Do You ‘Love Too Much’? Read this.

You’ll need to ‘see’ this post, just as much you need to ‘read’ it to understand the practical analogy for “if you love too much”.

“I do a lot for other people, but I never feel as appreciated. I feel like I love too much!”

If this sounds like you, keep reading.

Today, we’re going to use an analogy to understand what’s going on. And hopefully, how to overcome it.

NOTE: This analogy is not limited to romantic relationships. But we’re using it, because it’ll be easier to get. You’ll see what I mean!

The Rice Analogy

Imagine that you are a shopkeeper who sells rice.

Why rice, you ask? Because that’s my food of choice. I’m an Asian. Shall we proceed, now?

Okay, so.

One day, your crush comes up to you and asks you for a small bag of rice. Trying to impress, you offer her/him a medium bag. FOR THE PRICE OF A SMALL BAG.

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She walks off happy with your extra rice and heart.

She comes back after a week. This time, she’s brought money for the medium rice. You play it cool, you only give her a medium bag of rice, just like she asked. She walks off disappointed though, and you have a feeling she’s not coming back.

“God, just please bring her back!”

You’ll ‘up’ your game the next time, you promise.
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She doesn’t come back for a couple of weeks, but when she finally does, she’s with a new guy. That’s it! You’ve got to make your best move now! You hand her the large bag of rice, for the price of a medium. New guy – 0, You – 1.

As for your finances, it’s a minus 1. But love conquers all, everyone knows that! Don’t be stingy! Money is an illusion anyway. Right?

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Over time, you both begin to build a good relationship. You share a couple of laughs, have coffee and cute moments like all rice-couples probably do. You’re ‘more than friends’. Or so, you’ve started to believe.

But one day, she’s back at your shop with new guy. And now, you notice he’s got his arm around her. He isn’t new guy anymore, he’s the guy. So, in a moment of panic, you do what you do best. You place an irresistible offer.

You offer a medium bag of rice, free with the large bag, only for the cost of a large. You’re broke anyway at this point, but if you can save this relation, things will be alright.

She’s hesitant. “That’s too much”, she says. You insist that it’s for ‘old-time’s sake’. With a cordial nod, she takes the bags, and they begin to walk away.

But what’s that? She hands the free bag to her guy. Gulp.

You just got LOVE-MUGGED.
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By this point, you’ve invested a LOT of rice in this crush. And your crush has ‘used you’, ended up crush-ing you. And all that free-loading has cost you a huge loss. You are suffering, not just emotionally, but financially too.

One day, a wealthy customer comes up to your shop. Her angelic face is a reflection of her heart of gold. This could have been the love of your life, your partner in crime, the perfect gravy to your rice.

But all the stress finally caught up with you – you’re closing down.

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Does any part of this sound familiar?

I know that it’s a crude way to look at our emotional investment in other people. But unfortunately, we can’t see love like the undervalued rice. We can’t quantify it in bags, and put a price tag on it.

And thus, because of the mistreatment and taken-for-granted relationships, so many people spend their lives doing more than they need to, for those that don’t need it, and thus don’t appreciate it.

“I will never trust/love/marry again”.

By the time life gives them a chance to form better relations, they’re emotionally depleted. Scarred for life! So many people lose their focus from work, go into depression and become victims of substance abuse.

So what’s the takeaway, and how can we overcome this?

Just because you can offer more rice, doesn’t mean the other person needs it.

In reality, the best way to check this is, if you stopped doing some of your out-of-the-way gestures, would this person even notice? Probably not.

Even if they did, it wouldn’t be a deal-breaker for them. The person that’s so used to being ‘spoiled’ might throw a couple of taunts and tantrums, but trust me – they’re not going anywhere! You’ll still be happy together. And imagine what you could do now, with all that spare time/effort!

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Hang out more with the people that enjoy your rice.

Ever heard the saying, “marry someone that loves you, not someone that you love”? Ofcourse you don’t have to enter a pretentious relation where you don’t feel invested, but everyone deserves security.

Whether it’s a friend or romantic interest, if you are constantly admitting that this person is ‘out of your league’, there’s a chance that your rice is made for someone else.

Don’t quit any relations, just go spend more of your time (probably saved from doing less, from the point above) with people that make you feel more loved!

