It’s interesting to explore the many dimensions and modalities that can help you become self-aware. Learning about your masculine and feminine energy can be a significant step towards inner union. This post is dedicated to helping you understand how.
And a side note to all my Arabic readers: you can now read the Arabic translation of this article on the Mirdad website. Grateful to my sweet subscriber, Nada for initiating this!
Now, you must be wondering, if you’re a guy, you must be masculine energy? Or if you’re a girl, you would be feminine? WRONG!
An Introduction To The Masculine & Feminine Energy
Let’s get the first misconception out of the way.
We ALL have feminine AND masculine energy within us. It is not limited to one’s appearance or gender.
There can, of course, be degrees of masculinity and femininity, which determine our behavior on a day-to-day basis. For example:
- Enjoying giving gifts versus receiving gifts,
- Being able to multitask versus being focused and single-pointed,
- Being emotional versus being logical,
- Leading projects and pursuing people, versus being led or pursued,
- Doing versus being,
- And so on.
Were you able to notice some of these qualities in both the men and women of your life? And within yourself as well, you may notice a unique mix!
Of course, you’re not necessarily always the same way. Different situations bring out different aspects of your individuality. Therefore, throughout life, you experience the yin-yang nature of energies.

It’s also important to understand that if you identify as a masculine woman or feminine man, it’s not a sign of weakness. Nor something to be ashamed of. It is in fact, very natural and has much deeper roots!
This is your soul’s preference that has evolved over many lifetimes. And, speaking of lifetimes, let’s now address the metaphysical nature of these energies.
The Metaphysics of the Dual Energy Types
It recently dawned upon me that our relationship with the universe is also in perfect yin-yang harmony. How?
When we surrender, we act as the feminine energy and allow the universe to take control as the masculine. This is what we call allowing Divine Intervention into our lives.
But for most of us, most of the time, we live with masculine energy. We actively try to make life work our way. At such times, the Universe is receptive and flowing through the course of our actions. Thus, allowing us to be co-creators and itself being the feminine energy in this dynamic.
Thus, perfect harmony. Mystical isn’t it?!
What Ancient Science Says About Duality
Hindu mythology talks about Ardhnarishwar, half man and half woman. This Divine Being embodied both energies and then was split in half to begin life on Earth. The split happened to form the first man, Shiva, and the first woman, Shakti, as we worship them today.

This is why the world says opposites attract. We’re attracting the polarity in every person, trying to feel whole through their presence in our life. And we spend most of this life collecting the missing aspects of our energy.
It is also said that the masculine and feminine energies reside in two of our 72,000 energy channels. These two channels are called Ida and Pingala.
They originate from your second chakra, the Sacral Energy Center. And they are the source of your experience of the duality of life. Then, they diverge and spiral up your Chakra System, finally meeting again at the Third Eye Chakra.
When we work on harmonizing these polarities, we experience our Kundalini energy rising through the Sushumna. This is the straight path enmeshed between Ida and Pingala, connecting straight up through the chakras.
The Sushumna also meets the two energies at the Third Eye Chakra.
Thus, Kundalini Energy can simply be explained as Shakti, the energy at the root of existence rising to meet Shiva, at the crown of oneness. Ultimately becoming everything and then, nothing.
And, when we talk about inner union, we embody Ardhnarishwar. Here, our left half is the feminine and the right is the masculine energy.
What Modern Science Says About Duality
Through books like Journey of Souls, we get another glimpse of the complexity of the human-soul design. Dr. Michael uncovered countless metaphysical insights through thousands of afterlife regression sessions.

Some of my key findings around our duality and polar energies are:
- Souls do not have a gender, but merely pick a body type and play out the role. The more frequently they embody a certain role, the better they get at it.
- So, over time, each soul develops a preference to be born with a certain biological gender. They can even plan out their lives according to such preferences. Dr. Michael claims that we roughly pick the same gender 70% of the time.
- When souls incarnate in the opposite gender, they can find it challenging to act as such. This is often seen as a difficult lifetime, but one that brings deeper evolution.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is another fantastic introspection into our differing needs, and how we can better understand our partners of the opposite polarity.
Why Is It Important to Balance the Masculine and Feminine Energy?
Our ultimate goal for self-awareness is in realizing that we already ARE everything we need. But the number one obstacle we face, which prevents us from knowing this truth, is being driven by our human desire to have a partner to fulfill us.
No, I’m not saying you shouldn’t get married. You absolutely should if that’s your heart’s desire. But we need to understand the essence of partnership beyond self-gratification, having sex, or making babies.

