souls have a tougher time living the human experience than others. They may be physically unwell all the time, or have a lot of emotional and mental disturbance. And so, they need help to get by.

Sometimes, we sign up for caretaker roles in others lives.

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Our contribution is larger than what we are getting in return, it seems. But what does this teach us? It helps us understand the importance of giving back, without always being able to receive anything in return. This is a great and tough way to experience the law of Divine Compensation.

#5 – At a soul-level, nobody is really a bad person.

As difficult as that is to believe when a relationship is so annoying, it gets on your nerves. But, just think of it. We are the sum of everything that has ever happened to us. Nobody is the way they are without a reason.

We learn from our parents, society, personal traumas etc. When hitting your head against the wall about why someone treated you in a certain way, think from THEIR perspective. If we can stop taking things personally, we will be able to react a lot less.

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We have to stop feeling threatened and cultivate the space that lets us treat others with compassion even in ugly situations. Which brings me to my next point.

#6 – Someone’s behaviour isn’t about you, it’s about them.

What you are feeling as a consequence of their behaviour, is about you. This is the mirror exercise. I learned this when I was working on my Twin Flame Healing, but it applies to life in general.

So start using the emotions that arise in you to heal your deeper-rooted wounds. Instead of focusing on the question why are they doing this to you, determine why its effecting you.

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#7 – People’s inability to love you back doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.

It doesn’t mean you deserve this perpetually.
It also doesn’t mean you love ‘too much’.

Concluding Thoughts

All this being said, the conclusion is quite evident. An annoying relationship can have a huge karmic role to play in our life.

Everything happens for you to evolve. You can either be fussy and bitter about it, or you can become accountable and rapidly change everything for the better.


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41 thoughts on “7 Spiritual Facts About Your Annoying Relationship”

  1. I came to realize that as soon as I try to look at things from the other person’s perspective, I find it very easy to deal with even the most intolerable people. Thank you for this post.

  2. “The more someone pushes your buttons, the more tightly-knit your spiritual bond is.”

    I have to share this one with my mother. No matter how much my dad pushes my mom’s buttons, they are really happy with each other.

  3. I find the quote about behaviour on the spot because I know some people who got distracted on the process of a breakup that they forgot about why it happened at the first place.

  4. I don’t think I could have a relationship with someone that annoys me. I wouldn’t be able to stand it. I think both our lives would be miserable.

  5. This article really hit home for me. I liked the first point – that the more someone pushes your buttons the more tightly you are bound spiritually. It always seems the people closest to me can push my buttons the hardest! Even if it took you a couple years to put the post up, I’m glad you did. Thanks, again!

  6. “The people you resist the most can also teach you the most about your own shortcomings.” I’ve been learning this lesson more and more here lately. Very insightful.

  7. Number six was definitely an eye opener. This whole blog was really insightful, and I don’t see much blog posts like it!

  8. I definitely think that when people test our patience and we either lash out at them or choose to be the bigger person and ignore then says a lot more about us than we’d think. Sadly, there is no escaping “annoying” people, but if we learn how to deal with them (or not deal with them at all, at that) we will be much happier.

  9. Used to shy away from the effects of annoying people, thinking just like my parents all over again, nothing to do with me!. Now I see people as teachers and look to their effects and what is this trying to teach/show me? Received some eye opening answers sometimes. If they have nothing to teach you, you won’t be annoyed. Funny that!

  10. Personally I sometimes struggle to understand karma. One really valid point I agree with you on is that no one is bad person. I believe this myself wholeheartedly that at the deepest level the essence of every person is compassion.

  11. This is such an interesting post. Found points 2 and 6 especially thought-provoking. Definitely agree with the whole not giving unsolicited advice. That hit a nerve – not helpful!

  12. This is absolutely worth the read… it took a short time to hear, but it has taken a lifetime to understand (still not there yet). Thank you for taking the time to put it all down in words. Peace.

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