You might have had months or years with the person, before the breakup. And all the feelings and emotions you have felt during that time don’t go away on their own overnight.
However, there are things you can do that will help heal you a little faster, move on and accept the fact that the relationship was meant to teach you life lessons.
Without further ado, here are my 5 tips that might help you overcome this relationship heartbreak.
#1 – Give yourself time to grieve the breakup
There is no easy way out of these feelings, other than to allow yourself the permission to grieve. That too, right away. The more you let your feelings build up, the longer it will take you to get over the person.
Taking time to grieve and let go of any feelings you have is healthy and encouraged. If you need to cry it out, do it. There is something healing about crying, which is why a lot of us feel better after doing it.
Give yourself a few days to cry it out and be sad, and then try to understand what this relationship was meant to teach you. Which brings me to the second point…
#2 – Understand why the relationship ended
When you breakup with someone, or get broken up with, you might not understand what happened.
Did you two have a big fight and decide to throw in a tunnel?
Or have things been building up for a long time?
Was one of you unfaithful?
Or were you just not a good match?
Sometimes, the person we think we are meant to spend our entire life with turns out to just be a stop along the journey to find that very person. And that’s okay.
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What we need to do when these relationships come along, is recognize what aspects of that relationship were ones we would like to have in future relationships and which aren’t. Are there any things you have done in this relationship that you wouldn’t want to carry on to a new relationship?
#3 – Remove physical reminders of them
This one is a huge one for me. Many of us get attached to material things from past relationships and have a hard time parting ways with them.
There is something to be said about giving away/throwing away/donating your ex’s clothes, gifts or whatever other things of theirs you have lying around.
How many times have we kept something small from a past relationship because it reminded us of better times? That can be fine for some people, but for most of us, it just makes it harder to move on when we have physical reminders of that person all around us.
Rip the band-aid. Get rid of their stuff.
#4 – Fill up your alone time with self-care
Self-care is crucial during any breakup. Instead of thinking about the past, taking time to work on yourself in the present is a great way to strengthen the bond you have with yourself.
Anything from taking a walk, to baking something delicious, to taking a bubble bath and nap are forms of self-care. Filling up your alone time with things you can do to better your mental health and happiness will help you a lot in the long run. For over 60 ideas to practice self-care, click here.
#5 – Stop following them on social media
Ah, social media. Remember when I talked about removing physical reminders of your ex? The same goes for following them on Instagram, Snapchat, and anywhere else you might be following them on.
I know that most of us are nosy and want to know what the person you just broke up with is doing. But trust me when I say that that’s one of the worst things you could do for your mental health.
Stalking them on social media is not going to help you with moving on. In fact, it might just do the opposite, and keep you in this weird place where you are broken up, but still a part of each other’s lives.
If you want to move on, do yourself a favour and hit that unfollow button.
I hope these ideas gave you a deeper perspective on how to get over a breakup. I do want to add one final thought, though.
Not every single time you break up with someone is going to be the same as the other.
Every relationship is different, and all of us have different ways of dealing with going through hard times. Ultimately, you know yourself best and I hope this inspires you to look after yourself even better!
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