Subconsciously, we expect that attracting a person of an opposite energy type will give us a feeling of fulfillment.
But by balancing your ida and pingala, you begin internalizing and embodying EVERY human trait. You no longer limit yourself to gender roles or societal ideas.
If you’re not seeking fulfillment outwards, you are able to show up in relationships as a happy, healthy, and detached yet a loving person.
When you are self-sufficient, you stop craving relationships to complete you. You are no longer a ‘half’.
And nothing is ‘missing’ in you.
This is a significant aspect of inner union.
Can you imagine the divinity that unfolds from such relationships where there’s no insecurity, neediness, or attachment? Such relationships can shift the reality for everyone around them, and be of true service to the world.
In order to be such a couple, you must begin with yourself. Begin by going within. Evaluate your duality, and bridge your gaps, to level out the imbalance. How? Read on!
Masculine Energy

Key Characteristics
The Divine Masculine energy embodies the following key traits:
- Active, alert, and contributing to the moment,
- Takes initiative, likes to lead, pursue and bring changes,
- Feeling confident and secure in oneself, willing to take risks,
- Well-groomed, disciplined, and able to manage things well,
- Bold and courageous, able to take charge in situations.
Signs of Masculine Energy Imbalance
Your masculine energy is wounded, if you experience any of these signs:
- Pushy, cold-hearted or dominating,
- Relationships are transactional and logic based,
- Low self-esteem and lack of confidence,
- Scared, feeling unsafe in the world, aloof,
- Confused, all over the place, lacking clarity,
- Procrastinating, afraid to take action.
5 Ways to Consciously Balance the Masculine Energy
#1 – Become comfortable in your own skin.
For me, knowing that there’s no such thing as “right” or “wrong” helped me grow confident in my decisions. And once I started valuing my uniqueness and equally unique thought process, it helped build my self-esteem.

#2 – Balance your chakras.
I love how interrelated the two modalities have been in my journey. I enjoy flowing between the two, in my explanation of self-healing tools. For the masculine energy, based on the signs we discussed above, there are two chakras that stand out.
One is the Solar Plexus, which fuels our sense of self, and helps us take inspired actions. If your solar plexus isn’t in balance, you’re going to procrastinate.
And second, is the Heart Chakra. It allows your relationships to stop being too transactional and brings back that human touch people crave from you. This chakra helps heal both aspects of our energy, and is therefore a quick fix! Well, at least relatively speaking.
#3 – Be more accountable and take ownership of life.
When you’re wounded, you want to feel sorry for yourself and throw a pity party. And it becomes convenient by shifting the blame to an external factor. It could be someone or something’s fault that you’re hurt. But if you want to be empowered, lead your life (and guide others), it’s important to become accountable.

Accountable for your reaction, for your actions and choices, and for the way you are experiencing life as a consequence.
A few examples could be:
- If a plan to meet friends didn’t work out, be proactive and create a new plan,
- When you’ve had an argument, be the first one to clean the air and disperse the tension,
- If you’re often considered irresponsible, or laid-back, start taking up more responsibility,
- When you’re having a bad day, don’t use other people as a punching bag. Instead, sit down with yourself, process the feelings, and switch up the mood.
#4 – Develop your discipline.
Maybe you have a tough time continuing a new habit after the motivation fizzles out. You need to realize that motivation is for starting something, but it takes discipline to keep going. The inspiration comes from feminine energy, but it takes masculine energy to drive the idea to completion.
Personally, I recommend reading the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. This book single-handedly taught me how to become more structured in my day-to-day habits.
#5 – Tune into your emotions.
The masculine energy doesn’t know how to process emotions because it’s about agility and “what-next”. So if you have a tough time being empathetic towards others, or expressing your emotions, try:
- Journaling how different events from the day or past made you feel,
- Have conversations where you are NOT giving advice, but simply listening,
- Be open and vulnerable, sharing a little more than you allow yourself to,
- Write letters and express your love and gratitude to people.
Feminine Energy
Key Characteristics
The Divine Feminine energy embodies the following characteristics:
- Soft, nurturing, and gentle,
- In tune with physical body and emotions,
- Willingness to receive love, to be led, and to be pursued,
- Expressive and non-judgmental to listen to others’ problems to,
- Graceful, easy-going, and able to surrender,
- Secure in oneself and able to love generously.
Signs of Feminine Energy Imbalance
Your feminine energy is wounded, if you experience any of these signs:
- Over-giving and overcompensating in relationships (people-pleasing),
- Dogmatic, self-opinionated, unable to accept change,
- Overly active and unable to just ‘be’,
- Heavily identified with your own emotions, and as a consequence getting carried away by them,
- Neediness and self-doubt, demanding love because you feel unworthy,
- Jealous of what another gets, not believing you’re worthy of receiving,
5 Ways to Consciously Balance the Feminine Energy
#1 – Enjoy the act of surrendering and receiving.
For some people, it’s just too hard to let anyone else plan for the vacation.
Or to be on the receiving end of a gift.
Or to be ‘unproductive’.
If any of that sounds like you, you now know why! You’re all about the doing and need to learn to BE. Otherwise, you might experience physical symptoms of fatigue and mental exhaustion.
Caveat: A wounded masculine does NOT mean you’re being feminine in your energy. Or vice versa. Procrastination isn’t the same as surrendering, for instance.
The universe has its ways. If you haven’t experienced a miracle yet, it’s because you haven’t surrendered. The energy of surrendering means we are willing to receive what’s in store for us. And we aren’t going to micromanage as it happens!
How can you begin to surrender? In your day-to-day activities. Here’s a full list of practical tips to help you learn to let the control go.
#2 – Stop conforming.
Feminine energy is at its highest when it’s easy flowing. And therefore it shouldn’t be boxed or caged, but rather constantly in motion, constantly expanding. Constantly exploring oneself. What are some ways to unbox your feminine energy?
- Wear looser, flowing clothes, that help you feel expansive in your body.
- Move in a way that feels good to you. I love silly dancing and headbanging!
- Don’t be shy to try new things, to do the unthinkable.
#3 – Give birth.
It doesn’t have to be a human child, it can be your brain’s child. A project, an idea, a recipe, a piece of art…. Anything that harnesses your creative energy and helps you express yourself is helping you tap into the divine feminine.