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Don’t close your shop. Use the rice that’s left for yourself. Take a break, and come back with a better brand.

Don’t become ‘cold-hearted’. Don’t become a raging alcoholic. And don’t change yourself!

Use solitude, traveling, new hobbies, new friendships – handle it maturely. Invest your rice, your love in YOU. And the best thing about self-love, is that unlike rice which requires more money and planning, self-love generates on its own overtime, within YOU.

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Self-love is a whole other topic to talk about though. If you’re looking for more ideas, take a look at this video.

Concluding Thoughts

This post is dedicated to every single person that’s loved a friend or romantic partner with all their heart, and still lost.

Don’t give up, it wasn’t really a loss. You just haven’t met your kind of people yet.

Keep going 🙂

P.S. Here’s another stickmen analogy about Identity Crisis, check it out!

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What are Soul Contracts & How Do They Influence Our Spiritual Journey?

What are Soul Contracts? Is our destiny predetermined? And many other spiritual reflections.

I stumbled upon Caroline Myss on YouTube one day, whose spiritual ideas made it easier to recognize, why do things happen, the way they do. She was the pioneer in my understanding of Soul Contracts.

Shortly after that, many other spiritual books that I began to read also strengthened my understanding. Here’s an outline of the ideas I came across, blended with my interpretation and personal experiences.

The ‘Before-Life’

So, before we take birth, there is a certain incubation period. Imagine that in this period, you huddle together with your companions for a meeting. These are the people you share your life with today.

From a person you talked to for a brief moment in the lift, a beggar on the street, your parents, your ex, to your life partner, and everyone else in between. The purpose of this spiritual round-table conference, is to decide the lessons you will learn in the life to come. These are soul contracts, being written for you as you pursue the next ride to Earth.

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Everyone’s Role in Your Soul Contract

Ofcourse, you cannot do this alone.

To learn the act of forgiveness, someone must take the responsibility to deeply hurt you. Thus, providing you the choice to forgive them or to stay resentful.

To know how to be independent and strong, someone must ensure they abandon you at your worst hour. Thus, giving you the opportunity to stand up for yourself, or to fall down and succumb to your circumstances.

So, anyone you meet has signed-up to help your soul’s evolution. YOU have signed-up too, to deal with them. Even the annoying ones. Yup!

Related : 7 Karmic Lessons Annoying People Are Teaching You

By knowing that everything is an elaborate play, you can allow yourself to grow. We don’t need to try to rationalize someone’s behavior. And our pain should guide us, not make us feel helpless.

The process of building yourself in this way, is called Ascension. As the name itself suggests – ascending or rising above the current state. The more you move up the ladder, the more you are able to see the bigger picture of life.

You become detached. But much more loving towards everyone. Because now, you begin to see, we’ve all decided to do this together – to build each other up, even if it means to ironically break each other down sometimes.

At times, some people might find themselves experiencing an intensified feeling of the duality and separation in their relationships, as their own world view shifts. This is a temporary phase in the stages of your awakening! Eventually, you are able to embrace the differences and step back into the Oneness.

Why are Soul Contracts different?

How you learn things will be unique, designed to suit your soul’s personality and requirements, as you progress.

You may become the parent to a differently-abled child, so that you can learn to take care and love someone unconditionally even if they may never be able to pay you back, and you might have to keep taking care of them for several years, before you truly understand this.

On the contrary, someone else might learn the lesson of unconditional love by having to deal with difficult siblings or a stubborn partner that makes a lot of bad choices.

That’s why someone might have a financially booming career without putting in much effort but suffers from acute illnesses and dies early. While the other person barely makes it through the days with a loaf of bread and water, yet manages to stay alive decades longer.

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Not every experience is for you to have within one lifetime.

There are somethings you have already mastered in the past, and there are others that will come to you when it is your time.

Have you ever felt like your parents or someone much elder than you is acting irrational, and that you’re the one parenting them? Yes, souls have different maturity levels, don’t be fooled by the human relationship or age you’re in! Really, your soul has taken many lifespans, to acquire a holistic and all-encompassing flavor of humanity.

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All that’s great – but where’s the proof?

