To clarify that I did not get fired, rather that I resigned from the corporate world because I had other career plans for myself. But, those plans didn’t happen on my timeline. As a consequence, I lived with my parents and had zero active income for nearly 1 year!So, here are the lessons my unemployment brought for me.
#1 – Whatever resources I need, will come to me exactly when I need them.
I’d heard a lot about the abundance mindset that is promoted in the spiritual community, but this became my first-hand experience.
The first concern people have, is the loss of a security net. Though I lived with my parents, there were some financial expenses and assets that I continued to take care of independently.
There was a certain amount of money I needed to complete my pending investments in the upcoming years, but being unemployed, my savings were not fitting.
It might sound unbelievable, but the truth is, as soon as the next instalment would come around the corner and my account was depleted, I received the financial support I needed through a gift, older investment maturing or returns from tax.
This happened on several occasions and now I have a safety net big enough to even generate some savings, too. 🙂
#2 – You get to choose your story.
I often got judged, hard. At first, I used to try to invoke sympathy by saying that I was fed up of my job and that it wasn’t my thing, and this and that… but later I realised, I was only trying to seek approval and second-guessing myself every time gave me that look of disappointment.
My story is as simple as this, now. I’m transitioning into a more fulfilling role. And in the process, I’m building my presence as a writer. 🙂
#3 – Other people’s success does not mean I’m failing. Unemployment does not mean failure.
I was always somewhat proud to say that I’ve never felt envious before. Until the day my best friend started getting back-to-back job offers and I sensed a tinge of envy.
He took it really well, held compassion and even admiration that we could be so honest with each other. This became the opportunity for me to see that my life is succeeding in other spaces.
#4 – Unemployment doesn’t equate to purposelessness (I spelled that right on the first shot, phew!).
I used to work 5 days a week, now I work 7.
Building a morning and evening routine for myself was the best decision I could have ever made, and I’m only sorry I waited 25 years! I am able to do EXACTLY what I want to do with my time. And this has improved my mental health in ways I cannot even begin to describe!
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#5 – You learn how to un-workaholic yourself.
Like I said, post leaving my job, I became occupied around the clock. Even if they were meaningful ventures, it took me a lot of patience to undo my need to work too much.
I started balancing myself. First, I became active, but not necessarily productive, in business terms.
Also, I wasn’t a couch potato, infact I only watched a few minutes of comedy at the end of every day, but the rest of my time was devoted to my well-being and spreading the Light.
#6 – Unemployment is lonely.
I love being alone, it’s my comfort zone, to be honest. But even to me, it became quite lonely. When I was working and constantly surrounded by people, I always craved solitude. I spent whatever time I had after work just soaking in my own energy and trying to experience ‘freedom’.
Now that I had it unbarred, it taught me so much about the need for companionship. I began to appreciate group meditation, workshops and even collaborations with people for my blog. Heartfulness Meditation group sessions were one of such grounding activities that brought me greater peace.
A big lesson came forward – we aren’t meant to live life on Earth alone. We just need to learn to live it with detachment and compassion. As my husband puts it, inter-dependent versus co-dependent.
#7 – Balance is NOT effortless, atleast not at first.
In the truest sense, unemployment taught me to balance myself in a way, that no job can teach anyone. When you are fully accountable of yourself, it can be daunting. Full accountability means being able to make small choices at every awake moment.
Do you spend your day sleeping because you slept late at night?
Do you take a shower the first thing in the morning or skip a few days at a time? Or…Do you spend time reading a book, or in front of the TV?
It calls for the need to have certain routines, to keep growing, educating yourself and moving forward even if not in terms of a paid career.
And most importantly, my unemployment taught me that my job doesn’t define who I am.
I define who I am.
And I am a little more awesome, every single day! 😉
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