#4 – Be in more tune with your body.
Are you often living in your head, daydreaming? Not only is that a sign of a blocked root chakra, but it’s also indicative of lacking feminine energy. So what can you do? You ground yourself!
- Every morning, ask yourself how you’re feeling, and run a mental scan over your body to see how it feels.
- Physical activities like yoga, running, and dancing are great too.
- Be more aware of your physical senses. Practice grounding techniques to help you.
- Pay more attention to your physical appearance. In today’s day and age, the best example is a blog like this. Sure, it can have great content but would you still read it if it weren’t presentable? How you look is an extension of who you are, so don’t undermine how you show up in the world.
#5 – Claim your space.
Being in tune with feelings, emotions and the body is what will help you figure out your own needs. And then, you need to claim your space in the universe.

Here’s how:
- Be yourself, your absolute authentic and unapologetic self,
- Be more vulnerable and allow your good AND bad to be expressed without trying to ‘look good’,
- Stop people-pleasing and being a doormat,
- Set up healthier relationships boundaries where you can continue practicing being yourself.
General Tip
And another simple way to create inner balance is by identifying opposite energies around you, that you look up to.
It could be the values of your partner, a friend, or your parents. As you observe them, begin embodying their traits consciously.
Go Deeper Into Balancing Your Energies
Though I’m a female, my default energy type is that of the masculine. In the early stages of my awakening, I noticed that in uncomfortable situations, I would pick masculinity as a response. What’s your default?
Like that, there are a number of other self-reflecting questions in this healing space that you can delve into, such as –
- Why am I more comfortable being one energy type over the other?
- Do I have shame or fear held in my body towards the opposite energy?
- What stereotypes can I let go of that will help me embrace my masculine and feminine energy wholeheartedly?
Having worked on this space intensely myself, I share my tools and experiences in one-on-one coaching. You’re welcome to get in touch!
I’ve also done an interview recently, answering more questions about the feminine and masculine energies, here. Do explore that as well.
Concluding Thoughts
Isn’t it beautiful that the two aspects of gender are actually a complex blend within each of us! Then why the stereotypes?
Here, we’ve discussed a foundational introduction to balancing masculine and feminine energy. However, as you work inwards, deeper and deeper, you will realize many other wounds open up. And you can continue healing them through your conscious efforts.
All leading to the inner union we so dearly seek.