I hear you! I have gone through many past life regression sessions and can vouch that we are made of many lifetimes worth of experience – our experience and lessons are NOT by chance.

The concept of before-life and afterlife are very fascinating and extensive subjects on their own. So what better a book to read, than Journey of Souls? These theories have been scientifically backed by decades worth of great research conducted on voluntarily regressed patients, under the care of renowned hypnotherapist, Dr. Michael Newton.

Likewise, some other pioneers in this space include Dr Brian Weiss, Dr Eben Alexander and Jim B. Tucker. You can read more about their work in my other post, called 5 Bold Spiritual Books with Scientific Backing.

How Soul Contracts can transform your life

Analyze for your present situation – is there someone who’s difficult to deal with? Are you stuck in a circumstance and have no clue how to bring change?

You must go deep down, and try to find the root cause. What haven’t you learned yet? What must you understand, so that you can stop running around in circles, and move forward to newer experiences?

Conscious living is the mindset that says, you are a soul in a human body here only for the soul’s evolution. This helps us move away from the drama.

What if you don’t want to learn?

As long as the lesson is resisted, it will resurface over and over again. And every time with a higher intensity, higher urgency. If you manage to let the lesson pass you in this lifetime, you’ll have to take it up in the next.

This is one way to look at innocent children who take birth and die soon after, from grave illnesses.

Through their soul contracts, they had to grasp how to be taken care of when they are absolutely helpless and crippled. Perhaps because they held too much pride in the past life to take favours. So let’s put it this way, the only way out of it, is going to be through it.

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But don’t let that frighten you! When you allow yourself to look at everything as a catalyst for your soul’s growth, you begin to enjoy things. As a consequence, it gets easier to identify what’s missing/lacking from your palette and improve it.

You become powerful within, enough to be able to say, “I’m going to acquire this new badge of honour.”

So, you consciously experience whatever life brings, catch hold of the lesson, and brush off the dust from the adventure to say, “this is good enough, now let’s explore something new”. That is where your role ends.

One Last Step

Now comes the role of the Universe – it’s going to test you. Once you believe that you’ve truly integrated a value into your life, the Universe is going to put forward a few more scenarios in your soul contracts, where you must display your recently acquired skill.

If you haven’t learned correctly, you may respond like an older version of yourself would have. If you are able to respond differently, you have made progress.

So, if you pass the test, the lesson is complete. Even if something reoccurs, it won’t have power over you, and you will feel the freedom and transformation taking place. If you don’t succeed, try again and see where you fell short.

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This isn’t mockery from the Universe, it doesn’t “hate” you. It’s simply showing you that there’s more work to do in this certain chapter.

Also, get familiar with the divine laws of the Universe. Because you DON’T have to do this alone anymore. The Universe has your back even in the toughest of trials, and is simply awaiting for you to call it forth into action.

Think of it as this – if you could get from one destination to another by the fastest possible mode of transport, would you pick a motorcycle or bicycle to get there? In the same capacity, our ascension and evolution should be rapid.

So as you learn your life lessons, don’t be shy to ask for Divine Intervention and clarity on how to overcome the obstacles.

Does the suffering ever stop?

If you did your homework well for the test, then the best thing is going to happen to you. You’re going to laugh and say to the person who’s been treating you badly all this while – “hey, you don’t bother me anymore, I’m done with your BS”.

And within no time, you’re going to notice them change their behavior towards you.

Precisely what happens when young kids face their bullies – the bullies lose their power, and find a new target. This is very fast-paced, it doesn’t have to take weeks or months to happen for you. I have seen a lot of this happen rapidly in personal, unpleasant encounters too.

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Another point worth noting, is that YOU have an equally important role to play in other’s lives.

A more serious example is, you might have signed up the contract to enter into a relation where there is domestic violence inflicted on you, so that you can inspire others in the same situation around you when you finally take a stand for yourself and put your partner behind bars. It makes sacrifices like Nirbhaya’s no longer go in vain – she revolutionized women’s safety for the people of India. I salute you, warrior soul. 🙂

It is your side of the contract to bring out the best in some people, and the worst in others, just like they do for you.