Vasundhra is the Founder & Writer of My Spiritual Shenanigans. After seeing 11:11 on the clock one fateful night, her life turned around. Ever since, she has been blending modern psychology and ancient spirituality, to help herself and people around the world elevate the quality of their lives.
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Revisited this blog today and it reminds me how interesting we human beings are!! Awesome blog ๐
I found you today as I woke up from a dream on the topic of balanced male/female energy within a coupleship. I’ve worked with couples for 30 years as a marriage and family therapist, and in retrospect I can see how each gender embracing only one side of the dynamic can lead to very unhappy marriages, and imbalanced humans. The current trend toward embracing gender-neutral versions of ourselves, I believe is driven by our innate realization that polarities are not healthy. We are not, mostly, truly gender neutral, born biologically one or the other has tended to allow us to embrace the polarity established by the gender at birth, but our biology is both, just one is more dominant. This is a more healthy way to experience ourselves yet culturally we have been forced into unnatural roles that limit our expression of ourselves as human beings.
Absolutely, Melody! Love the work youโre doing and so happy to hear that your dreams are guiding that work deeper, by exploring topics like balancing our inner yin yang ๐
I love what you have said here. There is a lot of wisdom in your words. It was when I finally let go of the notion that I needed something external to complete me that I made some progress in my spiritual walk. So does it mean that the divine feminine and masculine have come into balance when kundalini awakens and begins its ascension or just that the root chakra is balanced and any other chakras she ascends into and/or clears?
Hey Kristina, thank you for your love and so happy to hear that the article serves your spiritual growth! That’s a great question – when our Kundalini awakens, it typically means that our energy is moving up from the root to the crown chakra. When we speak out masculine + feminine energy, they start from the second chakra all the way to meet at the third eye. So Kundalini Awakening is the journey of self awareness and you can definitely see the two polar energies come in union when the energy moves up to your higher chakras ๐
As you are balanced with these two divine energies and able to heal, like wise your words and work are also natural healers……a big thank you!
Weโre all a work in progress, Komal, and thank you for the love ๐
I loved this article. Very insightful. Masculine Energy has been my dominant camp almost all my life. I am just starting to embrace my Feminine Energy & adopting it. It wasn’t a choice for me. It was me reaching the end of my rope and really unable to come-up with a plan for myself. I feared the camp of Feminine Energy, because I took pride in my strong will; I didn’t want to relinquish control of my life – I am a person of principles and I take pride in that; I thought it correlated with being careless, aimless, non-achiever with a “supposedly spiritual” excuse; and finally because it required trust and this needed construction. What I loved extra about your article is that it explained the state that I am currently in. This year I set the intention to “Surrender Completely to Divine Plan”. I am finding myself so thirsty to connecting more & more with my body. I am doing yoga, Qi-gong, dancing (all online & individually because of COVID ๐ and I am very grateful there are such channels). I feel this huge calling inside of me (or so I think) that I need to switch to an artistic career and I am so drawn to the idea of music (this is very new to me – I have no experience in that, or education, or connections, completely nothing) – but I am just content – very content with whatever is surfacing for me and I love it. I feel free for the first time in my life. Thank you. If you feel like giving me any word of advice, I really appreciate it in advance. Thank you.
Hey Molly!
Thank you so much for opening your heart and sharing about your journey – this vulnerability comes from your sacred feminine and she is blossoming!
I quit my corporate job a few years ago, for the same reasons you feel now – an inclination towards my higher calling. Simplest advice?
Take out some time every week towards your passion. And then let the Universe decide if itโs a full time thing for you or just one of the many ways in which you will be of service. ๐
Also, feel free to hop on a call, and we can chat ๐
https://calendly.com/myspiritualshenanigans/connect-with-vasundhra-gupta
Love,
V ๐
So interesting, thoughtful and deep ! My energy imbalance is mentally tiring.
Wrote down all the tips in my journal. Thank you !
Happy to be of service, Claudia! Happy healing ๐
This is all so very intriguing. At some point, I will have to take your course on chakrasโฆ i still remember your advice to walk barefoot in the grass.
Thank you for all of your work.
Thanks Kevin! I’d love to do the workshop with you – always an email away ๐
Love this!!! Truly I think that this is one of the most insightful posts I recently read. Thank you so much for putting down your thoughts and sharing this knowledge.
The complete article is fabulous!
I loved these points:
Enjoying giving gifts versus receiving gifts,
Being able to multitask versus being focused and single-pointed,
Being emotional versus being logical,
Leading projects and pursuing people, versus being lead or pursued,
Doing versus being,
And so on.
I learnt!
Thank you for such a kind comment, Stuti ๐
A very useful post, perfect for what i was looking for.. thank you. U have written it beautifully. Very neat and simple. Thanks again๐๐
Thanks for the feedback, Uma! So happy to hear that it helps ๐
Couldnโt skip a word, this post is so interesting and useful!
Thanks for sharing Vasu! Beautifully written ๐
I’m so grateful to hear that! Thank YOU ๐
Very Well written! It answers so many questions!
I’m so glad to hear that! Thanks for your comment, Chaitanya ๐
Thank You!! Vasundhra for such a wonderful post…It’s always a pleasure
Thank you Abu ๐
This is so beautiful! Loved reading this.
Thank you!
Amazingly written๐๐๐
Thank you ๐