Closing Thoughts on Soul Contracts

Buddha spent a really long time, through meditation to find the end to suffering. The thing is, in this time and era, with the rise of inhumanity and atrocities, we don’t have enough time left to leave everything behind and explore our inner truth in isolation. If we want to flip life around for humanity, it needs to happen fast, and now!

Look around you – people are growing spiritual in their own, chaotic lives. They’re meditating indoors, balancing their chakras, learning healing techniques, and discussing souls a lot more freely.

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The point is – you can end your suffering, and the way is to be conscious of life itself. For minds that are curious about the ‘why’, clarity on these questions can become humbling, and becomes a great alternative to end suffering. All the best!

My sincere gratitude to the following key writers of some phenomenal spiritual works, which have been catalysts in the transformation of my life. Here is a list of these authors and some of their finest works.

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Spirituality 101: Ten Divine Laws of the Universe

Free will, Karma, Religion and many other spiritual concepts are understandable with the Universe’s Divine Laws. Check them out!

It’s important to become aware of the fundamental laws that govern our Universe, to build our spiritual foundation. But unlike societal laws, Divine Laws are never broken.

Even if you don’t believe in them, these Cosmic Laws still apply to you, and to every other form of energy, from a single atom to a giant blue whale.

I would consider them the starter pack to Spirituality, the things that we’ve known all along at a soul-level but have forgotten due to the ‘amnesia’ of our human life. Let’s take a look at these laws now, shall we? 🙂

#1 – The Divine Law of Free Will

Also known as the law of inspired action.

Everyone has the right to decide how they react at every instance in life. That means, among other examples, you can NOT use the law of attraction to attract a specific person into your love life. Hate to break it to you – but you have to stop blaming the Universe, and start respecting personal choices.

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God does not micromanage, and we are not puppets. Which is also why God doesn’t “stop” wars or terrorism, or child trafficking – WE as a race, as a collective have allowed and brought this upon ourselves, and are thus accountable for it. It’s time we learn to take ownership of our actions.

There are a lot of other misconceptions about God, worth demystifying by the way.

#2 – The Divine Law of Cause and Effect

Karma is NOT always the bad guy.

This is probably the most misunderstood of all the divine laws. Karma is simply restoring balance for ALL things, bringing everything full cycle.

So any good that’s in your life, is also karma.

Your well-being, your finances, relationships, friends that share good food and music, all are a reward of the good karma. So stop being scared of it because you will always get what you deserve, the good and the bad, both.

Read More : 7 Ways to Master Your Karma

#3 – The Divine Law of Compensation

You’re not wrong to expect something in return for what you do for others. You’d wonder why despite all the good you do to someone, it doesn’t come back from them, and then you’ll hate God some more. Where’d all the good Karma go now, eh?

Remember Free Will?

Well, that person is executing their free will in treating you with less love. That’s not your fault. The Universe however, will always compensate by bringing that love to you through a different means.

Let go – you will quickly notice someone much more loving come in his or her place. This isn’t just about romantic relations, it’s true for everything – you will find someone else playing the role of a better sister, brother, best friend, mother, father if you can stop being stuck on the one who’s failing to.

By holding onto toxic and less-than-deserving relations, you’re the one holding back from the Universe reaching out to you and delivering what you so desire (and deserve). This is what Marianne Williamson calls the Law of Divine Compensation.

#4 – The Divine Law of Grace

The human law of going to churches, temples or mosques does NOT matter in the spiritual realm. Praying in silence, with an honest heart does. 

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Divine laws like this eliminate religious myths and help us understand what truly matters. Think of it – God isn’t just sitting in a temple, rather is everywhere and in everything, always listening to you. Omnipresent.

And no matter where you are, or WHO you are, when you tap into the Infinite Source with a true intention, you are graced with miracles beyond imagination.

Read more : God Fearing or God Loving?

Let me explain with a funny story.

A pastor and a taxi driver both died and went to heaven. St. Peter was at the Pearly gates waiting for them.’Come with me’, said St. Peter to the taxi driver.The taxi driver did as he was told and followed St. Peter to a mansion. It had anything you could imagine from a bowling alley to an olympic size pool.’Wow, thank you’, said the taxi driver.
Next, St. Peter led the pastor to a rugged old shack with a bunk bed and a little old television set.’Wait, I think you are a little mixed up’, said the pastor. ‘Shouldn’t I be the one who gets the mansion? After all I was a pastor, went to church every day, and preached God’s word.”Yes, that’s true. But during your sermons people slept. When the taxi driver drove, everyone prayed.’Source : Jokes Christians Unite

#5 – The Divine Law of Oneness

There is only ‘one-God’, an Ultimate Creator.

Krishna, Buddha, Allah, Shiva or Christ are not Gods, in the sense that we’ve made them to be.

They too are souls, just like us. They are however, Enlightened souls that became messengers of the Universe, spreading the message of Love and Peace, in dire times when the world was losing sight of its direction.

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Respecting such Enlightened souls is great, following scriptures that talk of their Divine Messages is fine too, and through prayer you are simply seeking their support in your life – but no ‘God’ is better than the other.

Everyone is simply following their own Spiritual path, and invoking any ‘God’ is simply tapping into their unique strengths. We are all a part of the Universe, and thus there is only One of us actually here. The Ultimate Creator, and we are Him/Her existing.

If you’re really willing to open your mind, start praying to ALL of them. Having an entire team working with you increases your chances exponentially of gliding smoothly through life. Which brings me to the next point.

#6 – The Law of Divine Intervention

No one is keeping score up there, for how well you managed doing it all by your glorious self. The only thing being tracked, is how fast you’re Ascending and how humbly. There’s no need to struggle unnecessarily, there’s no need to reinvent the wheel. There are no brownie points for suffering more. That’s all there’s to it folks. Pray all you want – nobody’s judging you!

#7 – The Law of Correspondence

Or, as the saying goes, as above, so below.

You are capable of becoming just as Enlightened and powerful as the God you worship. You actually, eventually will be, FYI. That’s the whole purpose of this journey, and the point of talking about these divine laws.

I can’t make as convincing a case in a few hundreds words, as a book could. So if you’re looking for a mind-blowing, compelling argument, Conversations with God is the book that will challenge your belief system about this.

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#8 – The Divine Law of Absolution

A major responsibility we have in life is to respond to the external events with acceptance, faith and grace. You need to understand the underlying lesson and approach it with learning, instead of anger.

Everything is absolute, and will come to completion in due course of time. No sooner, no later.

In other words, if you’re not meant to die – you will survive that accident even if everyone else does not.

If you’re not meant to reach somewhere, you will notice indefinite hardships which eventually stop you from getting there.

These are extreme but important examples, because some events in our destiny are planned for us, to challenge our learning. Instead of denying or getting furious, it is better to quickly move into learning the lesson and growing your spiritual strength!

#9 – The Divine Law of Infinite Possibilities

There are people who come to work everyday and crib about how awful it is. But, are we doing something about it?

The same goes for relationships – you give excuses in the name of ‘no choice’ to stay in unhealthy relations. And then, you mourn how poorly you’re being treated. It is true for everything in life.

Anything you can crib about, is capable of being swapped for something better. It’s available, but the question is – how bad do you want it?

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The Universe does not want you to be unhappy and the divine laws remind you that this is all really ego-talk and inner resistance.

Fear is making us too scared to explore, too afraid to step outside the comfort zone. And so you see, you’re the one that’s settling for less than the best. The Universe always has your back. You’re the one that needs to make a choice to want more. Once you do, it’ll come in a magnificent scale, something you won’t be able to even believe!

#10 – The Divine Law of Guidance

There are no such thing as coincidences.

Have you ever experienced this, where you kept seeing, hearing and reading something from various sources? Where psychology will dial it down and call it Confirmation Bias, the Universe does not believe in coincidences.

Pay attention when the Universe speaks to you. If you’re looking for signs – stop ignoring them when they do happen for you! Angel Numbers, feathers, dreams and intuitive hits often become a huge part of these synchronicities we see.

Read More : Everything You Need to Know About Angel Numbers

Note: I’m not talking about social media websites drawing in ads of things you browse. That’s not the Universe, that’s just a lot of creepy AI.

All that being said, if you asked me where you should start from, I’d say start from here. Allow yourself to put these divine laws to test for you. Let the Universe work with you, with your consciousness focused on the way it works.

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